Boyfriend advice needed

[iman]

Of course, one can forgive a guy almost anything if he is good in bed. Therefore, I must conclude that your annoyance is a symptom of a more basic problem. Time to trade him in for a newer model.

 

[spooger]

My bf did the same to me! But I didn't complain.

I thanked him profusely for the (incomplete) show of attention, and scolded him that if he persisted in facing the mug handle in such a manner that I could not properly access it....

he would from then on be required to sip my coffee (come on...I live in south Louisiana) for me and ever so affectionately pass it to my waiting mouth via a passionate deep kiss...

Ahhhhhh....good to the last drop!

and the way he frothed the cream!...drove me wild...and I gave him the tongue thrashing he deserved...while recovering every delicious drop!

I think your bf is begging for the same lesson

 

[PieRules]

The horror! How uncouth that man must be to ignore the finer details on serving tea to one's mate. First it's the mug and then next thing you know, it's the toilet seat being left down and then...oh God, I can't imagine what other horrors and attrocities that lurk around the corner. Is it another man? Or worse yet a woman! *Gasps*. Maybe he wants a three-some? Oh my, the possibilities are endless! ENDLESS I TELL YOU!

^Agreed with everyone. You must be proactive and get to the bottom of this. Maybe it's a subtle hints that not all is well in the relationship. I hope not.

Here's a hug for some support .

 

[Inwood]

Or a fork. More puncture wounds.

 

[mega]

For gods sake, get out that relationship now before its too late!! The next thing you know he'll start over cooking your eggs and mixing your colours and whites! This kind of abuse always escalates, you may want to find a safe house, and you should get a restraining order. Do it before it's too late!!

 

[FREDDIE187]

I am sorry to say but I also see he is trying to send you a message and it is a bad one.

Obvously when you reach over to turn the mug around, you momentarily turn your back to him. For him it simbolizes your back disappearing as you exit his life.

Sorry about the bad news. To me it is clear, get out as soon as possible.

 

[Centexfarmer]

I disagree with the majority here. "I" think this is his subtle way of signalling to you that there is an issue in the relationship. It's his way of telling you that he's feeling 'distant' from you, much like the handle of the mug is too distant for you to reach and therefore find satisfaction in the appropriating of the mug and thus being able to bring it to your lips and enjoy the tea therein, he's finding himself distant from you and thus unable to find satisfaction in your relationship.

The two of you need to REALLY take some time to sit down and talk. Discuss what's bothering him and what steps you can take to alleviate and HEAL your relationship beFORE it's too late.

I know, I know, you said that you've got your back up due to the 'incident' but you MUST unbend. SOMEone has to be able to be flexible in this situation and SURELY it wouldn't kill you to 'thaw' a little before it's completely irreparible.

I believe in you Ben. I think you CAN do this, or the sake of your realtionship. If you truly LOVE this man, FLEX!

Do it toDAY!

I agree with The_Pianist here.

Perhaps he's actually being considerate.

If the mug is to hot to hold by the handle then it's too hot to drink. Perhaps he wants you to check the temp before reaching to grab to the handle.

 

[Inwood]

The sooner you get back to drinking your tea from the proper vessel the better, perhaps the Royal Doulton with the Blue Periwinkle!

After you find out what our Rose did with the Royal Doulton last night with her gentleman caller, you might not want to drink from it any longer.

 

[looseliam]

After you find out what our Rose did with the Royal Doulton last night with her gentleman caller, you might not want to drink from it any longer.

Aww man; is there nothing sacred anymore?

 

[FirePhoenix]

Next time he tries to give you the mug like that you turn it around hold it and then throw it at his head and then run for your life. He wants to kill you get out of there NOW.

 

[dw8038r2]

Seriously, Ben, I would escape the first chance you get and go to a shelter. Most victims of domestic abuse delude themselves into believing that things are okay, that everything is under control--"Sure, he hits me a bit, but he's a fabulous dancer," "Yeah, he doesn't have a job and he comes in at all hours smelling of strange body sprays, but he's got a great motorcycle," "I admit he turns my mug the wrong way, but he really, really loves me." Bzzzzt! Wrong! On all counts. Get to a safe house immediately.

