Came out to my sister when drunk last night!!

[RicanDAB]

Congratulations on coming out and having supportive people around you! Just hope that you won't now count on alcohol to give you the courage to come out to others. Perhaps it is easier now that you have started the coming out process - though I have limited advice since I myself am in that process too.

 

[Andross]

Congrats! It was pretty easy like that for me too. No problems at all

 

[backpacker]

Congratulations! It's always nice when things go far better than expected. Good luck with coming out to the rest of the family. Hopefully your sister will help you.

 

[RicanDAB]

My mother says.... "So do you swallow? LMAO

Graham

Shut up! Are you serious? LOL!!

 

[hermanding]

you're off to a flying start and congrats on taking the step. even if you don't verbalize it, people can know from how you live your life. but most importantly be proud of yourself as a good person who just happens to be gay as well.
ding

 

[Just_Believe18]

lol whoops!

Glad it turned out ok with her.

 

[Absolut]

Jareth, I know your feeling like no other.

I think I came out to virtually every family member whilst drinking...the most pleasant experience? No. Do I care that it happened after the fact? No again.

Please realize that it happened, and that it happened with people that you love. I am completely in your situation, and also please take into account the FANTASTIC advice of your fellow JUBers...god couldn't ask for anything better!!! If you need to talk don't hesitate to PM me!

And like I said, JUB is the shit. What I wouldn't do without it!!

 

[Riverrick]

She's coming over tonight. To be honest I'm a little worried about talking about it when sober. Don't know why. It wasn't mentioned on the phone conversation we had.

Sometimes alcohol can be valuable, like when it allows us to get past our own barriers.

Good luck tonight. The worst part is over.

 

[tommyj]

Your sis probably already knew Jareth

 

[tonyboy]

Good for you Jareth..... I hope it contiunes to go smoothly for you man.
Next step.... finding you a b/f....

 

[Riverrick]

I'm gonna aim to tell my other sister and my mum after Christmas. I'm more worried about them (they can be such drama queens) but feel a bit better now I have my oldest sister for support.

Glad that went well. It does help having a family member who already knows when you tell the others. My brother helped me quite a bit.

 

[elra]

Congrats, Jareth! Nothing like a little liquid courage to get things done. Your family can suprise you a lot. There is light at the end of the tunnel! I was convinced I'd have drama issues with my family when I decided to come out to them.

While not quite as funny as Cutenortherner my parents also had an interesting first reaction... before coming out I had trouble connecting to them because I was trying so hard to hide my sexuality. One day just before Christmas I said enough was enough and told them the truth. I will remember these words for the rest of my life, my mother responded with (verbatim):

"Oh! You're gay! (Laughter) We thought you were a moody bitch because you were on drugs. But you're gay, thats alright. Come on, then, lets go decorate the Christmas Tree."

And my dad then said:

"Make some gingerbread while you're at it."

 

[Reprobate]

The only family member who took it badly was my mother, she tried to deny it for a long time but the last time I visited she started to loosen up. I thought she would take it allot better because she has been involved with women in the past but I think she blames herself.

I remember when I came out to my daughter, she caught me checking out a guy and we had a long conversation about it, I thought I was being careful but evidently she is more perceptive than I gave her credit for.

 

[elra]

Well I have no idea if yours do, but mine sure did. For them it was like everything I had said/done in the last few years suddenly made a lot more sense. A lightbulb had turned on kind of deal. When you're absolutely sure you're ready, you'll tell them.