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Came out to a close friends yesterday...

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And, of course, she is extremely cool and supportive (as I knew she would be). For some reason, I thought this move would be freeing, but I don't feel that way yet.

There was no shock factor: she's known for all 5 years that we've been friends. Being the respectful person that she is, she never pushed me to come out because it was something I had to do when I felt comfortable and ready. She actually said that she's thrilled that I decided to take this step (side note: this woman is the biggest fag hag I know personally). Honestly, she couldn't stop smiling the whole time we were talking (which I found to be a tad weird). Nevertheless, she's extremely supportive and I'm lucky to have her as a friend. She was also relieved because she feared that I would just stay closested and never be myself.
 
lmao thats sooo funny...my best friend wen i told her had the same reaction....she was giddier then i was....haha....i can totally relate on the whole not feeling free part...personally her and 2 other of my friends know....nobody else...is it really freeing when everybody knows? but then again is it really everyone's business???
 
So I guess you're asking why you don't feel free after coming out to your friend, right?

That's because you sort of knew how she'd react to it. If relief is what you're looking for, then come out with the ones you think deserve to know (usually parents, siblings, close friends).

anyway congrats, you made the first step.
 
I had the similar reaction from almost everyone I came out to. There was a pause, then I got the "duh" we just been waiting for you to tell us look.
 
At one point, I actually asked her to stop smiling (she was starting to freak me out) *lol*

But yeah, coming out to someone who you were 100% sure knew can only be so freeing. Parents are the next step (and I'm 99% sure they know already). It's always been the elephant in the room.

Thanks everyone for your responses. Much appreciated ;)
 
hijodelaestrella said:
For some reason, I thought this move would be freeing, but I don't feel that way yet.
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I came out recently, and that's how I felt at first. But, at least in my situation, I haven't told that many people and I've just been feeling better and better about life. Keep positive and you'll see all the benefits soon enough! You'll feel a lot better about yourself before you know it! (*8*)
 
ryan2010 said:
I came out recently, and that's how I felt at first. But, at least in my situation, I haven't told that many people and I've just been feeling better and better about life. Keep positive and you'll see all the benefits soon enough! You'll feel a lot better about yourself before you know it! (*8*)
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Thanks. I'm already starting to feel a bit better. The idea of being 'out' to someone isn't so freightening (especially when it's a friend who's very loving and open-minded).
 
I kind of told a friend of mine yesterday too, I only knew her for like 5-6 weeks but there were hints that she had suspected me being bi. I basically spilled like everything out to her and she wasn't really shocked at the beginning when I said yes. But when as I went on she was completely shocked at the experience I already had with guys.

For me it is kind of after the point where you actually see the person genuinely shocked. Thatis when it feels like you lost a bit of the weight that is on your shoulder, despite you only told one person. Atm there are so many weird and random thing that I want to tell her lol....

this is my opinion, but I think this goes for everyone that hardest to open up to would be your best guy friend(s), since it could really go both ways.... they might try and recall what ever we might have done in the past and be disgusted by it and nothing will ever be the same... I seriously don't know if I personally would be able to let my best friend know about this....
 
Congratulations on coming out to someone. And, you did it the way I did too--began with the easy ones. Doing that gave me practice (and confidence) to work up to the more challenging ones. In the end, they all went fine, but I am glad I did the easy ones first.

..|:=D::wave:
 
chicoLATINO1 said:
@roadtripboy....soooo do u have that sense of "freeing"?
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Sorry about not answering this sooner...I didn't think my post would get any comment from anyone.

Freeing in the sense that at least I was free of making stupid non-gender comments about what I did over the weekend.

After a while I found the "Well, Duh" reaction to be annoying. I spent a lot time planning what I was going to say to each person. So, I kinda felt cheated that a least one of them wasn't surprised.
 
I always knew that this particular friend would be the first... I just knew she'd be cool. She was more than cool, though, she was enthusiastic.
 
Good for you mate... Even though that friend may have known all along.. well it was YOU that made the move to share yourself.. that is not always easy.
Best to you.
 
roadtripboy said:
Sorry about not answering this sooner...I didn't think my post would get any comment from anyone.

Freeing in the sense that at least I was free of making stupid non-gender comments about what I did over the weekend.

After a while I found the "Well, Duh" reaction to be annoying. I spent a lot time planning what I was going to say to each person. So, I kinda felt cheated that a least one of them wasn't surprised.
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Well, you have to see why are noone is surprise. Perhaps you were really obviously gay to them. Not trying to stereotype but the stereotype is there. I have a friend who came out to a few of my friends, we told him we knew all along and he was literally so shocked... he was a textbook flaming queen... LOL it was so adorable how clueless he was how everyone perceives him... he was living in self-denial..

hijodelaestrella, update us on your next coming out experience... and Good luck buddy!!
 
Thanks to everyone for your support. You'll definitely hear about my next coming out experience (possibly the parents or another close friend)...

Teak (aka 'hijo')
 
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