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Came out to my friend tonight

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...I told the first person tonight.

It wasn't planned that way, and I don't plan on telling everyone first thing tomorrow morning, but I've finally admitted it to someone other that myself.

My and my friend were talking online and she was especially pushy about asking me who I liked. I just told her I wasn't going to tell her because it would change things, and that it didn't concern her. She kept saying that if I told her, she could help me talk to the person and maybe start some sort of relationship (can't you already tell she's a good friend?). Anyway, after I resisted for about an hour, she told me that "it doesn't matter who you like, i know you can't choose who you like, i won't tell anyone and it won't change our relationship." So I said back, "You've basically got it figured out, don't you?" and she replied, "...still no"

So to prove that it wasn't difficult, she said, "I like [her boyfriend]. Now its your turn." And I replied, "Not so easy. Mines actually also a guy."

At first she thought I was joking. Her first response was "Yo I'm good," meaning, she was cool with it, but she didn't believe me. I always thought that when I told someone, they would be like "FINALLY! You couldn't admit that a YEAR ago?" But she was shocked. As the minutes passed though, she admitted to me that it was starting to make sense.

After agreeing to never make a pass at her boyfriend (who is a close friend of mine) and clearing up the fact that I really do not think Michael Phelps is hot (he's got a great body, but that face?) I can honestly say that not much has changed.

Then of course I had to clear up all of the times that I've hooked up with females, telling her that just because I like a guy doesn't mean that I can't also be with girls. I told her if I had to put a label on it, it would be bi, but I don't really like to look at it that way. I'd rather see it as, this way, there's twice as many fish in the sea. There's a whole lot of people on both sides that are not my type.

It feels refreshing, but I'm fucking terrified to see her tomorrow.

As of right now, I've managed to avoid answering the question of who it actually is that I like.
 
Awesome, congratulations yesplease, best of luck in the future and I'm glad things worked out with you and your friend :D
 
That's awesome! You should be proud of yourself! :=D:

Welcome to the other side.
 
Congrats. Always nice to hear when something like this goes over well.

I can understand why you're terrified and agree with what MoltenRock said. Was very well put.
 
Congratulations.
 
Good for you. ..| Congratulations and thanks for the inspiring story! :=D:
 
Congratulations. One thing I have noticed here is that very many people come out to their "best friend" and 80% of the time that friend is female. Is it just me or have others noticed this as well? We seem to be happier coming out to the sex that we are not sexually attracted to but which we also find it easier to make friends with.:confused:
 
Thanks everyone for your kind words! It wasn't even a big deal when we talked today, she made a joke about it between us and we both laughed, but nothing happened that was out of the ordinary.

I'd be offended if someone would make me promise not to hit on someone's boyfriend, like does she make her girlfriends promise too?

No, no it wasn't like that. It wasn't like she said, by the way don't hit on my boyfriend, she said, "Is it.. my boyfriend?" and I said "I don't know... is it?" and she got very excited and made me agree to not do that kind of thing anymore. Which makes sense.

One thing I have noticed here is that very many people come out to their "best friend" and 80% of the time that friend is female.

She's not even my "best friend." I would probably say that my best friend is a male. After I told her I was like, "You realize this basically makes us best friends now?" which, she was okay with, so it worked out.

Even though I don't plan on being totally out to everyone any time soon, it is encouraging to actually be totally honest about who you are. Thanks again for the support!
 
Congratulations. One thing I have noticed here is that very many people come out to their "best friend" and 80% of the time that friend is female. Is it just me or have others noticed this as well? We seem to be happier coming out to the sex that we are not sexually attracted to but which we also find it easier to make friends with.:confused:

Hmm...well, I have an idea about that, but I could be wrong.

Probably the reason is because the sex we are not sexually attracted to doesn't get as weirded out by it as the sex we are attracted to can get. Personally, that was not my experience as my best friend is a guy and things were great. I do however know that some guys would feel awkward when they find out their male friend is gay, because some of them start to think "Oh no, he isn't falling for me is he?" and I'm sure we all know what can happen if that thought goes too far.

Just my thoughts.
 
You don't have to let anyone know WHO you like. But congrats on coming out to your friend! Don't feel nervous to be around her. It's a big step and I'm sure she's more comfortable because you've told her this fact. :)
 
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