Bringing the partner home for the holidays

[operafan]

Rather than hijack MattieMitch's thread on the horrible experience he had when he went home with his boyfriend for Thanksgiving, http://justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=128633 I thought I would start a new thread on experiences of bringing the boyfriend home for the holidays.

I just found this interview in AfterElton.com that goes along with the special "Coming Home for Christmas" on the USA channel. Here is a link describing it as well as an interview with Ted and Drew
http://www.afterelton.com/TV/2006/11/xmas.html

The special is current showing in rotation on the USA channel.

 

[sixthson]

Oy!

My immediate family had met my man before they knew we were more than just friends. But the first family event I took him to after the whole damn family knew about us was a summertime family reunion. Considering how enormous my family is, I figured it would be safe to attend and that we could find a few sympathetic cousins to hang with. The looks we got when we walked into the hall, you would have thought the devil and the antichrist had just walked in hand in hand. My family is very religious, to say the least. While many were civil to us, no one initiated any conversation. We did find cousins to talk and laugh with, however.
My uncle, the Baptist minister, gave me such a look of hatred and refused to shake my hand. He sat down with his brothers (my uncles) and in a very loud voice said "That is an abomination to God". Everyone knew who he was talking about. I was not surprised, but it did hurt. What hurt most of all is that no one came to our defense. Even my beloved Grandmother, who was nearly 100 at the time and very outspoken, kept silent. I had already taken my guy to meet my Grandmother and while she did not approve of our being gay, she was loving and accepting of my man.
The tension at the family reunion was thick enough to be cut with a knife. We were not interested in ruining the day for anyone, so we didn't stay. When we got in the car, I felt like crying, but wouldn't let myself. We were only 21 years old, had just graduated from college, my father had died that previous year and now many in my family were rejecting us. Although I knew this would be the likely outcome of my openly loving my man, it still hurt...alot. It seems that no one can hurt you as much as those who are supposed to love you.
I have come to appreciate being the black sheep of the family. I know who and what we are and I like it. If you're going to be a rebel, it might as well be for love.

 

[kallipolis]

Thanks Dan, for it is through rejection that we learn to overcome and stay the course, no matter what the odds. You'll never walk alone. When you walk through a storm, hold your head up high and don't be afraid of the dark. At the end of a storm is a golden sky, and sweet silver song of a lark. Walk on through the wind, walk on through the rain, tho' your dreams be tossed and blown. Walk on, walk on with hope in your heart, and you'll never walk alone. You'll never, ever walk alone.

 

[Ehalahepl]

I don't have a boyfriend at the moment, however, I did before november. I started thinking about this way early on and I eventually decided on no.

It would be different if it was just my parents who are completely accepting of me. However, it would be my brother and my grandparents as well and I honestly think it would just have ruined the holiday experience, and I'm not sure it would be worth it.

I rarely if ever, associate with those people outside of holidays so I honestly dont care.

They say the WORST way to come out to people is thru introducing your signifigant other, and I'd have to agree.

If you want to out yourself to your non immediate family do it in a private fashion at first, than you can see if bringing home the boyfriend is a wise decision.

 

[hotcbr]

Getting ready to this for the first time this Christmas...me and my baby have been together for over 3 years now and I'm totally a part of his family...mainly because I've lived close by and they've had plenty of time to get to know me, but my family lives back in Kentucky and I'm taking him home with me this year. So far, everybody can't wait to meet him, but my dad called and left a voicemail the other day saying he wanted me to come home by myself. I wasn't surprised by it...the rest of my family said not to worry and to bring him anyway. Should be kinda interesting...I'm not expecting my dad to show up for Christmas.

 

[bcwang]

Don't understand it.......
homosexuality is most natural biologically(see my blog).
And God? Well,no offense but aren't religions just tales in telling us that there's a creator? People who say things like" an abomination to god" in my eyes are laughably living in a Middle age way......

 

[SilverRRCloud]

My folks never talked about the issue openly. But they always politely asked, if I was going to take my friend with me. If I said, Nope, they'd ask, if anything went wrong.

