Boyfriend? Seeing each other? Dating?

[halubtsi]

I've been gone for a while, but have a really good excuse. I've finished school and not even 2 weeks later I start dating this guy.

Now this is a general question, as I'm really confused with terminology. When can you call someone you're seeing/dating a boyfriend? Whend does a relationship go from dating to seeing each other? (or is it the other way around?)

What do you call it when the two of you have fallen so hard for each other, you both want to spend ridiculous amounts of time with each other? What do you call these feelings? Is it a crush? Am I smitten? At what point can you call these feelings love? What does love feel like?

So many questions.

 

[looseliam]

You are smitten.

Just go with the flow. You'll know when the time is right.

How long have you two been dating?

Oh, good to see you back.

 

[jjc_7]

Now this is a general question, as I'm really confused with terminology. When can you call someone you're seeing/dating a boyfriend? Whend does a relationship go from dating to seeing each other? (or is it the other way around?)

This is my problem too! If you find out, let me know

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Cloud's Terminology:

"I am seeing this guy." - Yeah, I like the dude, so we are seeing each other ever so often. No one knows, where this may lead to? I am free to pursue other dudes, too. There is no commitment here. We also may be FBs at the same time, too.

"I am dating this guy. He is my BF" - He and I agreed to enter into some sort of a pre-relationship status. We are not seeing other dudes and more likely than not, sex is now monogamous.(Subject to our internal agreement), and committed to each other. We are hopefully growing together and trying to connect on all the key levels.

"I am in love with this guy." - I see myself with this guy for the years to come. We have connected on all the key levels. I love him and hopefully, he reciprocates my feeling. We are very committed to each other and are now making arrangements to enter an LTR.

"We are now One Item. This guy is my partner, Boyfriend, Hubby, whoever." It is important that everyone around understands that the two of us are one item. We most likely live together and travel together. We share our lives with each other completely. There is unlimited trust. This took quite some time to build and nourish.

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Guys, this is just my terminology. Hopefully, you find it useful in making your own.

SC

 

[RicanDAB]

Halubtsi,

Glad to see you back and posting ... and CONGRATS on your new man (and new degree I assume?)

I had a similar question a few months back and this is how I understand it. Dating and seeing each other are synonymous. He is your boyfriend when you decided he is the only one you wish to date, and vice versa. This is obviously something that should be discussed and not assumed. Although actions speak louder than words, you should still talk about it - I don't have to tell you how important communication is.

I agree with looseliam that you're smitten at this point. Don't worry about the love at this point ... you'll get caught up in it eventually and naturally and you will know what it's like and when it's right to express it!

Very happy for ya man!

 

[luminum]

I;d say when you're earnestly going out with each other exclusively, you can start calling him a boyfriend. I'd just say that "I'm seeing someone". It means that the person is special to you, though neither of you are official.

 

[confusedboy23]

I'd say if you see a future with him, be honest with him and tell him so. If he sees the same too, then you'd become "boyfriends". It will hurt all the more deeper of went out all the time with him not knowing what the other person really thinks....

 

[halubtsi]

Wow! Thanks guys! I'm pretty sure we're dating exclusively. I'm not seeing anyone else, and I really don't want to see anyone else. He's the one who asked me out (which is a story in and of itself...) and I know I'm the only guy he's seeing.

I figured that I was smitten. However, he's also smitten with me. We apparently talk about each other the same way to our respective friends. haha. We're acting like one of those sappy high school couples. We've been dating for a couple of weeks now, though we've known each other for a few months now.

 

[looseliam]

A couple weeks, eh? Don't worry about what to call yourselves. Have fun and see what happens.

 

[Riverrick]

Congratulations Halubtsi! I'm really happy for you. You sooo deserve this.

I wish the best for the two of you.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Halubsti,

Theres a lot of things to call it and you guys...lucky, derserving, complete, destined...

It doesnt matter what you call it - the greatest thing is to see you lost for words and overcome with the happiness and joy of finding someone who values you loves you and respects you. You deserve all that and more and it sounds like you've found someone who sees the real you.

Maybe it doesnt have a name...but the spring in your step, the smile on your face, the tone of your voice... all those things say its perfect. Bask in it. Let it wash over you and sweep you up in its arms.

You guys sound so great...you're proof that good things do happen!

Awesome mate...just awesome!

 

[halubtsi]

Thanks everyone! He really does make me happy. It's really nice spending time with him. When we're not together, he'll send me e-mails wishing me a nice day. Or sometimes he'll send me a random e-mail in the middle of the day saying that he was thinking of me. Mind you, I do the same thing to him. haha. So yes, we're a tremendously sappy couple.

 

[Just_Believe18]

It's the honeymoon phase, aka infatuation, aka crush. Enjoy it. It's the most intense and emotional period of any relationship. You may end up being in a relationship or may not. Inevitably, the honeymoon always ends and it is replaced by trust, love, and companionship.