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Boyfriend's number on bathroom wall

  • Thread starter Thread starter Michael Luc
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Bradlee said:
Give him the benefit of the doubt.;)
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Tony, I am with Bradlee on this one. Until you have positive proof that he's strayed on you, give him the benefit of the doubt. You've been together for almost two years, and there's a trust that you've built with him. Until he gives you reason not to, follow that trust. JMOHO.....
 
elvin1 said:
They did talk about it. His bf denied it. If he is innocent, then he won't meet the person. I would like to trust people but you never know.
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See, that's my problem, I'm very untrusting.

But that's just me. I'd still make the phone calls.

But that's probably because I'm a paranoid bitch.
 
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The more i think of it, the more i wish this thread had never been posted. I just do not think it serves either party well.

This is an issue of intrusion of privacy and space by all of us who have made comments in this thread. I include my own posting no. 12.

I really would like to see this thread pulled, permanently.

eM.​
 
Maybe I am getting too jaded but I would have a hard time with giving this the "benefit of doubt". I would HAVE to know the truth. Too many things don't add up and, to let it go, would bother me. It would always be in the back of my mind, festering.... and that's not good or healthy. If this was just a casual boyfriend or a trick, I wouldn't give it a second thought. It's not. It is someone you deeply care about. Find out the truth. Some of the suggestions here are good ones.
 
elvin1 said:
They did talk about it. His bf denied it. If he is innocent, then he won't meet the person. I would like to trust people but you never know.
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A conversation, especially in the heat of the moment, does not satisfy honest and open communication.
All this advice to call behind someone's back just seems immature to me. The CIA does not need to be called in.

Again, this a painfully private matter that requires private attention and not public laundering.

I encourage the guys to work it out as adults, remembering that they love each other and are going through a rough spot that does not need childish action and more secrecy.
 
sixthson said:
A conversation, especially in the heat of the moment, does not satisfy honest and open communication.
All this advice to call behind someone's back just seems immature to me. The CIA does not need to be called in.

Again, this a painfully private matter that requires private attention and not public laundering.

I encourage the guys to work it out as adults, remembering that they love each other and are going through a rough spot that does not need childish action and more secrecy.
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:=D: :=D: :=D:
 
Croynan said:
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The more i think of it, the more i wish this thread had never been posted. I just do not think it serves either party well.

This is an issue of intrusion of privacy and space by all of us who have made comments in this thread. I include my own posting no. 12.

I really would like to see this thread pulled, permanently.

eM.​
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Well, sweetie, public opinions were asked for and all we can do is give them.

Some of us just want to help.
 
He either put it there himself, or someone who he had "relations" with did. Either way, it was likely recent, as restaurants usually paint the stalls/clean off all the writings that are put on every once in a while.

Too much of a coincidence if you ask me.
 
This is definitely a private matter and not one about which dirty laundry should be aired . . .

AND

I'm the LAST person anyone should go to for relationship advice.

That said . . . it sounds to me like there are other issues in your relationship, Michael. That your guy spent "too long" in the bathroom and you went in later, totally "innocently" and happened to "spot" his number on the wall says that there are some fundamental trust issues in this relationship, I think.

A "heat of the moment" conversation may not have resulted in much because your concern may not really be about some number on a bathroom stall.

Have a heart-to-heart about trust with the guy. The phone number in the bathroom is smoke from another fire.

In my humble, ignorant-ass, stupid, worthless opinion.

A4A
 
I still think calling the number with a 7 and seeing if the guy on that end will give you a BJ is the right way to go.
 
I also am with the camp that believes there shouldn't be espionage between lovers.

But having a third party call the boyfriend won't work at all. How could he be stupid enough to go along with anybody who calls for a bj after the confrontation with Micheal Luc at the restaurant?



If this guy were stupid enough to do that, AND stupid enough to write the number or blow someone while his boyfriend is waiting at a table ... then he's got to be dumped for stupidity alone!


Frankly, I think none of the above is true. And I think the situation, whatever it is, should be handled with maturity and love.
 
Give the boyfriend the benefit of the doubt.

You should know if he is telling the truth or not and if it is his handwriting.
 
Hard Luck said:
I also am with the camp that believes there shouldn't be espionage between lovers.

But having a third party call the boyfriend won't work at all. How could he be stupid enough to go along with anybody who calls for a bj after the confrontation with Micheal Luc at the restaurant?



If this guy were stupid enough to do that, AND stupid enough to write the number or blow someone while his boyfriend is waiting at a table ... then he's got to be dumped for stupidity alone!
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Hard Luck, you hit the nail on the head. I agree completely. If someone called him saying they got his number from the bathroom at XYZ restaurant he'd be a complete moron to buy that line and try to hook up. I still think bf is lying. Hope not but I have serious doubts here. JMO
 
2 years is already a lot of investment in the relationship. I'd want to know the truth but I wouldn't want all of this cloak and dagger phoning.

Counseling?
 
Considering the couple? I would give the benefit of the doubt.

Wait a few days and talk it over. Hopefully cooler heads will prevail.
 
I think that "HardLuck's" answere is the BEST !! Instead of getting all excited and worked up over a "suspicion" .. go ahead and call the other number .... Will take about three minutes to find out the TRUTH and it shall set you FREE !!
 
Nightmare said:
People are going to pissed off no doubt.

but, he was fucking around and none of this actually happened.
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Oh thank goodness! #-o

But you will both be spanked within an inch of your lives! :grrr:
 
Oh dear gawd..........

After reading the rest of these posts, I'm going to have to agree with Croynan's post now. This is getting way too personal and I apologize if I went treading onto territory that I shouldn't have. I was just giving my opinion without knowing any facts, like many of us here, but I honestly think this should be taken into private now.

And if this whole thing was just a 'joke', it's not fucking funny. Don't play with people like that.
 
If I thought my BF were capable of doing such an immature thing, I would have ended that relationship long time before.

And we even have an open relationship...

If your trust is shattered, that's it. Move on. He might have been right or wrong but if your guts don't trust him, there is little anyone can do to save this LTR.

No drama. Bite the bullet. Put up or shut up.

SC
 
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