Bottoms that don't get hard.

[JustMe891]

I have one for you guys- does anyone else get turned on by bottoms who stay flacid while getting fucked? I don't know why, but I LOVE seeing that. Love seeing a huge cock plow a tight little ass, love seeing the duality of a big erect cock fucking the hole of a bottom who's unerect cock looks tiny in comparison. It's even better when the bottom doesn't get himself off in the scene. It's all about the top and his dick plowing hole until he cums. Awesome.

I guess it's kind of personal for me. One of my occasional favorite things to do is service a guy and completely ignore myself in the process. Sometimes I even keep my clothes on, while I give total head-to-toe mouth service to a man until he shoots. So I guess it's the total submissive thing for me that gets me off.

Anyone else feel this way?

Think I know what you mean, very close to this side of rape?

 

[JakeJakeson]

Like someone said, I'd get hard in anticipation. Then, being the very submissive bottom that I am, as soon as I get grabbed or ordered around, there's going to be no getting soft after that.

 

[simple-kinda-guy3040]

Very interesting thread.... Very cool to see everyone's differing viewpoints... I am a top and I prefer the guy I am with to be hard during sex. But if he is not that's cool too.... As long as he is able to cum - that's what matters to me... For me it is a 50-50 thing... I want him to be there for my pleasure but I also want to be there to make him feel good - for me it's a shared experience and not a one-way street geared towards the top.... But that's just me and how I feel... To each his own I guess...

 

[CallMeHTD]

Think I know what you mean, very close to this side of rape?

Uh, I think "rape" is the wrong word. As a bottom, I sometimes get so into giving someone else pleasure that it's all-encompassing to the point you just completely forget about yourself. And that's something that the bottom is totally in control of.

 

[bnabottom]

Re activating this thread in hope of more comments.

I try not to get hard when I'm getting fucked--it is distracting and can make me cum too soon. And I also think it's hot to watch movies where guys stay soft...

 

[bnabottom]

Anyone else find this hot?

 

[jamie_01930]

each time i get fucked i stay soft. thought something was wrong with me. who knew

 

[conrad]

Good sex takes two and both should be keyed up with good erections. And, the best tops can trigger the ejaculation for the bottom with no assist from the bottom"s hand.

Anal sex is communicative sex. A top who is there for getting only his own satisfaction is not a lover but a user.

 

[WincMan]

As a top, I'm indifferent. The bottom can be either hard or soft. For me the critical issue is whether or not the bottom is enjoying himself. Enjoyment doesn't always mean ejaculation. When the bottom is soft, I will always attempt to bring him off after I've shot off. Some bottoms don't even want to ejaculate after a hard fuck - they prefer to simply experience the after glow of sex. I can go either way, but will always try to bring my partner off. If he doesn't want that then I'll stop and just cuddle him.

 

[radioian]

Im always soft when Im fucked--always have been.

 

[pwrbarboy]

I am not like that, for any sexual touch anywhere on my body and I have a woody for the duration.

Me too. I start getting hard just with kissing and touching. I'm usually rock hard before I even get my clothes off.

 

[evilgay]

wooooooooooow man you just make my day , yeah really that what i'm talking about it

the top who stop the bottom from touching himself and only make himself fuck and cum while the other stay in the horny phase

and my dream like guys said that when the top saying " my 11 inch dick is big enough for both of us , so no need to play with your thing "

maybe it is not normal sex , maybe it is master/slave relationship but i do believe it is very got

in fact i want to submit a request for video about that
thanks again

 

[Eclectic82]

It depends for me. Sometimes I'll get hard while I'm bottoming, sometimes not. Most times I'll stroke myself while I get used to the top's cock because it helps me relax and breathe deeper. Also, sometimes I'll stroke myself until I cum while I'm getting fucked, sometimes I won't. Sometimes I don't need to cum after getting fucked.

 

[CallMeHTD]

Yes, in theory you are right, but I think that very communication is also key in the decision that the bottom don't get hard or get off from sex. I was never suggesting that the bottom isn't entitled to an erection or orgasm, but was more interested in hearing from bottoms who don't get hard or get off during anal sex.

Like you said, anal sex is communicative sex, and it can be more of a transformative experience for the bottom to get fucked that getting off seems less-important than the goal of getting off the cock in your ass. And to be so focused on the cock going in and out of his ass, the cock that's making his ass hum and vibrate so wonderfully, that he doesn't want or need ejaculation afterwards.

It's a very profound feeling... to be so, SO in tune with the cock pounding your ass that it trumps any want or need to cum. As a bottom it's happened to me before. I have, indeed, been there myself.

I was also recently fucked by a bear couple, and I got off while one fucked my ass and the other slowly jerked my cock at the same time. That too was awesome.

My two cents... again.

Good sex takes two and both should be keyed up with good erections. And, the best tops can trigger the ejaculation for the bottom with no assist from the bottom"s hand.

Anal sex is communicative sex. A top who is there for getting only his own satisfaction is not a lover but a user.

 

[bnabottom]

Bumping this thread up because I think it's a really interesting topic--interested in hearing from other guys who don't think it's necessary to be hard when bottoming

 

[bigearz89]

few fingers and ill stay hard but once a guys cock is in me i loose all focus on that and go soft and focus on him being in me

 

[novaguy35]

Yeah, I love the whole submissive side of it too. It's one of my longstanding fantasies to have dominant partner who fucks me senseless on regular basis but prefers that I don't cum during or soon afterward.

I can imagine him saying things like "Why would you want to cum? Didn't I fuck you good enough?"

That's hot as hell and has me jerking my cock. I'm a Dom Top and love the idea of fucking a guy with a soft cock till I blow my load and then not having him cum. I've done that a few times with subs and found they tend to come back for more.

 

[zabien]

Usually I stay hard while getting topped....but it can depend on the chemistry sometimes.

 

[bnabottom]

Agree Nova--very hot