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Camming = Cheating?

DiaryOfAMadman

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Yes, for some crazy reason while I don't consider it cheating, I do consider it a violation of relationship trust. It is definitely an offence that can lead to a break up. Besides it can be argued that it will eventually lead to cheating down the road.
 
I don't know that there is definitely and answer to this one way or the other. There will be a lot of people disagree with me about that. The thing is that it bothers you and that he was hiding it. So for you it was a deal breaker. For me it wouldn't be. I would want to know about it is all. My partner and I both have done it. It doesn't bother me that he does. It is still just in the realm of fantasy to me as these are people he is not going to have contact with. It isn't really that much different than any other type of porn to me. Those don't bother me either. It is different for everyone, though. However you view it is what's important for you. It would take more than that though for me to end a relationship in any case, if the relationship was a good one otherwise. They aren't that easy to come by.
 
Like it or not all relationships have rules. They also ALWAYS require a leap of faith. No one ever has any guarantees! I'm not sure if you are saying that you are having second thoughts about breaking it off with him or not. If that is what you are saying, then talk it out and set some ground rules. But, don't expect it to be that you will be the one to set all of them! He may see no harm in camming and want to continue. If he does then you either have to deal with it or stay away from him. It's not always easy to stay in a relationship or to leave it. You just have to do what you can with the situations at hand and try to be true to yourself. The rest will fall in place in your life.
 
I have to agree with you it is all about trust and respect. I would not like my bf going online, sharing naked pics of him with others, or camming and jacking off. Like others have said here, it would not be a deal breaker for them, but in the end it is up to you and your lover to make the rules and decide what is best for BOTH of you. As mentioned be true to yourself, you'll find the right guy for you. He is out there......
 
In my book it is cheating in every way. I don't even think it requires justification.
 
its just like as if he was sitting right next to the person and jacking off. its cheating.
 
Regardless of whether or not he considered it cheating, if you made it clear that you were not comfortable with it in your relationship, he should have stopped. Since he didn't, there went the relationship.
 
luminum said:
Regardless of whether or not he considered it cheating, if you made it clear that you were not comfortable with it in your relationship, he should have stopped. Since he didn't, there went the relationship.
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...And to think some people say gays have no moral standards when it comes to relationships.

It seems to me the vast majority of the people who have spoken here have said no to this type of behavior, which just further proves that gays have just as much moral integrity as any other group of people.

Of course, this is all a bit of "preaching to the saints..."
 
m59583 said:
...And to think some people say gays have no moral standards when it comes to relationships.

It seems to me the vast majority of the people who have spoken here have said no to this type of behavior, which just further proves that gays have just as much moral integrity as any other group of people.

Of course, this is all a bit of "preaching to the saints..."
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No, no...you'd be surprised at the other users here who think that gay shave no moral values and that straights are squatting on some pedestal...Just take a look around.
 
Gay men are gaymen and sorry but or the most part we are pigs when it comes to sex.
I don't consider it cheating unless it is ongoing with one person inparticular and I draw the line at local men.
In short situations where a relationship could develop.
Like it was said earlier you have to go with your own personal comfort level.
Which will change with age.
 
^ or rather, "Gay men are men and for the most part, we're pigs when it comes to sex."
 
If he doesn't think it's cheating, then he should allow you to know everything about it, right? Including watching while he does it?

Lex
 
not sure if it is considered cheating, but its not like hes deeply inlove with the online person and knows him in real life. In this case, camming, its like him watching porno.
 
>>>that's funny he actually told me "i didn't want to let you into 'that aspect' of my life"...

Thought so. :) You don't have to necessarily watch, but he should at least be able to say, "I'm going to go webcam with someone in the other room" to you. If he can't, there's obviously issues there.

Lex
 
I don't know; I just can't bring myself to classify this as cheating.

Would I be thrilled if I found my bf doing this? No, not really. Would I leave him? I don't know. It depends on a lot of things. Are you getting enough sex out of the relationship? Is he? Maybe he needs it more frequently than you do. This is a pretty innocent way of releasing his urges.

OTOH if he never wants sex with you anymore, then clearly this is reason to terminate the relationship.

Without more info, im sitting on thw fence on this one.
 
I think what's so wrong about is that he didn't ask or talk to you about it...
 
I have absolutely no interest in camming whatsoever.

Nope, I do not see this as cheating. And, nope, this would not be a deal-breaker with me.

Guys are complex creatures and, if my BF need camming, so be it. I'd love to know about it but I would never assume that I have any right to agree/disagree with it.

If you love the dude, get back to him and let him cam all he wants. No one gets hurt. No one gets sick. And his fantasy stays strong and good.

Besides, trust me, men hate to apologize... for thinking with their dicks. We all know that, don't we?

SC
 
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