Boyfriend not that into my body?

[youngnihilist]

If I were in your situation, I'd use him (hey, he has a hot body right?) but not get unrealistic expectations. Wouldn't see him as a bf or romantic partner or someone to care and love for. Just sex. That's what it is.

 

[Cedric]

He is using you.

 

[colitas]

If I were in your situation, I'd use him (hey, he has a hot body right?) but not get unrealistic expectations. Wouldn't see him as a bf or romantic partner or someone to care and love for. Just sex. That's what it is.

This is right. But you aren't really enjoying the sex much and it sounds as if some better sex will be out there waiting for you.

You can keep it going I guess, but start being open minded about the idea that you will, sooner or later, probably end up with someone else who treats you better.

 

[crubbed]

You can keep it going I guess, but start being open minded about the idea that you will, sooner or later, probably end up with someone else who treats you better.

You guys are right. That's what I'm going to do. In fact, my feelings are changing already. His opportunism makes me sick. As a matter of fact, I'm not even in the mood to go to Spain anymore, but I guess I have to.

I forgot to tell you how he ended the chat yesterday. After weeks without saying it, he concluded by telling me "I love you". Yeah, right. Because I had promised him the money.

I don't think I'm gonna give him any money. I don't think it's fair, we'll see how that unfolds. He'll have to find it by himself, just like every other adult.

 

[rollex_2000]

I am really amazed that people don't tell this (as far as i read through. i didn't read all of the posts though)..

Here is the simple truth dude .... You are not into each other or compatible for each other.

If you want to top and he doesn't want it .. then you shouldn't find ways to convince him. he might not be into it.


Just find somebody else.

If I am making an international trip to meet somebody, We rather be fucking like rabbits when I get there.


This kind of shit happens when you let feelings develop before actually having intimacy with the person and see what you like..


It's amazing how people keep giving you advises on how to fix it!!!..

If somebody would shove their finger in my ass without my consent (or against my agreement), I'd break their face right there and then!

 

[rollex_2000]

And in addition it happened to me before when i was not willing to touch the other guy, or touch his dick or his sperm or even his body and I just wanted him to lay there... (even though i do like dick and i do like sperm and even given the right person I'd bottom)
And guess what... you are right.. i was not into his body and the only reason i was fucking him because he insisted on sex and I was horny as well (or not willing to hurt him by saying no), so i just needed a hole or a mouth to get off... So please examine yourself if you are not being too pushy, or acting asa co-dependand person thus making him pity you.

 

[crubbed]

So, I broke up with him. Was it long over-due? Yes. Was it painful? Yes.

On Friday I flew in at 8.30 am. He didn't even come to the airport to pick me up. Actually I had told him he could stay home. I knew he was too lazy to come. And I was right. As soon as I landed, a part of me wished he had made me a surprise. I was looking through the crowd to see him. But alas he wasn't there.

I take the metro, and go to his place. Now arrives the best part: he was sleeping. He was in bed, and as soon as he opened me the door he jumped right back there. And he expected me to join him. I was supposed to be so tired. And I was. I had gotten up at 4.30 am to be there at 8.30. But I was so excited to see him that I couldn't sleep. Alas, that wasn't the case for him.

Another shocking, tste-less act on his count: on Monday he woke up at 9 am to go to the Municipality alone. And he told me he'd pay a visit to a girlfriend of his who lives nearby. I said 'Hum, okay'. By 12.20 pm he calls me and says: "I'm at my girlfriend's... I guess I'll stay here for lunch. You can fix something up for yourself, right?". I was appalled. I was only going to stay in Spain 6 days. And that was my 3rd day. And then he asks me: "Is it okay?". What was I supposed to say? Of course I let him eat with his friend. And instead of acting jealous or mad, I killed him with kindness. There was no reason to get mad knowing that I was going to break up with him.

So the time came on Wednesday, my last day there. We spent the whole day just fine. And then at 7 pm it was time I dropped the bombshell, 'cause soon I was going to take off. I bursted out crying. He thought I was crying for leaving town again. And I told him: "You know I love you right? But I've been thinking a lot about it... And we're not compatible. So, I think I'm gonna break up with you".

He couldn't understand why. He even asked me if I had met another guy. I preferred not to start nitpicking, I didn't want to point out every single one of his disrespectful actions. I just told him that he's a different person than the one I met this summer, and that he's become quite careless, and that's fine, he can be the kind of person he wants, but I'm looking for something different.

He cried. He couldn't understand. And as a result, I'm feeling awful. I think I was wrong. I shut up, and kept notching up every single thing that sat wrong with me without telling him. He thought everything was alright. And then I dropped the bombshell. I feel AWFUL. I should have talked to him about it. The result would have been the same, but at least it would have been fairer to him.

I didn't want to see him cry. Or maybe a part of me did want. Just to make sure he would feel the pain I have felt. But eventually it hurt me. When we hugged goodbye, you could see he was broken. He didn't mean bad. Now God only knows when I'll see him again. So there goes my very first relationship. . . . .

 

[Scottyboi]

sorry it hurts but from what you've told us he really was using you, I think you did the right thing.

Now, in retrospect, it probably would have been good to tell him all these things bothered you when they bothered you because then he could have tried to be better, but it seems like he wasn't going to try and be better.

tbh I'm a little surprised that he didn't see this coming with how he'd act, I have always had a 6th sense with when someone was going to break up with me and in the past I know people I've dated have called me out for acting 'off' when I knew I wanted to break things off. People put off a different vibe then usual.

Hope you feel better and I hope you meet someone nice. Try and think of this relationship as a learning experience and try to remember some of the good times you had

 

[Cedric]

It's never easy to deal with a breakup, but give yourself some time to mourn, and then you will be ready to move on. When I look back on my relationships, I don't regret a single time I broke up with anyone. Remember, the relationship ended for a reason.