I have never stopped being grateful for their kindness and magnamity.

SC

 

[xcasex]

LOL!! I would LOOOOOOOOVE to have a dramatic holiday dinner with the family. My family is in SOOO much denial about me being gay, I could fuck a guy in front of them and they still wouldn't take me seriously. I would SO love to bring the bf to dinner, without telling everyone, and they'd all get the point, but I'd let them know who he is anyway. Have me get drunk and let the shit hit the fan. That would be so much fun and make a great story to tell people.

 

[thermodynamics]

Heck, I need to find a boyfriend first, before I bring him home!

 

[Marbas]

A Freudian slip perhaps?

Maybe you're not really gay after all?

 

[Marbas]

^
You're gay.

..in fact you're GAY!

No truly straight guy would be able to type the line 'suck your cock and eat your cum'.

 

[sixthson]

^
You're gay.

..in fact you're GAY!

No truly straight guy would be able to type the line 'suck your cock and eat your cum'.

Do we really 'eat' cum? I mean, we swallow it, we drink it, will lick it up.etc. but can it really be called "eating".

I'm gay and I could never type 'suck your cock and eat your cum'........ .
It's just tooooooooo gay

 

[sixthson]

^ Oooo... I'm gay in pretty coloured letters. FABulous!

*flounces off to the kitchen to prep tea*

*flounce* *flounce* *swish* *flounce*

Does flouncing require some special attire? Like a flowing robe or something?

 

[trawler69]

Good god, how did "her" get in there? That SHOULD read "him".

Or perhaps "his" ? *crawls back to the naughty step to take his punishment for pedantry*

 

[gabriel1]

Heck, I need to find a boyfriend first, before I bring him home!

I'm 49 - you could take me and tell them I'm your OLD MAN!

 

[Marbas]

Does flouncing require some special attire? Like a flowing robe or something?

I love a good flounce now and again, but I require no special attire.

In fact I'm so adept at flouncing that I'm able to pull it off even when totally naked.


Please note, no double entrendre is intended by the phrase 'pull it off'.

 

[MidnightPrism]

I would love to bring a partner home for the holidays. Everyone would have a great time

Of course there would be a few tasteless gay jokes by my family... but they are white supremacists so they tell tasteless jokes about most people

 

[Michael Luc]

I took Tony to my Mothers house on Thanksgiving, it was the best Thanksgiving I have ever had because every one that I loved was there. Everything went great and every one enjoyed each others company. I just feel a little bit too lucky.

I never expected my family to be so non-judgmental about Tony, not that my family is, but just because he is a bit older than I am and most people seem to look down on relationships like that. But My Mom and my Brothers get a long with him like he was apart of the Family for years.

It was wonderful for me on so many levels. And this whole non-judgmental thing is a brand new experience for me. I love it! Brian's family is awesome.

 

[luminum]

My parents said that they would never want to meet my boyfriend and that I better not ever take him home with me.

Then he dumped me a few weeks later, so I guess the point was moot.

 

[Kyanimal]

"My" Kev, and I, have never taken each other Home for the Holidays! We're both torn between our separate families! His is much larger than mine, and they're all from different states.

However, He's been out to "The Cape", with my parents, several times (with and without me!), and I see members of His family throughout the year! But, the more I think about it, I'm not sure my sister has ever met Him! When she was here, I think He was in Florida! And I've never taken Him back to Ohio! Not a "Big Deal", our schedules just haven't "gelled"!

Two years ago, or so, my parents came out, and we ALL took the "Jet Ferry" over to Michigan for the weekend. Stayed in a little B&B. Had a GREAT Time!

And, now ... my Sis has been pestering me about bringing Kev to her Lake House, on Lake Erie, so ... maybe this upcoming Summer?? We'll have to co-ordinate!

Kev's Family has been Fantastic! I'm even considered a "Valid Uncle" to their kids! Through His "Side", I've got more nieces, and nephews, than I've got "actual" cousins!!

Families are what we make of them! And you don't even need to "really" be related!

And ... sometimes ... those that aren't "Blood" can be the Best!!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz