Calling you Gorgeous and Babe too soon?

[canadianguy91]

What do you think is too soon for a guy to call you babe or gorgeous?
Its just in casual conversation, like "i'll keep you warm babe" or "dont worry about it gorgeous" "whatever you want babe"

Guess everyone has their own style of talking? I know UK-ers call everyone love, so its just a term of endearment?

Should I be worried that he's a player and says it to everyone since it rolls of his tongue so easily? I worry so much lol!

 

[shainski]

So you are on the receiving end and it is making you uncomfortable?

Yes, you do have to take background into account if you want to understand his motives. In the South (US) you might be called "Hon" or "Sweetie" or "Sugar" by a waitress.

If you recognize that it is just casual conversation, i would treat it as a joke. If it really bothers you, then i would tell him right out that it makes you uncomfortable.

It doesn't really matter what everyone else her says about how long it takes him to say such things. You'll get answers from immediately to never.

For me, i guess it would depend on a lot of circumstances including the person him/herself. I'm not one to use terms of endearment lightly, so it might take months or even years.

I wouldn't necessarily be concerned he is a player - but i would have to hear how it is said to know whether or not i would think it is sincere.

I would try to judge him based on other things he does and ignore this (unless he were talking to you like that publicly, and you are not ready for public displays of affection)

 

[Brtyui]

maybe hes flirting with you ?
how long u known him for ?

i know that some guys say hunni/babe etc and dont mean anything by it

 

[canadianguy91]

So you are on the receiving end and it is making you uncomfortable?

Yes, you do have to take background into account if you want to understand his motives. In the South (US) you might be called "Hon" or "Sweetie" or "Sugar" by a waitress.

If you recognize that it is just casual conversation, i would treat it as a joke. If it really bothers you, then i would tell him right out that it makes you uncomfortable.

It doesn't really matter what everyone else her says about how long it takes him to say such things. You'll get answers from immediately to never.

For me, i guess it would depend on a lot of circumstances including the person him/herself. I'm not one to use terms of endearment lightly, so it might take months or even years.

I wouldn't necessarily be concerned he is a player - but i would have to hear how it is said to know whether or not i would think it is sincere.

I would try to judge him based on other things he does and ignore this (unless he were talking to you like that publicly, and you are not ready for public displays of affection)

I'm the exact same as you! I usually only reserve baby or when I'm in a relationship. Dont call people gorgeous or babe. I'll let someone know they're gorgeous, but I don't replace it for their name.

I HATE when people call me hun. HATE IT!! I was just wondering other guys' opinions. So thanks Oh it doesn't bother me or make me uncomfortable, I was just wondering if it seems too easy to say like he's saying to more than just me.

 

[canadianguy91]

Yeah, I think its flirting
I hate when guys call me hun or hunnie. Hate it

maybe hes flirting with you ?
how long u known him for ?

i know that some guys say hunni/babe etc and dont mean anything by it

 

[HunterM]

Be playful. The next time he says, "I'll keep you warm babe." Reply back "I can always count on you handsome." See how he would react.

 

[canadianguy91]

Be playful. The next time he says, "I'll keep you warm babe." Reply back "I can always count on you handsome." See how he would react.

I am quite playful Good advice!.

 

[flechaverde]

I am notorious for calling people "hon", "sweetie" and "darling." I generally reserve "babe/baby" or "sweetheart" for people I genuinely have some feeling for. I'm from Virginia, but I don't really think of myself as Southern, though my friends from NJ think differently.

To me, its all a matter of figuring out their level of usage.

 

[nfgrls]

I use babe alot with my friends and random people I talk to, doesn't mean anything to me, maybe he is the same way. He is probably flirting so you should try doing it back to see how it goes.

 

[canadianguy91]

I use babe alot with my friends and random people I talk to, doesn't mean anything to me, maybe he is the same way. He is probably flirting so you should try doing it back to see how it goes.

I feel so weird calling him that

 

[shainski]

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is there a polite way to respond to casual acquaintances who always end conversations with “I love you”?

I’ve used “Thank you” and “You are so kind,” but was told by one that I was supposed to say “I love you” back. Am I a curmudgeon for not parroting an expression that seems misused to me?

Interesting. Just after i read your question, I read the letters to "Miss Manners" for the weekend. In a kind of related topic to yours - Some people use terms that are very personal terms of affection very casually. In this case, it was the casual use of "I love you". While it is meant nicely, it can leave the receiver at a loss. If it becomes totally mainstream, then it will cheapen the sentiment.

it's letter 3

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifes...erent-things/2011/08/04/gIQA6UD5SJ_story.html

I think the same here. If you are used to reserving terms of endearment for those relationships that have lasted the test of time, then I think you need to deflect them with a meaningless sentiment - or just be yourself and say what you would have said.

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, as has been said before, in the south terms like that are conversational and don't really have ulterior motives. "babe," though isn't a Southernism.

But I find that people in other parts of the country can find that confusing, and women can find it condescending.

 

[canadianguy91]

Interesting. Just after i read your question, I read the letters to "Miss Manners" for the weekend. In a kind of related topic to yours - Some people use terms that are very personal terms of affection very casually. In this case, it was the casual use of "I love you". While it is meant nicely, it can leave the receiver at a loss. If it becomes totally mainstream, then it will cheapen the sentiment.

it's letter 3

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifes...erent-things/2011/08/04/gIQA6UD5SJ_story.html

I think the same here. If you are used to reserving terms of endearment for those relationships that have lasted the test of time, then I think you need to deflect them with a meaningless sentiment - or just be yourself and say what you would have said.

I find being myself works the best. If he doesn't like that, then oh well! I mean it's just words, its obviously not a deal breaker, I was just curious to see what others thought.
And I read that article, I agree. I save those sorts of things for really meaningful times, so that when I say it is means a lot.

Yeah, as has been said before, in the south terms like that are conversational and don't really have ulterior motives. "babe," though isn't a Southernism.

But I find that people in other parts of the country can find that confusing, and women can find it condescending.

I doesn't happen that often that people call me that, so I was just wondering
I find it condescending as well when people call me hun or hunnie. Yuck.

 

[nfgrls]

I feel so weird calling him that

lol I didn't mean to imply that you should, you should just be yourself and if you feel he's flirting go ahead and flirt back however you may do so. ANd good luck with it, it sounds as though he's into you.

 

[mbamike]

I called my guy gorgeous from day one because I think he is physically gorgeous. He knows that too.

I think you are right. You worry too much. Just chill and enjoy.

 

[canadianguy91]

I think you are right. You worry too much. Just chill and enjoy.

I'm tryin'

 

[Seasoned]

Thanks for your post and it I haven't welcomed you let me do so now. I this you have the perfect opportunity here to begin open and honest communication. Ask him the same questions that you are asking yourself. It will be great practice for you and the answer from the horse's mouth, so to speak, could prove enlightening. Good luck!