I read your entire post. First of all I want to say that that wasn't easy. Although I empathize greatly and want to respond seriously to you post, I also think you went off on something of a rant without bothering to check whether your story was in any way coherent. In many places I couldn't make sense of it. You often times seem to come off as simply blowing off steam, which is ok, but it can make for tiresome reading if it doesn't contribute to us understanding your problem. Also, if you're trying to explain why some girl is acting in an inappropriate manner, don't go overboard. That whole "fake birthday" business, for example, is just you being nasty.
That being said, it is clear this girl does not like you and sees you as interfering with her friendship with your boyfriend. In some sense she is right, because she had him all for herself before you came back into his life. However, I do agree that her behaviour is childish and highly inappropriate.
So why is she acting this way? Well, on one extreme end: she may be in love with him. It may also be the case, that they talked quite extensively about your breakup and that the both of them said some nasty things about you. It's not uncommon, especially for young people, to blame it all on the 'evil ex'. Now that you're back together, she may be trying to prevent him from making the same 'mistake' again. He may actually have contributed to her seeing it that way - I at least would not be surprised if he did.
Well, your boyfriend does need to grow a pair of balls and call her on her shit. He shouldn't accept that kind of abuse (because that's what her texts, threats, clingy behaviour etc. amounts to) from anyone. Also, when she is blatantly ignoring you in front of him and lying about your conduct to him, this is something he should confront her with. The problem, however, is that he's only 19 and probably not used to deal with issues in such a head-on/face-to-face fashion. You need to let him know you understand this. But you also need to be firm about what you believe, and that is that her behaviour is unacceptable and interfering with your love life.
That being said, it is clear this girl does not like you and sees you as interfering with her friendship with your boyfriend. In some sense she is right, because she had him all for herself before you came back into his life. However, I do agree that her behaviour is childish and highly inappropriate.
So why is she acting this way? Well, on one extreme end: she may be in love with him. It may also be the case, that they talked quite extensively about your breakup and that the both of them said some nasty things about you. It's not uncommon, especially for young people, to blame it all on the 'evil ex'. Now that you're back together, she may be trying to prevent him from making the same 'mistake' again. He may actually have contributed to her seeing it that way - I at least would not be surprised if he did.
Well, your boyfriend does need to grow a pair of balls and call her on her shit. He shouldn't accept that kind of abuse (because that's what her texts, threats, clingy behaviour etc. amounts to) from anyone. Also, when she is blatantly ignoring you in front of him and lying about your conduct to him, this is something he should confront her with. The problem, however, is that he's only 19 and probably not used to deal with issues in such a head-on/face-to-face fashion. You need to let him know you understand this. But you also need to be firm about what you believe, and that is that her behaviour is unacceptable and interfering with your love life.
