Brian Smith
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Dude, don't keep things from your boyfriend. The question is, do you trust him not to judge you for having wants? Look, ask him if it would help if you washed there with Hibiclens (an antibacterial agent) or something: that would be a good way to approach it a little obliquely.
I am also with a silver, and we both started out with libidos that were disproportionate for our ages. I barely wanted to have sex at all. I just wanted to cuddle a lot, and I had all the sex drive of a eunuch. I would often inadvertently start something in bed, and then I would seem to lose interest, leaving him with lover's nuts, which I did not know about until he told me.
We talked to each other. I felt that he was being too demanding, and he was taking things to be sexual signals when I really just wanted to cuddle and feel close to him. He did not know that until I explained it to him. However, I had to learn that he has a very sensitive libido and is easily aroused, so I had to learn to be less provocative with him. He had to come to grips with the fact that I was going to lose my mind if we went on having sex six times daily (with him at 70 years old).
It has been two years now, and we have adjusted to each other, both in our habits and in our physiological reactions. If we had not talked about it, though, we would have continued getting into fights (about everything but sex), and we would have continued to go through the day feeling dissatisfied and cheated. Having the presence of mind to talk about these things saved our relationship.
I am also with a silver, and we both started out with libidos that were disproportionate for our ages. I barely wanted to have sex at all. I just wanted to cuddle a lot, and I had all the sex drive of a eunuch. I would often inadvertently start something in bed, and then I would seem to lose interest, leaving him with lover's nuts, which I did not know about until he told me.
We talked to each other. I felt that he was being too demanding, and he was taking things to be sexual signals when I really just wanted to cuddle and feel close to him. He did not know that until I explained it to him. However, I had to learn that he has a very sensitive libido and is easily aroused, so I had to learn to be less provocative with him. He had to come to grips with the fact that I was going to lose my mind if we went on having sex six times daily (with him at 70 years old).
It has been two years now, and we have adjusted to each other, both in our habits and in our physiological reactions. If we had not talked about it, though, we would have continued getting into fights (about everything but sex), and we would have continued to go through the day feeling dissatisfied and cheated. Having the presence of mind to talk about these things saved our relationship.