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Boyfriend's manhunt account

Don't you dare apologize, bleedlikeme. You didn't do anything wrong. Though, I'm still trying to figure out why your boyfriend still has an active Manhunt account, but if you're ok with that, then more power to you.

Your boyfriend is the one who broke the trust when he posted the nude pix and showed them to other guys. You were just confirming what you were thinking. Did he actually think you weren't going to find out?

If I were you I would come out and ask him, completely catch him off guard. "Hey, I saw that you have a private picture on your Manhunt account. Do you honestly think it's ok to show other guys naked pictures of yourself, especially if you're only looking for friends? How would you like it if I had done that?"

And if he tries to change it around on you for going onto his account just take ownership for what you did and stand your ground, "Yeah, I went on your account. And I would do it again if you gave me a reason to not trust you. Like now!"
 
not sure what prompted you to invade his privacy

and i'm not sure that him having naked pix on his account constitutes him not being trustworthy

some guys do it for the thrill - you just don't know

i would tell him what you did - why u did it - what you saw

and take it from there

but you're gonna have to trust him if it's gonna last - and he may or may not be trustworthy

find out
 
Unless your boyfriend publicized his profile, you have to have a Manhunt account yourself just to see his. Tell me, do you only log in to see his profile? Or do you look at other profiles with guys who show naked pictures of themselves? Have you refused seeing unlocked naked pictures? How do you respond to messages directed towards you?

I think your boyfriend having a nude pic of himself is not a good sign of trust and open communication. At the same time, your snooping around is also an indication of a lack of trust on your part. Both of you are not open and honest with each other.

Basically you need to have this conversation where both of you admit to wrongdoing. He, for the naked picture. He needs to explain why he needs to show himself off to other guys and what his intentions are. You, for the snooping on his computer. You need to explain why you find the need to "keep tabs" on your boyfriend's online accounts. Maybe when you've both explained your insecurities, you can build off of such candid honesty into something more lasting.
 
Okay. Both are wrong and I can say this because I'm sitting here having done what you did.

I do have permission to use my partner's computer. While accessing the Internet it autofilled to chemistry.com with profile information in it. I invaded his privacy and discovered he had been talking to his ex for about a year and going on how he missed him. My partner did end all xommunication with the ex of his own free will. . . Months before my discovery (when asked why, he said because he knew what he was doing was wrong). He had sent emails bad mouthing me and saying generally cruel things, he also was talking to several other people, one that even sent him nude photos that my partner stated he jacked off to.

I had lost my job last year and went into a deep depression, it doesn't justify what he does, but I can understand why. My curiosity after I started feeling better was right on. He never physically cheated on me, according to him (and I do believe him)., but there was intent.

We have clearly defined rules. He broke them when I spiraled out of control for a few months.

We had a heart to heart discussion. We still have said discussion. We both were mature enough to discuss it like rational adults, no yelling, crying, or accusations.

We discussed why both of us did what we did. we discussed the options we had. We chose as a couple to start fresh.

Since the discussion I don't find the need to check his email and I've been concentrating on my new job, new hobbies, and bettering myself. He's been working on communication.

We've set new ground rules that are temporary. We are concentrating on moving forward.

It comes down to how much control each of you have on your emotions when you talk. Just because both of you betrayed the trust each of you had does not mean it's the end.

It's a challenge and all relationships will have them. It comes down to whether this relationship is a fair weather relationship or a life long relationship. Each relationship will face challenges of equal degrees of discomfort, often in other forms. It's up to you and your bf to determine on the amount of work you want to put in it. Because let's face it, relationships require work and maintainence. You only get so much by your own, you have to both be putting in equal work.
 
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