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Glad to be done with med school for sure. But yes, I totally know the type and the feeling. And yes, it sucks. However, I lived alone for a couple of years. And I never came out to all of them... only to one so far actually.

The other option besides coming out (and what I did) was to go find friends outside of med school. Find an activity you like and go do it. Some of those novelty discussions will settle down once everybody gets to know each other. But then, you'll realize that med students become increasingly narrow minded and topics of conversation almost always end up reverting back to medicine (trust me, it'll happen). So it's good to have an outlet where that's not the case.

Let us know how things go.
 
sorry, I must have misread earlier. Well, then that sucks. If you know they're hooking up, then my thought that it is a bunch of talk is kind of out the window. I find people talk about hooking up more than they actually do. There are always exceptions of course, but by far I find that to be the rule.

As before, go find some other friends. Are you in NYC? If so, there's tons of opportunities to meet people there. Plus, starting next year, you'll all have different schedules and it will be hard to go out anyway. So having other friends is helpful then too.

I graduated in may a few months ago. Why didn't I come out is a bit more of a difficult question to answer. I wasn't comfortable with my sexuality until my senior year was a big part of it. And so by then, I figured what's the use. Another part is that I don't feel everybody needs to know. Once I was more comfortable with who I was, I didn't feel like I needed to tell others. People weren't all that homophillic with their comments throughout my time there and trying to change their minds wasn't on my agenda. So it just seemed like a big deal for no real reason so I didn't bother. But like I said, it was 4th year before I really would have even thought of coming out to them.
 
Rob man, your not a freak! Your among all these hetro people who are playing the game! There is only ONE of you! Your unique, and maybe more so than your classmates! Being gay is only a part of you and your sexual preferences should not determine if your their "equal" or not! From the way your posting your a sensitive and intelligent person and has a lot of offer anyone who befriends you! As suggeted, I would seek like minded friends from the circle of friends you have now.
 
ok I know how you feel.. sorta... I remember feleing like an outcast with all my str8 friends before I came out... but the thing is... even after I came out.. i still felt like an outcast around them... even though they were totally supportive I was still the odd man out... so I don't see how if you came out it would make much of a difference in you feeling like the 5th wheel....

BUT I do thing coming out is a good idea unless these guys are bible thumping homophobes that will beat you straight...

the best way I find to come out... is to act like they are morons for not noticing.... just act like you already are out... you don't have to say it to them.. you just have to be who you really are.... they ask you about a specific girl... say she isn't your type.... or say your already seeing someone... and if they ask who she is.. tell them his name is so and so...

but yet again... I dont suggest you come out if these guys are in anyway violent towards homosexuality... and if they are.. then get out.. find a new place to live where you feel safe being yourself
 
Allow me to join the chorus to say that you are certainly not alone in feeling uncomfortable around or disliking your medical school classmates. I am a relatively recent graduate and frankly disliked a lot of my classmates. The medical school social environment felt way too much like high school, and I hated high school.
 
Rob1981 said:
I always joke that this place is more like junior high. Even high school kids seem more mature.

I suppose that also goes along with how neurotic and insecure many pre-meds are. Always desperate to prove themselves.

How I ended up in this career path still boggles my mind.
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So funny about the high school/junior high. Because I totally thought the same thing. I thought we would be MORE mature in a post-undergrad world, but nope. Interesting thought about the insecurity issues... never thought of it that way but looking back, I think you have something.

And I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't know how I ended up in this career. But whatever, I'm here.

i know they all hook up, but i agree with you that everyone definitely talks about it way more than it happens. it just sucks that there's this whole world of partying and fun going on that i feel like i can't be a part of.
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Well, I'd say go find a whole world of partying of your own then. I ended up having to do that and it worked out well.
 
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