Burning questions to bi/straight guys.

[Soilwork]

OK, first.. can we please get over the ******* notion that being a top makes you "the man?"

Thanks.. this is 2007... you're about 30 years out of date.

Second.. everyone is different. Some men like effeminate men, some like masculine men.

Finally.. attempting to shoe-horn yourself into some passive/agressive/fem/masculine role in order to get "straight" men is not only a waste of your time, it's just ridiculous.

you be yourself and the kind of men who like the kind of guy you are are going to be attracted to you. If you fake it and act like something you're not.. you're only going to attract people who woudln't like the real you.





(and although you'll find the odd straight guy who'll be willing to let you blow him or something whie drunk.. don't you want something a bit more.. um.. fulfilling than that?)

 

[psychobandit]

It amazes me there are still people who believe "straight" guys are that easily "turned" to the "dark side"

Honey, if they're sleeping with you, they aint straight!

 

[RRRalph]

What do straight (top) guys prefer?

Girls.

What do you think most straight guys are looking for in other guys?

Friendship.

Would you say they are looking for a bottom guy or a guy that would top them?

Neither.

 

[Eternaldarkness]

I agree with the comments above. Be yourself. Who knows what the straight guys are thinking, everyone has their own preferences.

Unless he is comfortable being around a gay guy, I dont think you should find ways to more fem..it might repulse or scares him, depends on what he dislikes.

All I am saying is, if he is straight he will chose girls. Unless he is bicurious, in that case, in my own opinion, I think he would chose a more masculine guy to experiment with, u know..someone who is more like him and he can relate to.

 

[Soilwork]

from my limited experience in bagging straight guys in college ( something that I'm not proud of, I should add), emmulating women is a way to scare them away.

You need to offer them what they're NOT getting from women. This can be anything from a more aggressive approach or even jsut telling them what a hot piece of ass they are (women don't usually gush about how hot a guy is and some guys really need to hear it from time to time).

However, it was mostly drunken horny stupidity that lead them to my room and things were always creepy and awkward between us afterward. I usually regretted doing it and it never turned out well.

Take it from someone who's been there... just go for guys who are into you and aren't going to wake up and get all weird in the morning. There's plenty of masculine gay and bisexual men out there to choose from. And they like it when you're acting like yourself.

 

[TaigaStar]

Based on my own state of mind, I have to back Soilwork's commentary: we, as heterosexuals, do not necessarily want the exact same thing we get from women. Theoretically (as I've never experimented/wanted to experiment with other guys), the purpose of experimenting would be to explore "new" sensations, not the same ones we've gotten from women.

I don't normally get the point of topics like this. I mean, I see the psychological desire to have that which is not an option to you. Granted, a lot of heterosexual men are willing to have gay sex for experimentation purposes, or to discover their innate/denied/undiscovered/whatever sexual desires, but why is this such an obsession with people?

 

[squiggle]

Maybe I could do a little more to make myself more appealing to straight guys.

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This is a condtradiction in term.

If you are talking about an emotional and physical relationship then it isn't going to happen with a straight guy!

You need to give it up!

It doesn't make sense that you would contemplate gender re-assignment in order to get into a straight guys pants! I think you should have some counciling to figure out what issues are going on here!

 

[jalexan5]

It all depends on who you are bi guys (and if you like sex with both your bi not straight no matter what you want to say hehe) can be all over the map just like gay guys. I tend to prefer my women feminine and my men masculine. Obviously i'm totally ok with someone who is a little feminine for a male or a little mascaline for a women in general the only thing that really turns me off is a huge queen or big butch lady, just doesn't do it for me. I want my man as a man and my women as a women but that includes all variations of normal men and women who can be differently masculine/feminine.

Personally I don't find trans gender people very attractive, its just a turn off but I know some people do like them.

While I'm pretty much versatile leaning towards a top My best friend, who is also bisexual, Loves sex with women but with a guy LOVES to bottom.

so doesnt help much we come all over the place :0

 

[uzaname]

dude...just be your self man, some people i know are more curious about a guy sucking then off but they shrugg the idea away very quickly and laugh it off, any thing can happen anytime under the right circumstances...keep your hopes up and just be yourself and keep trying

damn daddy you fione lol

 

[Joe King Jay]

I agree with everyone else.

For me, a once curious straight guy, the desire to sleep with another guy is not there. I don't think any straight guy desires sex with another man, period. A curious guy or bi yes, but straight, no.

I agree with BeardedWoof

You'll save yourself a lot of trouble, you won't get beat up or ruin friendships, and you'll actually be with guys who actually want to be with you.

Hitting on a straight guy can lead you to some serious problems. I would avoid that drama all together if I were you.

 

[peterhut]

im bi and i prefer masculine guys and when i thought i was 100% straight muscular guys turned my head but im not sure of what other people prefer.
personly i cant stand transgender women.
if a straight guy does go to another guy its usually to see if he prefers the company of men in bed or because he bi courious. and if ur a fem guy then build up the muscles and lower the voice
hope it all goes well for you anyway weather you choose to take my advice or not