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boyfriend got this tattoo

didnt we just have this discussion last week?

am i right, or am i just having wicked bad dejavu?
 
Patrick, does he treat you right? Does he love you to bits? Do you love him enough to overlook the tatoo? That's what's really important.

He's a looker, and he will still be, with or without the tatoo.

If you love what's inside that body (his heart and soul), then it really doesn't matter what is on the outside. It really is true that looks are skin deep....

And it's a shamrock...(You've got to love Irish boys....they are soooooo sexy), not some one's name, or something outrageous.

Ronboy's advice.....get into bed with him, and show him how much you love him...
 
The way the tattoo looks, I get the sense that hes Irish (shamrock, with the Irish knotting) and Im sure it means a lot to him. Personally, I dont think its something to break-up over, but thats me...may be different for you. Im sure there will be something you do he doesnt fully approve of either. I guess thats just part of a relationship.
Best wishes :-)
 
Well first the tats really cool, and opening a doorway here by saying that I don't think that just because your BF doesn't want you to do something should make it to where one shouldn't get what they want. If I want my ears peirced and he doesn't and I get them done that in no way shows that I don't repsect him, just that it's what I want but he didn't, you could always open the door and exit. I in no way would want anyone telling me that I could not do something to my body just because they didn't like it. As said before it's his body,not yours. Yes you may have to look at it from time to time, but it's not that bad, and if you would leave someone that looks like that, it's your loss. Now, on the other hand if he made some big major purchase that affected you both financially, I could see the reason for being upset. But a tatoo, come on!
 
Pat:

Careful about giving ultimatums!

It's his bod and a beautiful one too......

I am NOT a fan of 'tats' either; but what can you do?

If you love him, give him some room and learn to love the shamrock too! lol

"Love means never having to say NO to tatoos"! lol(*8*) :kiss:
 
patrickthesaint said:
it's on his lower abdomen. i don't think there are any photos where you can see it. it's another celtic symbol, but smaller and all black.

i never said i was going to break up over this, however, it is an important stumbling block. do i really want to be with someone who keeps getting tattoos to the point its unattractive--and ignorant of my opinion? that's the crux of this.

it is his body (and it looks good), but this is a relationship.
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i understand you're upset that he got the tattoos. however, the tattoo on his back is tastefully done in my opinion, reflective of his heritage too i assume? unless it slipped my vision, those 2 are the only tattoos he has?

i dont think it's going to be a slippery-slope situation that he'll eventually cover himself in it. had he wanted to do that, he would've already done more drastic designs and done so already. has he talked about getting more? if so, then you can sit him down for a little chat. yes, it IS his body, however, you wouldn't want to make love to a body that you can't find attractive. it's easy to get confrontational about this topic, so, just be mindful.

and bottom line, you're in a relationship together for a reason. you know the best way to get him to understand your point of view. good luck bro! ..|
 
Patrick, two tatoos isn't clutter. And if he wants to get the one on the lower back, it probably still won't be clutter. Just from reading what his other tatoo is (the celtic knot), it sounds to me that this is his way of expressing his ethnic pride.

Like I said before, what's on the outside shouldn't make any difference on what is inside of him. He loves you. You love him. You'll work it out because you both love each other. You can express your thoughts to him, afterall he is your boyfriend. But just be understanding and patient if he doesn't see eye to eye with you.
 
1) that tatoo is ugly......

2) a relationship is based on communication , trust and a good balance of what you like and what he likes. Sometimes you have to bend to his wishes, sometimes he has to do what you ask him to do. This is a relationship.
I find it absurd that he went to have that ugly tatoo done, after you asked him not to do it, without any notice. Where is the trust and the communication between the two of you?
Now he just had a new tatoo without telling you anything, tomorrow what he will do without asking you anything?

Alright, you should love him and be supportive of his wishes, but only you? what about him? Shoudln't he love you too and respect your wishes?
 
I just read the description of the tattoo image:
"Finally got it! It didn't hurt, but i have to rub a cream on it for two weeks. patrick won't do it....but somebody has too. "
Isn't it selfish?
He got the tatto without telling you anything and now you are supposed to rub a cream on it for 2 weeks?
He doesn't show any kind of respect for your persona as his partner.
 
^He does. :D
surge said:
Actually I think it would be selfish of the poster if he got mad and broke up with him just for getting a tattoo. He does deserve his freedom. It doesn't mean you become slaves for eachother once you get in a relationship. You shouldn't judge him on his looks either. You said by looking at his pictures he looks like he's the type to cheat and be rude when you don't know anything about him yet. He may be a nice and caring guy.
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I used intuition, which turned out to be correct. I never said he looks like he cheats and is rude. He actually seems like a very caring guy when he wants to be.

It's not a deal breaker on it's own, but if it's one of a number of many such incidents then the relationship does need reevaluating.
 
The tat looks awesome! Thats a pretty lame excuse to break up over...I mean just cause your a couple, doesn't mean he is dead...you each have your own personalities...its the experience of eachother that makes things so great.
 
I agree, he looks hot as he it. Hopefully he doesn't end up covered in tattoos and piercings.
How old is he by the way? Could this be some sort of midlife or identity crisis?
 
he went and got a tatoo??!!! How could he hurt your feelings like that, insensitive bastard! dump him baby dump him yesterday!!!! infact give me his fone number so I can tell him waht a low life he is myself, give him (i mean it) to me honey !
 
Sorry, finally bit the bait and clicked on this tattoo thread. I agree with most people here, it's his body, it's his choice. Even if you don't find that tattoo or any attractive, you are basing the future of your relationship purely on aesthetics. I think that's shallow, but what do I know?

PS- I think the tattoo is "okay"...
 
Allow me to take a different stand on the matter and ask this:
How did you express your feelings on the tattoos and piercings?
Perhaps you haven't communicated your feelings on the matter effectively enough for him.
IF you're concern is about him ignoring your feelings, then that's something you have to discuss with him.
If you're just concerned about his choice in tattoos (still stand by my comment on that) then, that can be resolved easily too.
 
Haven't you only been together for six months? That doesn't seem like long enough for him to need to ask first. He should probably mention his mods before getting them, just as a heads up, but he doesn't need permission. Unless you have some sort of agreement set up?
 
No reason to break up with him but i'd take him to get it removed cuz it's an ugly thing!
 
Definately not a good reason to break up with him (He's pretty hot anyway.)

But it seems you feel so strongly set on it being hideous that it will probably end up changing the relationship some how. It might not be the best looking tattoo ever ,but if he likes it shouldn't you just be happy that he's happy?
 
patrickthesaint said:
that's him in the other photos. i guess y'all are right...it just takes some getting used to
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and here I thought that the shamrock was linked to you being Patrick the Saint - - as if he were telling the world that he was yours
 
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