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Boyfriend doesn't like head

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Everytime I go down there he pulls my head away.
He told me he "doesn't like the feeling"......
He said said he likes being in control and loves giving them.
We haven't gotten to anal yet so I can pretty much only jack him off.
I wanna make him go crazy!

Has anyone heard of anything like this before and do you think I can remedy it?
 
He likes being in control.

Yet jacking him off works for him?

More here than meets the eye.

I'd move on to anal as quickly as possible if I were you.

Obviously, you're going to have to be the bottom?
 
i dont really like being blown either. just doesnt do it for me.

i dont see the problem, unless you really like givng head, in which case you appear to be incompatible.
 
The same here... I just don't enjoy receiving it. J/O is something totally different.
If that's the only problem, no need to worry, I guess. Unless - as x-cess mentioned - you are really into giving a head.
 
In my experience, most guys think they're AWESOME at it....and they're really not. Have you had this reaction from other guys? Every guy's preference is different (slow 'n' steady wins the race for me), and some men prefer no oral at all.

It happens.

I think a common mistake guys make when giving head is not communicating with their sex partner about what feels good and what doesn't. It's also funny how he says that "he likes being in control" as the giver in the situation. It's usually the one receiving that is perceived as being the one pulling the strings.
 
Modernaire,
You are approaching part of the truth. The terrible truth is that in general all men gay, bi or straight are poor communicators. My sad news is that it will not change overnight. But if you love someone start to communicate about many more things in your relationship. You will then find, hopefully, a part to communication about making love to one another, and what works for you as partners.

Case in point, when I was young, I was sexually abused by an adult male. The fallout from that was that when I realized I was gay, I had some deep felt anxiety about some gay sexual activity, and it took me the better part of twenty-three years to work through it and to communicate well.

How will you know if anal sex or any kind of sex is open to either one of you unless you are willing to talk openly about it. What is all this time you have not raised the subject only to find there have been some real interesting things you could already be enjoying with each other. Talk. Talk. Talk to each other.

Shep+
 
Tell him you like being in control too, and you like sharing control with him, and he has to learn to relax.

Then tell him he doesn't have to cum that way, but you want a dick in your mouth for a few minutes, and then he can rest assured that you will willingly move on to some other position that he is more comfortable with. You don't need to freak him out, just nudge him along the path to a more equal and mutually fulfilling relationship.

The problem here is not that he dislikes it, but that he has control issues. Some people actually look for that in a relationship, and they seek out the whole "top/bottom, submissive/dominant" thing, but I think that is nuts. And unattractive.

If you do too, then gently tell him he doesn't need to be in control all the time, and that you get to push his boundaries too a little bit.
 
Anyone who doesn't like having their dick sucked just hasn't had good head yet.
 
Not every guy likes getting their dick sucked. Some guys are too sensitive, some like to always be in control, and yeah the guy giving head may not be doing it right.
 
I had a bf that didn't like me to give him head either and very briefly went down on me.

His ass, on the other hand was very hot and he wanted me to top him ALL the time.
 
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