Boyfriend was invited to go on a cruise

[Lyrical]

My boyfriend was asked by his brother to go on an all inclusive cruise. Completely free of charge. He asked if he should go and I told him he should and that I'd feel guilty being the reason he didn't go. Now he's not sure to go or not.

A few months back I was invited to my cousins wedding in the Bahamas and I declined because:

1. I didn't want to leave him for two weeks.

2. I want my first experience somewhere to be with him.

3. Cheaper for my mom who would have been paying for my ticket.

I have the mentality that I won't vacation without him to anywhere I haven't been because I feel it would be more special going with him.

Due to me declining, he's on the fence about going. I told him I made my decisions for me and just because I declined a vacation doesn't mean he needs to.

What can I do or say to convince him to go?

 

[Lyrical]

Alright, thanks for your response so far!

And to answer your question, no I'm
not able to go with. The cruise is only 5 days. His family knows about us, but if he decides not to go he will tell them it's due to school. In a sense, it feels weird that he won't even say the truth.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Slightly sounds like attachment issues, the idea of being romantical and wanting the first experience to be with him sounds great on paper, in reality you're allowing a relationship to prohibit you from what could be fantastic experiences. Just my one cent.

 

[Lyrical]

Slightly sounds like attachment issues, the idea of being romantical and wanting the first experience to be with him sounds great on paper, in reality you're allowing a relationship to prohibit you from what could be fantastic experiences. Just my one cent.

I can see how you see it that way. Honestly though, I feel if it were attachment issues, I'd be telling him to stay and I wouldn't be trying to convince him to go. It's not really me trying to be romantic, it's just how I feel.

He feels the same way, I told him I could go to California with some friends and he said he wouldn't want me going without him.

Not sure if it matters but I just want to throw in that we're 22 and 23 and also living together. Just in case that changes any opinions or anything.

 

[genthree]

insist he go, absence makes the heart grow fonder.......

 

[DigitalFudge]

Slightly sounds like attachment issues, the idea of being romantical and wanting the first experience to be with him sounds great on paper, in reality you're allowing a relationship to prohibit you from what could be fantastic experiences. Just my one cent.

insist he go, absence makes the heart grow fonder.......

I see no lies

 

[racer2438]

I can see both sides, but as us being together for so long we would not go alone. We have so much fun together that if we were apart for something like that ie: cruise. We would both feel weird about it and not really enjoy our selfs thinking about the other. It's not becuz of attachment issues, jealousy, being left alone or not trusting.

It's just we share all the good N bad together we are together almost 24/7 and it's just we so deeply love each other that it would feel like we are leaving the other out.

we would either make changes to the trip, like add on a ticket or not go until we could go together.When we worked we would save our vacation time until we could go together or we did not go at all. We are partners in everything no matter what. Our family and close frinds already know this so it would be a no brainer to them to invite both if it were a case like this.

A simple example is if there was only 1 piece of pie left, he or I would only eat half and save the other for himor I, one beer left, we split it.

while this may sound extream to some, to others in a long LTR may understand this a little bit. But we are all different...

 

[Lyrical]

I can see both sides, but as us being together for so long we would not go alone. We have so much fun together that if we were apart for something like that ie: cruise. We would both feel weird about it and not really enjoy our selfs thinking about the other. It's not becuz of attachment issues, jealousy, being left alone or not trusting.

It's just we share all the good N bad together we are together almost 24/7 and it's just we so deeply love each other that it would feel like we are leaving the other out.

we would either make changes to the trip, like add on a ticket or not go until we could go together.When we worked we would save our vacation time until we could go together or we did not go at all. We are partners in everything no matter what. Our family and close frinds already know this so it would be a no brainer to them to invite both if it were a case like this.

A simple example is if there was only 1 piece of pie left, he or I would only eat half and save the other for himor I, one beer left, we split it.

while this may sound extream to some, to others in a long LTR may understand this a little bit. But we are all different...

Thank you very much for your response!

 

[rareboy]

insist he go, absence makes the heart grow fonder.......

Absolutely.

And take the time to go somewhere on your own as well.