Boy i met online

[billybob109]

So i met a boy online just for a one night hookup through craigslist which took me over a month for me to finally meet him becauase we have been talking on aol for a lil while. I went to his house and i thought he was really cute the second i saw him. So i face fucked him because he enjoys that but i could not cum. Afterward i got him off i left and when i got home that same night he texted me and we talked on AIM for a lil while and he really wanted to meet again. So i kept on calling him a few days after to which he never responded. Than i called him from my work number to which he picked up his phone and he told me that he did not want to have a b/f during the summer and that all he wanted to do it have fun and that is why he was avoiding me. So we agreed to just keep it friends with benefits. Weve only met up a handfull of times in the span of a few months,since than and out of those times i could not cum while fucking his face. We talked on the phone and texted each other all day long. I really like this boy but from what he is saying he thought it was getting too serious and that i reminded him too much of his ex which they did drugs and smoked weed togethor. So i saw a posting on CL one day while browsing to which i knew it was him so i responded with a fake pic and a different email account so i could 'catch' him to which i was right and i called him out on it in an all out rage through an email. I also told him that i fucked a few people that week which is true, and i did cum everytime (which i did not mention to him) and i was really upset that he wanted to fuck anyone too in site. Now he is toally avoiding me at all costs. He does not respond to any of my phone calls or texts etc.. But when i called him restricted he picked up the phone. Ive caught him a few times on aol and he keeps on claiming that his phone does not receive my calls which are 21 over 14 days to which i hardly believe and that he never received any of my text message from me. The other night i was yelling at him over the phone when he finally picked up the phone after calling him like 7 times in a row. I was yelling at him saying why is he avoiding me and why would he not want to hang out it just makes no fucking sense to totally avoid me like i dont even exist. I need help; what to with this boy...

 

[Homothug]

1st of all there is a thing called paragraphs please use them.

2nd. He told you he didn't want a boyfriend and you agreed. So why are you giving him shit for trying to fuck other guys especially when you are fucking other guys.

3rd You pulled a scheme to "catch" your fuck buddy on CL like he was your boyfriend(when he's not), called him out in rage and then told you fucked other people too, and you are shocked he is avoiding you???

He's avoiding you because you are acting like his insecure boyfriend when he doesn't even want a boyfriend period.

The thing is you prbably will never find a guy as cool as him on craigslist so I hope you savored your relationship(or lack there of) with him, or the few people you fucked that week are not avoiding you like the boy you like did.

 

[billybob109]

1. He was playing alot of mind games by calling me his man and his baby and talking about the house he would want to have and the kids names.
2. I wanted to make sure that was him on CL, He would call me on his vacation and i called him during my vacation joking around he said that i would not leave him for someone else down there.
3. he has been avoiding me way before i 'caught' him.
4. he does alot of cocaine, X and smokes alot of weed with people he should be hanging around which i always told him not to do.

1st of all there is a thing called paragraphs please use them.

2nd. He told you he didn't want a boyfriend and you agreed. So why are you giving him shit for trying to fuck other guys especially when you are fucking other guys.

3rd You pulled a scheme to "catch" your fuck buddy on CL like he was your boyfriend(when he's not), called him out in rage and then told you fucked other people too, and you are shocked he is avoiding you???

He's avoiding you because you are acting like his insecure boyfriend when he doesn't even want a boyfriend period.

The thing is you prbably will never find a guy as cool as him on craigslist so I hope you savored your relationship(or lack there of) with him, or the few people you fucked that week are not avoiding you like the boy you like did.

 

[chillyboi]

Cool off, he might come around

 

[Homothug]

1. He was playing alot of mind games by calling me his man and his baby and talking about the house he would want to have and the kids names.
2. I wanted to make sure that was him on CL, He would call me on his vacation and i called him during my vacation joking around he said that i would not leave him for someone else down there.
3. he has been avoiding me way before i 'caught' him.
4. he does alot of cocaine, X and smokes alot of weed with people he should be hanging around which i always told him not to do.

He still told you he doesn't want a boyfriend for the summer even if he says all of that, that doesn't mean he wants to be your boyfriend.

And if he's playing mind games why would you still fuck wit him

Guys don't like guys(or girls) who becomes too attached especially when they tell them "I do not want to be your boyfriend"

Again your not his boyfriend and you "told" him to not hang arroung with his friends(which he probably knew better and longer then you) like you are his boyfriend

Him doing drugs has nothing to do with you unless yall are boyfriends and must I repeat the obvious again??

Again look at your situation form his point of view and if you can't do that then look at it from a 3rd person perspective and you will find plenty of valid reasons why he is blowing you off???

 

[billybob109]

Wow it sounds like you almost know him lol I'm just going to stop caling him and forget about it. I don't like druggies anyway

He still told you he doesn't want a boyfriend for the summer even if he says all of that, that doesn't mean he wants to be your boyfriend.

And if he's playing mind games why would you still fuck wit him

Guys don't like guys(or girls) who becomes too attached especially when they tell them "I do not want to be your boyfriend"

Again your not his boyfriend and you "told" him to not hang arroung with his friends(which he probably knew better and longer then you) like you are his boyfriend

Him doing drugs has nothing to do with you unless yall are boyfriends and must I repeat the obvious again??

