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Came out to my parents tonight

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I just came out to my parents. I was scared to death. My heart was beating a mile a minute, and I could barely get the words out.

They were taking my younger sister and dropping her off somewhere, so I sent my mom a text telling her I had something important to tell them when they get back. When they got back, I sat them down, told them I had something important to say, and went from there. I honestly couldn't find the words to say my life, so I just said them.

My parents were incredibly understanding, more than I ever thought. No 'oh my god', no crying (not about this anyways), no dropped jaws. Just 'if that is what will make you happy, and will make you feel more comfortable, then we'll love you regardless'. They had questions (of course), but their chief concern was that I was happy and comfortable, and that I knew that this was the right thing.

I wrote them a letter too, which basically said everything I couldn't find the words to say.

My mom cried, but it wasn't because I told them I was gay. She was crying because all of her children are growing up and starting to move on. (my sister just got married)

I'm so happy right now, I can't really put it into words. :D
 
THAT is FANTASTIC!!! (!w!)

We often conjure up the scariest things, in our own minds, about how things will go when we, finally, decide to step out of our closets. And, in doing so, we tend to underestimate our parents, other family members, and friends. #-o

As your own experience, and many others, have proven, it's usually never as "Bad" as we've talked ourselves into believing that it might be. ..|

CONGRATULATIONS on taking that first, scary, step into Your own, bright, Future! And, Tremendous "Props" to the wonderful people that happen to be your parents! (group)

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
Congrats, man! (*8*)

I'm really happy for you, and wish you the best in life. :D
 
My older sister (the newly married one) told me that my parents would be pretty relaxed, but my mind had built it up for so long that I always thought the worst.

In the end I couldn't be happier with the parents I have. I love them to death, and their reaction shows me just how much they love me. (as if I needed this to prove it, but it reaffirms it)
 
Droid800 said:
My older sister (the newly married one) told me that my parents would be pretty relaxed, but my mind had built it up for so long that I always thought the worst.

In the end I couldn't be happier with the parents I have. I love them to death, and their reaction shows me just how much they love me. (as if I needed this to prove it, but it reaffirms it)
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There You Go! 'Nuff said!! (!w!) (group)

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
Well done... I plan on doing that soon. I'm at the point where I've told all my friends and siblings, just not my parents.

Glad to hear it went well for you.
 
Congratulations to you. You have good people in your family. You must be walking with a spring in your step. I am incredibly happy for you. Thank you for sharing. I am so glad it turned out this way for you.
 
Parents have a way of surprising you when you least expect it don't they !
 
That really is great man, congratulations!!!

I came out to a friend recently (through text) and he was great about it. Since then I haven't come out to anyone else, but I've been much "looser lipped" than I was before with some friends. Basically I'm not gonna come right out and tell them, but I'm pretty sure they'll figure it out.

It feels amazing to be able to be yourself around your family, I bet. I'm so happy for you and proud of them for being good parents...and good people.
 
G-Lexington said:
Thank your parents for kicking so much ass.

And welcome to the other side. :)

Lex
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I did. :D

The best part is this;

Today, after all the stress (for me) of last night, life was...normal. There wasn't any awkwardness, no funny looks, no nothing. They treated me like they always have, which was just great.

I can't even describe the feelings that that brings, and how much it means to me that for them, its no big deal. Just thinking about it now, I can't stop smiling.
 
Sounds like you have great parents. Congratulations for taking the initiative and clearing the hurdle. ..|
 
I can't even describe the feelings that that brings, and how much it means to me that for them, its no big deal. Just thinking about it now, I can't stop smiling.
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So, when you come out to others, and you find out that it's no big deal, you're supposed to feel these feelings... (happiness, relief, free, etc. from what I've read in most cases)

Why? Why these emotions? What does it mean when this isn't what happens?
 
BrainDamage said:
So, when you come out to others, and you find out that it's no big deal, you're supposed to feel these feelings... (happiness, relief, free, etc. from what I've read in most cases)

Why? Why these emotions? What does it mean when this isn't what happens?
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I'm not quite sure what you're asking here, especially your last question. I feel this way because it means that my family really loves me for who I am, and not for something that, in the grand scheme of things, is relatively trivial.
 
>>>Why? Why these emotions? What does it mean when this isn't what happens?

Depends. Were you anxious to come out? Were you scared of possible negative reactions from family and friends? Was everybody supportive and accepting when you came out? O was the whole thing a big "enh" all around?

Lex
 
So odd question; is it normal to feel a little awkward at first when dealing with some negative stereotypes of gay men on TV? (especially after coming out)

There was the 'gay gene' episode of Family Guy on tonight, and it was just a bit uncomfortable. My mom didn't say anything, but I could tell from her posture what she was thinking. (I don't know if offended is the right word, but she was acting like it bothered her how 'gay' Peter was portrayed)
 
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