Bought a dildo, still can't stimulate my prostate.

[fuckari]

So I've been fingering myself for quite some time, and frustratingly enough I could never stimulate my prostate. Perhaps I may not have found it, but I know I felt it as I was about to cum. But anyway I decided to order a dildo and when I got it I was shocked/surprised to see how massive it was, the image on the website did not do it justice, but I was hoping for something a little smaller and discreet.

Anyway I'm a virgin and have never been penetrated before. But I KNOW 110% I'm a bottom with no desire to top. So it would depress me if for some reason my prostate just isn't sensitive enough. Today I got the hang of the dildo (which is 8 inches but the girth is massive) and I was surprised it wasn't as hurtful as I thought, but while I was watching porn my penis just kept flaccid and I couldn't feel anything sensitive.

Now am I doing something wrong? Is it because I'm a beginner and I started off with something incredibly large? Am I not hitting the prostate right? I get pleasure from the thought of being penetrated alone, but I need more. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

 

[LuckysRevenge]

I'd be interested in replies as well. I've gotten any pleasure whatsoever maybe once or twice for a minute and then it stopped when trying to finger myself or getting fucked.

 

[jamesblue]

look for a p(rostate) spot vibrator, it is more design for the job.

 

[Dashriprock3172]

Try aneros....it is awesome

 

[Seasoned]

I'm going to move this to HEALTH AND WELL-BEING as it, technically, doesn't belong here and it would be subjected to flaming in HOT TOPICS.

My orgasms have always been less powerful when I've been penetrated. I know. It doesn't sem to be the norm.

 

[KaraBulut]

...Now am I doing something wrong? Is it because I'm a beginner and I started off with something incredibly large? Am I not hitting the prostate right? I get pleasure from the thought of being penetrated alone, but I need more. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Well, you kinda picked the wrong tool for the job.

If you're looking to train because you haven't had the opportunity to try the real thing, then you need to find a dildo that is shaped like a real penis and is in the small-to-mid size range. For some reason, mail order and online catalogs- especially those who market to straight people- seem to feature oversized dildos. Oversized dildos aren't really where you want to start for anal training.

If you're looking to train to take larger penises, buy a butt plug. Some companies have started to sell butt plugs as sets- small, average and big.

If you're wanting to stimulate your prostate (which is a more advanced thing), then a prostate simulator (Aneros is a brand of prostate stimulatory).

 

[cocksucker4use]

Ok, so perhaps you could back up. Get a small vibrator. Start by stimulating you taint and hole while your jackin. Have the opportunity to stay hard (I lose it once I am penetrated, too). Hard and jerkin, rub your taint, ass, balls with the vibrator. Kneel and jerk and rub yer junk....rub it around your ass....you should feel something a HOLE lot more than just jerkin. I would try something small and don't even turn the vibrate feature on the first few times.....get used to having it up there, and again jerk along with it....when you cum, your ass should be spasming and clampin down on anything in your ass....progress from there. If all else fails, find an experienced top (aka, dildo with a pulse...and tongue...), and that may do the trick....WOOF.

 

[fuckari]

I'm going to move this to HEALTH AND WELL-BEING as it, technically, doesn't belong here and it would be subjected to flaming in HOT TOPICS.

Sorry about that! I was unsure which section to put this one, so I went with what I thought. Alas I am still new.

Well, you kinda picked the wrong tool for the job.

If you're looking to train because you haven't had the opportunity to try the real thing, then you need to find a dildo that is shaped like a real penis and is in the small-to-mid size range. For some reason, mail order and online catalogs- especially those who market to straight people- seem to feature oversized dildos. Oversized dildos aren't really where you want to start for anal training.

If you're looking to train to take larger penises, buy a butt plug. Some companies have started to sell butt plugs as sets- small, average and big.

If you're wanting to stimulate your prostate (which is a more advanced thing), then a prostate simulator (Aneros is a brand of prostate stimulatory).

Right. I might start saving up for a realistic and more discreet dildo I'm not keen yet for a stimulator or a butt plug. I enjoy didlos because they look like the real thing, and I can suck it and play with it. I get more out of it that way. But thanks for the tips!

Ok, so perhaps you could back up. Get a small vibrator. Start by stimulating you taint and hole while your jackin. Have the opportunity to stay hard (I lose it once I am penetrated, too). Hard and jerkin, rub your taint, ass, balls with the vibrator. Kneel and jerk and rub yer junk....rub it around your ass....you should feel something a HOLE lot more than just jerkin. I would try something small and don't even turn the vibrate feature on the first few times.....get used to having it up there, and again jerk along with it....when you cum, your ass should be spasming and clampin down on anything in your ass....progress from there. If all else fails, find an experienced top (aka, dildo with a pulse...and tongue...), and that may do the trick....WOOF.

I guess it's normal to lose the erection once penetrated. But I'm practising. And I like this advice thanks! Although I am still looking for that experienced top even though I've had many come up to me...but I'm picky!

 

[borg69unimatrix]

A big part of sex is mental/emotional along with the physical. If your heads not in the game, your body isn't going to follow suit either. Perhaps it's like trying to tickle yourself? You've said you've no interest in topping... Right now you're basically topping yourself and bored with it because you've no interest - even if half of you is bottoming. Make sense?

As a bottom half the excitement is knowing you're pleasing your partner, not knowing what he's going to do to you, and getting off knowing he's reacting to your body. You gotta get your head in the game.

 

[KaraBulut]

Right. I might start saving up for a realistic and more discreet dildo. I'm not keen yet for a stimulator or a butt plug. I enjoy didlos because they look like the real thing, and I can suck it and play with it. I get more out of it that way. But thanks for the tips!

Well, you could always buy one toy for your butt and another to suck on while you fuck yourself with the other toy.

 

[tabby82]

Get the aneros or a butt plug and train your hole. The aneros is designed for prostate stimulation and it is awesome. Just take it slow, I have had some incredible orgasms with this one...

Well, you could always buy one toy for your butt and another to suck on while you fuck yourself with the other toy.

This is what he needs to do. I love my butt plug and cannot get off without it. I often suck and play with my dildo during a solo session, beautiful!

 

[bigbootylatino]

I can totally relate. I bought a dildo that had a vibrator function online. The ad did not do justice to the size of this thing. It was big for 8inches and the girth was pretty wide. Didn't know how I could possibly take this on (Im fairly inexperienced as a bottom. My last time was years ago and have never had a real one this big unfortunately).

First couple of times was kind of painful. It really required some advanced planning through the day. Making sure I was clean and hydrated thru the day and trying to "loosen" up. Getting mentally into it and staying well lubricated are important. Obviously you gotta know where your prostate is.

Once I got all of this together, the orgasms have been great. I've managed to get anal orgasms from this, which are amazing. Usually this happens after toying myself for a while, with fast and slow and deep strokes. At a certain point I play with the vibrator and in the end I just explode. Keep at it.

 

[DoctorTwink]

Some men just don't enjoy prostate stimulation or enjoy things inserted up there. There's nothing wrong with this. I happen to be this way.