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greenlantern4

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I am having a hard time getting over my ex, we were together for three years and then on and off for another three years. He met a guy off of a hook up website and now he is in love. I thought the empty feeling would go away but it has been three months now and I still feel the same way. It just hurts because I thought we were soul mates and it only took him one month to go off with someone else. Have any of you guys been through a similar situation? What did you do to mend your broken heart?
 
When my ex and I broke up after 3 years off and on, I was upset. I ended up drinking too much and then having too much sex. I'm now with someone that's a lot more compatible with me and I don't have nearly as much drama as I used to have in my life. My ex found a new boyfriend in a few days. It sucked, but with time and me having a new boyfriend things improved. My ex and I still talk.

My advice is don't take it personally that he moved on quicker than you did. You should focus on your interests and your job/school and when you're ready dating new guys.

I hope you feel better soon.
 
altlover has it right. That's very good advice. I few years ago I broke with my ex after we'd dated for almost 4 years, and it was really hard. Especially when they move on faster than you. It just takes time to heal. Stay busy, focus on your interests, and it will get better :)

It helped me a lot when I talked about my feelings. I called up my sister-in-law one night and we talked it for about an hour. It was very cathartic.
 
Some people jump into a new relationship so they don't have to obviously grieve the loss of their last one. If at all possible it is better to grieve before moving on. Rebound relationships can work, but, at some point, they may require additional work because the partners had different agendas upon meeting.

Don't expect anything from an ex, especially not the roadmap to getting over the relationship. Be aware of your saddness but don't ever let it immobilize you.
 
really great advice so far, thanks guys. I don't think I could ever just date someone as a rebound. I don't really date, it takes a lot for me to fall for a guy so I am not really worried about that.
My feelings are all over the place. Some days I blame myself and I am depressed, other days I am mad at him and angry. I also forget about it when I am busy but at night when I am about to go to sleep my mind races. I guess I just need to focus on myself. I think i'll start going to the gym haha, that will make me feel better . . . I think haha.
 
Just take time and do things for you, do things you enjoy doing and hang out with friends. If you aren't ready to date, don't... there is no need to put yourself into a situation that could involve heartbreak if you aren't fully healed. Just talk it over with friends and don't take his moving on too fast to heart. Don't turn your grief into anger towards him. Everyone has their own ways to cope.
 
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