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Boyfriend wants to take a relationship break,

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Recently my boyfriend decided he wanted to take a break after a 6 month relationship. He told me that he loves me still and that we will be together again in the future. But some of my friends said he is just doing this so he can sleep around with other guys and not feel guilty for it. And I know that there are guys from his school that told him he was sexy and his ex has been trying to "hook up" with him for quite some time now. He told me that he wants to take this break because he has a lot going on in his life, like his parents are divorcing and that he is moving soon, but I really don't know what to do. I really want to trust him but it is so hard. Part of me wants to move on, but another part of me wants to wait for him to come back and never let him go again. What should I do?
 
For starters, are his parent actually breaking up, is he preparing to move soon. If so you might want to give him the benefit of the doubt (as his life is moving into a serious period of turmoil). If not, then I would suggest sitting him down and having a serious talk with him about trust.

In either case you have to decide if you want to wait for him to be ready, if you want to be there to support him through what might be a very rough time for him and just be his friend. Or would you rather have a clean break and move on with your life. Only you can decide if he's worth waiting for. But consider this, if this break is so he can "explore his options" you are also free to do the same.
 
Yes his parents are actually divorcing, but I want to help him through it all, not just be pushed away and not do anything to help. And I have no intentions of seeing any other men, I just want want my boyfriend. ):
 
If I were your boyfriend, I would be running into my boyfriends arms--not the opposite direction. If he is having gay issues with his family, though, that might cause major problems. Seems like he's checking out though.
 
TheSculpter101 said:
Yes his parents are actually divorcing, but I want to help him through it all, not just be pushed away and not do anything to help. And I have no intentions of seeing any other men, I just want want my boyfriend. ):
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Then sit down with him and talk to him. Explain to him you want to be there and support him during this struggle. If he continues to refuse, I would say he's using that as an excuse and is afraid to tell you the truth.
 
He's young and horny. Unfortunately, he's not interested in you anymore. Let him go. You should move on.
 
It has occurred to him that saying yes to you has meant saying no to everyone else. He just checking to see if he has made the right decision. There's no reason for you to wait at the door. Use this time. Perhaps he finds he had made the right decision while you find out you hadn't.

You can't will someone to stay with you. I was asked this question once. "What can you hold onto longer, a greased ping ball ball that you squeeze, or a greased ping pong ball that you let sit in your open palm?"
 
I think the "take a break" phrase is a nicer way of saying "I don't want this anymore."

Were I you, I'd concede to the break and move on.

My thoughts on these people are that they want to sow their oats whilst having some boy pining for them and at their beck and call.
 
IMO, the main reason he gave should be enough for you to give him a permanent break.
Someone who wants to take a break so he can hook up with other men is not someone I'd want to waste my time with.
 
looseliam said:
I think the "take a break" phrase is a nicer way of saying "I don't want this anymore."

Were I you, I'd concede to the break and move on.

My thoughts on these people are that they want to sow their oats whilst having some boy pining for them and at their beck and call.
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Pretty much it.

Let him go.

Personally I would let him know I thought it was a breakup and that it is completely over.

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^^ Naah. I'd play along with the 'break'. "Sure honey, we can take a break. I know you have a lot on your plate. I'll be here for you." Then move on and don't look back.

I wouldn't give the guy the satisfaction of acknowledging the break-up. But I'm a prick like that.
 
The more and more i think about it I lean on ending it and moving on. I guess it's for the best though. I'm not gonna wait around for him to come back while he is probably out sleeping with other men. Thank you all for the amazing advice. (: It was a tremendous help!
 
There is no "take a break." Either a relationship exists or not. Clearly this one is done. If he changes his mind later, and if is very lucky, you might still be available in a few months. But there is no reason for you to be.

This relationship is over, which is sad. But be open to new possibilities now.
 
I would say go for the break and let him know you'll be here for him if he needs you. But if you don't break it off he might turn to cheating on you and that will get nasty.

So b4 you get hurt more, and stressed out more, just go with the break and just move on.

He has already made up his mind and you would be able to change it...
 
TheSculpter101 said:
The more and more i think about it I lean on ending it and moving on. I guess it's for the best though. I'm not gonna wait around for him to come back while he is probably out sleeping with other men. Thank you all for the amazing advice. (: It was a tremendous help!
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You've made the right choice. If a boyfriend truly loves you, he would want you by his side while his life is going through a challenging time over his parents' divorce. His behavior is more selfish in motivation to sleep with other boys.
 
Oh god I don't know anymore! I love him so fucking much and I don't want to break his heart. ): but I don't know if I can stay with him.. Oh god this is all so confusing right now. ):
 
Listen, he already broke your heart for wanting to take a break. You don't know if you can stay with him. Clearly, the spark is gone in your relationship. Can't force him to love you. You need to let him go for your own good.
 
I'm talking to him now and I asked him why he dosen't want me in his life during these challenging times and he said that it's "Just a personal preference.'' He also brought up that he dosen't want me there because I would baby him and that i'm an emotional person.
 
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