Again look at your situation form his point of view and if you can't do that then look at it from a 3rd person perspective and you will find plenty of valid reasons why he is blowing you off???

 

[youngnihilist]

christ, leave the poor guy alone...its just sex.

 

[Just_Believe18]

You and this guy have maturity issues.

You are obsessing over a guy you know has played you.

Then you played him and expect him to be fine and talk to you afterwards.

Both of you are unhealthy towards each other. Please move on. There's no reason to still know this guy so stop messaging him.

 

[billybob109]

Its not like we are playing each other he posts ads everyday on craigslist looking for poeple to fuck his throat even when i told him over the phone he denied it when he even sent me a picture of himself over my fake email account i mean how fucked up is that. And the day after i called him he even said it is what it is.. so i mean he is like a skitzo not even knowing what he does or something its really weird. and i know for damn sure he hooked up with people at P town when he visited. So you are saying its not okay for me to tell him that i hooked up with people myself? WTF! Im going to delete every contact of him so i can not messag ever him again. fuck that shit im sick of the games. Thanks for the advice guys.. i am a human being im alot to mess up once in a while

You and this guy have maturity issues.

You are obsessing over a guy you know has played you.

Then you played him and expect him to be fine and talk to you afterwards.

Both of you are unhealthy towards each other. Please move on. There's no reason to still know this guy so stop messaging him.

 

[KaraBulut]

OK. Take a deep breath and step back from this for a moment.

This guy played a game to get what he wanted- a hookup with no strings.

You liked him more than you wanted and you played along with his wishes.

Now he's wanting to move on and you're pushing harder instead of just backing off and moving on, too.

You've listed a lot of reasons why you don't want to be with him. This probably wouldn't be an issue if you had dumped him and not the other way around. And there's been recurring themes with you in the past of chasing after guys that who played hard to get...

So, why is it so hard for you to let this go, stop the calls and semi-stalking and find a guy who wants your attention?

 

[billybob109]

yes thank you for that i needed to hear this from more people. even my friends are saying he is a dick and yet he makes me look bad in front of his friends who i have never met. He makes crazy money but yet only has a dollar to his name. I think he does more coke than i really thought which i do not like at all! Ive totally deleted everything having to do with him. Anyway i was planning on moving to FL in a year so regardless it would not have worked out. b/c all he wants to do is blow lines and smoke weed all day in yonkers so whatever.. good bye, he could not make me cum anyway so i guess it works out

OK. Take a deep breath and step back from this for a moment.

This guy played a game to get what he wanted- a hookup with no strings.

You liked him more than you wanted and you played along with his wishes.

Now he's wanting to move on and you're pushing harder instead of just backing off and moving on, too.

You've listed a lot of reasons why you don't want to be with him. This probably wouldn't be an issue if you had dumped him and not the other way around. And there's been recurring themes with you in the past of chasing after guys that who played hard to get...

So, why is it so hard for you to let this go, stop the calls and semi-stalking and find a guy who wants your attention?

 

[looseliam]

I'd forget him and move along.

No offence, but you fall into the "creepy psycho" category for your actions.

It's craigslist - not e-Harmony

Cool off, he might come around

I highly doubt so. There are people I dont' talk to because of this kinda stuff.

 

[billybob109]

He also told me the reason he was ignoring me was that he did not want to fall for someone. He said he did not expect someone like me to show up at his house when all he wanted was a face fuck that night. That he could text me all the time and sometimes I would ignore his calls cause he was just getting kind of clingy. He would even tell me to prepare myself for his drunken and high phone calls nd texts all night because that is what he would do which I enjoyed lol. now we both just messed things up big time. I'm over it I can't take it anymore for a while I thought it could of worked out but now I realize that all he wants to do is smoke weed with his girl friends. I'm sure ill be getting a phone call over the winter when his summer fun is over.

 

[looseliam]

He's telling you no; how is it you keep hearing maybe?

 

[billybob109]

I'm not a creepy psycho I just want some damn answers. And he has called me before like a hundred times in a row wheb I have not picked up. He has even put his friends on the phone and having them telling me what is wrong with me for not hanging out with him more.

I'd forget him and move along.

No offence, but you fall into the "creepy psycho" category for your actions.

It's craigslist - not e-Harmony


I highly doubt so. There are people I dont' talk to because of this kinda stuff.

 

[looseliam]

Sorry, I'm not saying you are creepy and psycho, but your actions fall into that category.

If there is to be something, let him lead.

But in the grand scheme of things, sorry to say, you're not entitled to answers. He's a fuck budy, not a boyfriend.

 

[ridinghorses1]

^What they said. He's not committed to you, I don't know why you're upset. I don't blame him for trying to ignore you. People go on CL mostly for hookup, not b/fs, so why not try a more relationship themed site?

 

[Attack]

You should be glad your not dead in the water or cut up into pieces left to rot in some rusty car down by the river after hooking up on craigs list.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Really, all you had to say at the beginning of this thread was "he does coke" and we could have told you to move on. That's a deal breaker regardless of anything else you could have possibly said.