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Mitri T

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I want a real Boyfriend. The American gay are sexy but these seem to have no want of more than sex. I think I wish for one to hold and talk.

How long does this take after admitting you are of gay?
 
I'll be damned if I know! When you figure it out, let me know! ;)

Best of luck to you though...
 
I want sex. I want more than these things also. Is this bad for gay to want more?
 
I don't think it's bad for anyone to want more, let along a gay.

Stick to your guns, and don't feel you have to sleep around. You'll find someone who shares your ideals.
 
Mitri T said:
I want sex. I want more than these things also. Is this bad for gay to want more?
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OK, but you're using the words "more" and "also". They mean "in addition to". The majority of gay guys would rather start off with sex before deciding if they want a relationship, rather than the other way around.

That doesn't mean you have to fuck on the first date. But don't plan on keeping them waiting too long, or they'll lose interest.

PS You said "American gays". I'm curious -- is there somewhere else where guys are different? That would be interesting to know.
 
slobone said:
OK, but you're using the words "more" and "also". They mean "in addition to". The majority of gay guys would rather start off with sex before deciding if they want a relationship, rather than the other way around.

That doesn't mean you have to fuck on the first date. But don't plan to keep them waiting too long, or they'll lose interest.

PS You said "American gays". I'm curious -- is there somewhere else where guys are different? That would be interesting to know.
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This I do not understand. I want to fuck on first time. I want to have more after this. Men at home are different.
 
Mitri T said:
This I do not understand. I want to fuck on first time. I want to have more after this. Men at home are different.
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It just all depends on the guy you go out with. I've yet to find a a boyfriend, not one that was worth anything at least. It would be nice to have one though.
 
You sounds much unhappy. Why do you live as this? I have a good friend that ask me out on date. I think he is cute. There are many loves. I think that I will not have his as friend after a date so I say no. This is not as I want. I want to say yes.
 
Malaka has so far, answered no questions and solved no issues. It borders on rude, when you come to think about it, since we are not all in Greece and we do not address each other with 'Malaka' here. :)

Yup, most dudes I have met are LTR inclined, at least theoretically. And yeah, they are waiting for their Mr. Right. It happens that they go with so many Mr. Right Nows, that even the count is lost. That's called a promiscious life style and many dudes just love it. (I am one of them, so, sue me...)

I'd also want to test the sexual waters before I ever start considering dating a dude. I want to make sure it works for both of us b4 we both start dreaming it... I see no problem with that. Sex is not everything and for many of us, everything without sex is nothing.

I hate to be critical or anything, but ask yourself one important question: K, sex with this 'Joe' there was good. He likes me and I like him. Is that enough for the two of us to start building a meaningful LTR? Do I need more? Does he need more? What is it that we need?

SC
 
Mitri T said:
This I do not understand. I want to fuck on first time. I want to have more after this. Men at home are different.
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Aha, OK, then I probably misunderstood you. As long as you understand that a relationship really only begins with the sex, whether that's the first night or the second night or whatever, then you have a chance to get what you want.

Then it seems to me the guys to avoid are not the ones who only want to have sex, which as I said is most guys. The ones to avoid are the ones who don't want to have sex more than once with the same person.

And there definitely are guys out there like that. Unfortunately there's no known way to pick them out. That's because if you ask them directly if they're like that, they'll lie.

And actually it may very well be true that American guys are more cold-hearted when it comes to sex -- I've heard that before. As for me, it suits me just fine -- when I'm looking for sex, the last thing I want is to find love instead.
 
No I think this does not begin with sex but this is what I do. I want sex and then it is only sex that I get.

My language has many words for love and these are the problem. Americans have one word and think this way as well.

I know these things. If I go on this date I worry that it will have bad actions for friendship. But I want sex with him. Why is this bad? Friend and sex at the same time.

I am confused.
 
Guys, this thread has been appropriately moved to Coming Out & Relationships - keep in mind this is a No Flame zone

Thank you
 
I don't agree with some of you all. I think you can have a relationship, or find a boyfriend without having sex "first". If you have sex on the first date, then you are right, that might be all you end up with. I cannot compare American guys to other countries because I have lived in America my whole life. But from observation, if guys have sex on the first night, they are not looking for anything else. You want something more.

"how long does this take after admitting you are of gay?" I cannot say.

Know what you want, and don't settle for anything less. You just haven't found a person who wants what you want yet. I'm sure they are out there in America
 
backseatboy said:
I don't agree with some of you all. I think you can have a relationship, or find a boyfriend without having sex "first". If you have sex on the first date, then you are right, that might be all you end up with. I cannot compare American guys to other countries because I have lived in America my whole life. But from observation, if guys have sex on the first night, they are not looking for anything else. You want something more.

"how long does this take after admitting you are of gay?" I cannot say.

Know what you want, and don't settle for anything less. You just haven't found a person who wants what you want yet. I'm sure they are out there in America
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I can only echo backseatboy....he's got everything I wanted to say!
 
Awww come on guys. Can't we discuss this topic without saying things like "the majority of gays are slutty" or "the majority of gay guys would rather start off with sex"?

I may have yet to find the kind of guy who shares my values, and I may at times feel a little hopeless about it, but I KNOW that there are tons of gay men out there who put love, monogamy and a healthy relationship before sex. I am one of them. And I'll admit it...I'm a virgin and I plan to stay that way until after I begin a healthy and fulfilling relationship with someone I love. If that means that I end a 60-year old virgin one day then so be it.

Besides, why does the stereotypical gay man have to be a promiscuous whoremonger? I'm pretty sure gay men, just like heterosexual men, want relationships too. (Isn't that why we're fighting for gay marriage?) We already have enough negative stereotypes, lets not keep them going.
 
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