And don't argue that there are no shelters in your part of the country. I remember all those Greenpeacers running around in "Save the Whales" tee-shirts in the 70s, so they must have built a lot of shelters in Whales to save them in. Check with your local hotline, consult your physician, or speak with your priest, imam, shaman, or other spiritual advisor.

Now!

Remember what happened to Ben in the movie of the same name? Well, your nearest and dearest here at JUB sure as hell don't want Michael Jackson writing a song about you.

 

[Rand]

I would ditch any man that brought me a cup of tea. Filthy habit that tea-drinking. First he got you hooked to tea, now he is trying to force you to exercise your wrist.

I agree with all the above, you would be better off living alone, doing everything yourself so that it gets done right. We all know that there is Ben's way and the wrong way, so don't allow him to lower the standards of your house any longer. Tell Earl Grey to get the heck out of there.

 

[BenF]

Well thank you very much!!

I woke him at six this morning because I was thirsty and sent him down to sort out a cup of coffee for me. As I waited for him to return, I thought about what you guys said.

I must have fallen back to sleep, but when I woke up, there was a cup of coffee next to me.

It was facing the wrong way - again.

Well, I just had to say something; I accused him of not thinking about me, I said it was a symbolism of the distance between us, how it was a metaphor for him looking elsewhere.

He told me I was talking nonsense. He started to cry and told me to make the fucking coffee myself, after getting dressed and packing his bag, he got in his car and left. I haven't seen him since.

So thank you VERY much, that's the last time I listen to you lot.

Bloody do gooders!

 

[GL]

What the hell did you expect? This was all FREE advice!

The next time you want QUALITY free advice, watch Oprah.

Bloody stupid doctor and his stupid cheating boyfriend. The nerve of that guy! I mean really!

 

[metta]

Ben, I'm sorry to hear about your relationship troubles. Maybe it is for the best that it worked out the that it has. Just taking that kind of abuse, day in, day out, it's just not healthy.

Hop over to the other side of the pond and I will take you to Disneyland.

 

[Inwood]

So thank you VERY much, that's the last time I listen to you lot.

Bloody do gooders!

That's what you get for listening to advice on an internet message board!

 

[sheep]

Were there any other subtle signs? Squeezing the toothpaste tube in the center? Poached eggs too runny? Toast still warm? Him using your razor?
I shouldn't offer any suggestions cos I don't know you both but my gut reaction is I'm glad he left. These things always escalate. I would suggest you move and leave no forwarding address. Obtain an unlisted telephone number as well. These people are often stalkers. If he comes there again, shoot or stab him before he does it to you.

 

[PieRules]

Oh, the boyfriend is just creating some unecessary drama.

Really, he's waiting for the obligatory and expected phone call from Ben asking how he is doing and if everything is alright after his hissy fit. I'm sure the boyfriend has the cell phone on vibrate, located conveniently near the front pocket of his pants, and will excitedly jump at the first sign of a call from Ben, waiting for a heart-felt apology.

Tears and sobs of sadness will ensue, and maybe a possible guilt trip, until he hears from the other end the words "I miss you and I'm sorry."

Then he will rush back home for some hot passionate make up sex. After he realizes how good he's had it and afterwards, he will vow to pay more attention to the position of the mug handle.

If no sobbing occurs or he doesn't pick up, ooh, he's been cheating on the side and you should be glad you realized this early enough in the relationship.

The question is, will you give him that phone call giving that apology. Tun, tun, tun.

 

[mega]

Oh that was good! Well, now that we've destroyed ben's relationship, what do you guys want to do now?

 

[Inwood]

Oh that was good! Well, now that we've destroyed ben's relationship, what do you guys want to do now?

Let's out a politician!