Can A Gay Guy Go Bi?

[cardinal2007]

Well it didn't happen all at once. I will give details but try to be as succint as possible since I could easily fill a few pages. My first experience with a woman (other than just kissing and playing around) was with a friend's neighbor. She knew we were gay and I think she set out to try to convert me. We started out kissing and when we eventually had sex it was lackluster. She was very wet and very loose and not at all what I was accustomed to with guys so that didn't really go anywhere. I had other girlfriends from time to time where we played around but did not have actual intercourse although there were blowjobs and fingering. Women have always found me attractive, several of them held me down and kissed me when I was only about 12 and they were in high school.

My next experience was much better and was with a girl I was dating. Her pussy was sweet and tight and she gave excellent blowjobs. I have to admit that I enjoyed her telling me about her first boyfriend teaching her to suck cock. He was enormously endowed and I can attest that he was a good instructor. I also got a charge out of licking her clit to orgasm, she enjoyed the "butterfly" tonguing and would writhe and moan with pleasure when I went down on her. I am very orally stimulated in general and love to lick man ass so the pussylicking was an easy adaptation. I was open with her about my own experiences and she claimed that it did not bother her. We eventually got married but sadly she died of cancer a few years later. Being married totally changed the dynamics of our relationship and it was not as much fun, mainly because of job conflicts that took her away 3 weeks out of 4 but also because there was a lot less sex. It was a valuable and life changing experience although very painful. I won't get married again unless its to a man and I daresay that most of the men I'm attracted to would not consider marrying another man. I've had several experiences with "str8" married men and almost always seem to fall in love with my str8 best friends.

You siad your second experience was to a woman you were dating, did you decide you weren't gay after your first experience and decide to date women? Did you develop an interest in women after that incident eventhough you didn't think it went that well?

 

[zebec847]

No, I didn't decide I wasn't gay. I was living in a small isolated town and spent time dating just to keep from being bored out of my mind. I was pleasantly surprised that I could enjoy sex with a woman but still don't get all that excited about them. They appeal to me more as art than as sex objects, i.e. I can enjoy their beauty from an aesthetic sense but almost never meet one that arouses my libido.

 

[Kyanimal]

My experience has been going from Bi to Gay.

My teens, and twenties, perfectly coincided with the 60s and 70s. "Free Love", "Flower Power", and all that FUN stuff!

I was doing what was expected of me, and having more than my fair share of FUN with chicks! However, there were also some Guys "on the side" (or even During).

I always KNEW I was Gay since I developed an Intense interest in SEX! However, I was also able to fully explore that Interest in all of it's manifestations. (Well ... not ALL!)

When I was hitting 30, I finally decided to admit my Gayness.

And, it's been nothing butt Guys ever since!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[cardinal2007]

No, I didn't decide I wasn't gay. I was living in a small isolated town and spent time dating just to keep from being bored out of my mind. I was pleasantly surprised that I could enjoy sex with a woman but still don't get all that excited about them. They appeal to me more as art than as sex objects, i.e. I can enjoy their beauty from an aesthetic sense but almost never meet one that arouses my libido.

I guess I just didn't even think that a guy would date women just to pass the time. I used to think I was straight, and dated women in college, but I didn't really think it was fun, sometimes it would seem like girls would get upset at me over the smallest things. I wasn't interested in them sexually either, I just thought it was what guys did, date girls. Makes me wonder how small the town was. Do you consider yourself bi now, or do you feel it was just one exception for your former wife?

 

[zebec847]

Yes, women can be challenging if you are trying to be in a relationship. I did date women after my wife but found that most women over 30 hear their biological clocks ticking and it gets in the way of everything else. While I did have an emotional attachment and even felt a certain "lift" from being around a woman I was involved with I never got "butterflies" or a dry mouth the way I would around a man who aroused me. So I guess I'm mostly gay.

 

[jackyexcels]

Can you guys talk more about how you find women attractive. I want to turn myself to bi but I can't.

 

[cardinal2007]

Yes, women can be challenging if you are trying to be in a relationship. I did date women after my wife but found that most women over 30 hear their biological clocks ticking and it gets in the way of everything else. While I did have an emotional attachment and even felt a certain "lift" from being around a woman I was involved with I never got "butterflies" or a dry mouth the way I would around a man who aroused me. So I guess I'm mostly gay.

I never really had interest in women sexually when I was dating in college, but lately I've built a curiousity for what pussy feels like, especially after hearing from other guys about it, how did it come to be that you had sex the second time, did you initiate or did she? Would it be okay if I ask about the details?

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Yes, women can be challenging if you are trying to be in a relationship. I did date women after my wife but found that most women over 30 hear their biological clocks ticking and it gets in the way of everything else. While I did have an emotional attachment and even felt a certain "lift" from being around a woman I was involved with I never got "butterflies" or a dry mouth the way I would around a man who aroused me. So I guess I'm mostly gay.

I never really had interest in women sexually when I was dating in college, but lately I've built a curiousity for what pussy feels like, especially after hearing from other guys about it, how did it come to be that you had sex the second time, did you initiate or did she? Would it be okay if I ask about the details?