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Can a masculine and feminine guy have a relationship?

Funny little examply of my own balancing act of masculine/fem.

I LOVE paintballing - getting out there rolling in the dirt and mud shooting friends but I am such a girl about getting hit, I have never let myself be hit on my body where I can feel it, only helmet and shoe. So in my case my intense fear of getting shot and it hurting has made me a better player!

Just another example of the cosmic equalibrium:D
 
newkidondagayblock said:
Hi I am currently seeing a guy and he is a lil too feminine for me. The only reason it brings me down is because when we are out together, I don't like the looks other people give us. And I am shallow enough to let that affect me.
Secondly, I am not physically attracted to him. He is not the physical type I prefer, I prefer manly guys with a decent amount of body hair. He likes being smooth.
I am confused as to what to do next. I do not mind meeting him for movies or coffee or something like that. But I don't feel like having a sexual relation with him.
Just wanted you guys to know. Oh and he is 36, which I think is a tad too old for me. I am 27
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Dump him. Why are you even seeing him if you don't like him? There are a zillion hot,hairy,manly men who are in their late 30's. Give one of them a chance. It isn't the age difference that is the problem.
 
I've always had a soft space in my heart for fem boys. Many are sweet, beautiful and loving and they're often tougher than they look.

I am naturally protective of sweet dudes, and when they're out walking with me on those straight party drags, harrassment from the straight boys is not an issue.

I had a brief fling with one of that sort over the summer and I think I could love that guy. That beautiful guy...
 
I have an relationship with a masculine guy and ı'm feminine type guy.We have long term relationship that is currently active.But it's hard really.
 
You cannot have a relationship but you can build a relationship, if the parties are willing and it will work.

Basically, you either find a guy to be attractive enough or not. If former, try to make it work for both of you. Later regrets are pointless.

Do not worry about having different interests. People do change and they indeed, can grow together, too. At times, I am more than thrilled with the fact that I share some of my interests with my BF. And I am equally happy that some of my interests are only mine and conversely, some of his stuff is only his.

Everyone needs a corner where he can be alone and recover, heal, entertain himself or whatever. Doing everything together would be unbearable for most people in the long run.

SC
 
Totally! I'm toned and rather straight acting, my baby is a little more on the feminine side at times, not all. I must admit that he wasn't what i was expecting to have a relationship with but I just love him!!!:kiss:
I can't get enough of him. He is what I would call a beautiful man. Gorgeous eyes, full lips, oohhh so hot!!!! I wouldn't say girlie. Feminine is what he tends to be at times. So I say why not? especially if your emotions won't let you forget about him.
 
Have you ever hear that "Opposites Attract" ..... ?
Plain and simple ... GIVE IT A CHANCE !
Why question and doubt the relationship before it gets going ? Go with it ... You like who you like and remember ... A relationship takes Communication, Giving as well as taking, Compassion, Understanding, and Compromise .... GOOD LUCK !!
 
I have the same sort of problem!

I consider myself to be more on the masculine side of the spectrum (not that I try to, it's just who I am). I only find myself attracted to more masculine type guys too.

I think masculinity is A number 1 for me.

I can't explain it...it's just how I feel
 
My boyfriend is really big, surly and masculine (he's a firefighter =P) and I'm slim and fem so I'd say that it is perfectly possible.
 
Me personally, I dont mind guys that are a little feminine. I do however draw a line. It is a grey line but I can tell when I crossover it. I don't try to limit myself but we all have them.
 
newkidondagayblock said:
Hi I am currently seeing a guy and he is a lil too feminine for me. The only reason it brings me down is because when we are out together, I don't like the looks other people give us. And I am shallow enough to let that affect me.
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I can't help but feel that a lot of guys are affected being with someone femme is a problem because of how they fear other people will react.

It's an honest response but if you can't get past it then it is time to move on.
 
It IS possible.

My boyfriend is masculine and I'm more on the feminine side.

He loves me, he loves that I'm very affectionate, attentive, and that I always think about him.

And yes we have very different interests, he loves cars and sports and I like music, comics, and tv. But it hasn't been that much of a problem so far; he's always telling about this new car thing or points that awesome car over there so I look at it and I'm like "Awesome!" but in my head I got no clue what he's talking about lol...but I try!

BTW, what happened to Secondmonkey? He has never replied.
 
I consider myself somewhat balanced - neither excessively masculine nor feminine, and I tend to be attracted to more feminine guys. When I first came out, I wanted guys that were very much like girls, and I liked being able to express my masculine side to them, which they seemed to appreciate. However, I have always tended to attract more masculine men, and when I lived in Houston, this was especially the case. In Houston, I was constantly being approached by extremely masculine, butch men who wanted to treat me like a lady - open car doors for me, pay for everything, and then be dominant in bed. It really took some adjustment on my part to be able to appreciate that type of behavior, but I did learn to accept it. Most of my friends, however, were looking for the type that I attracted and didn't want, and they could not understand why I was not satisfied.

There are many degrees and ranges of masculinity and femininity, and I prefer to avoid extremes of either kind, although I find extreme femininity to be more acceptable. Extremely butch men scare me.
 
I forgot to say that I feel (theoretically) masculine men enjoy being around guys that are not as masculine as they are because they don't feel threatened and feel good being the most masculine one of the 2.
 
As long as the attraction is there, couldn't see why not
 
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If you need to ask yourself that question, you may not be ready for a long-term relationship with anyone. Relationships are very hard and require a certain level of maturity. If you need outside confirmation, your relationship is starting out on very shaky ground.
 
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I like sweet and effeminate guys ... just not the diva type ...
 
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