Brains or Beauty: The shallowness poll...

[Muskox]

Attractiveness matters because it's the first impression you have of the person and, yes, sexual attraction needs to be part of the relationship. As soon as you start talking, other things come into play. As many others have said, you have to click personally for the relationship to get any traction.

For me, the face is less important than that he takes care of himself. He doesn't have to be good-looking or dress well. I just want a man that is not too lazy to get up and do things, and that will show in his personality and in his body.

 

[hanshansen]

3 ...

Thinking back over who I've been attracted to recently, it's largely been about things like personality and attitude and are their brain and life story interesting and do they make me feel comfortable. Of course there has to be an erotic spark but a lot of that is in the eyes, how they smile, does physical contact make you feel good.

The reason I put '3' is that at some point you do find yourself checking them out: is their body shape a total turn-off, do they uphold basic standards of hygiene and in general treat their bodies with some kind of respect etc. But that's like an after-thought. All the people I've been interested in recently have been pretty average-looking. I would still probably have picked them out of a room of super models.