Can blacks and asians mix

[surferdude77]

We change the date of the date to tomorrow night we going to dinner and to see
Wadaiko Yamato:The Drummers of Japan live here in houston.

I so nerves I think I'm going to pass out now...............

 

[DeafFoxDemon]

good luck in ur date!!

 

[tx_doc]

as long as you both speak English, its cool with me. Go for it

What's that got to do with the price of tea in ....well, er.... China?

 

[NomineDetracto]

the story of you tripping is hillarious... not to be mean, it's just funny.

i live in Houston too.

 

[surferdude77]

Hey guys just wanted you all to know that the date was INCREDIBLE!!!!!!!!!!

Ps. after Wadaiko Yamato we went back to his dorm room and made out sorry no sex yet we both decided to take it slow.

 

[luminum]

It's a good idea to usually take responsibility for your own opinions. So if by "most Asians" you mean "yourself" that's perfectly fine. However, it's NOT a fact.

I personally would have no problem dating a black guy. In fact, I'm dating one now.

I don't know why it'd "sometimes be better to stick to one's OWN race!"

Can you extrapolate?

 

[luminum]

Sorry, no. I don't think you have a good grasp on what truth is and what it isn't. Truth is not "it's very common" and on top of that, meeting a few Asians who fit your description doesn't make it "very common" either. It doesn't make a statement about Asians in general, it only tells you what several individuals whom you have encountered prefer.

If a fact is about "most" anything, it's not a fact, just an observation. A fact about all people is that they all need air. An observation about most (which is equivalent to "some") is that they like the color blue.

Unless you survey every Asian on the planet and tally their ethnic preferences, all you have is an observation and an opinion. You don't have a fact about anything.

But basically, the point of your initial post was that Asians and Blacks shouldn't mix? And that "sometimes, it's better" that ethnicities don't mix?

 

[dousedfirepants]

Ah, ethnocentrism. I know it too well. My mom even said that she would pay for half of my future house if my spouse were Taiwanese. Unfortunately for her, there were two things wrong with that statement: 1) she hardly ever has any spare money (I had to lend her money when I had a job), and 2) I'm gay.

But you know what? If I were straight, I'd probably have a preference for Asian woman. I think I already do have a preference for Asian women. (Actually, I was looking at a [Taiwanese] girl in my chemistry lecture when I thought, "Maybe having a girlfriend wouldn't be so bad." Seriously. I'm starting to freak myself out nowadays.)

I find Utada Hikaru to be one of the most attractive women ever. Yes, yes...I know she's Japanese, but still...hm.

...Wait. What was everyone else talking about?

 

[NomineDetracto]

you know what else is a good idea?
not being a close-minded asshole.

 

[luminum]

Who are the people that you're referring to? Who is "you all"? I already said that I don't. My family might, but as individuals I don't and others don't. And why would some Asian families be a justification? Some Asian families don't have a problem. Does that mean that most Asian families don't have a problem?

You should be allowing individuals to take responsibility for their beliefs and actions instead of taking the beliefs of individuals and formatting them into statements about what a demographic "thinks in general".

And yes, they were YOUR words. Sticking to one's own race would mean not mixing with others. What else could you have meant?

I'm sorry that you're trying to normalize your experience as a universal truth when it's clear that it isn't. I'm not surprised that ethnic segregation is still favored and accepted by some. I'm surprised that people such as yourself still feel that rigid segregation is acceptable and "sometimes better" and that making blanket statements about other ethnicities qualifies as "fact".

 

[luminum]

Asians and blacks date! Fact!

With all your bogus statements, I hope that you can actually back up what you say with actual fact instead of your opinion. Do you know what a 'fact' is?

Opinions are not facts. Opinions are just opinions. What I just wrote--that is a fact.

 

[surferdude77]

Everyone have their opinions and I am happy with all the advice but now I feeling sorry for even asking.

 

[luminum]

Too bad that the fact that I, as an asian and with all my asian friends who don't feel any of the racist things you claim, mean nothing to you. Does it mean that some asians aren't racist? No. People in generally can be and are racist. But I can probably find just as many asian people who don't act the way your friends do.

It's not a fact that asians aren't racist. It's not a fact either that they are. A lot of Chinese men in China are sexist. Does that make it a 'fact' that Chinese men are sexist? No. Do you see how a generalization is not a fact?

I and none of my friends who are asian or any other ethnicity would ever call a black person a "nigger" to his or her face let alone behind his or her back. It's disrespectful and offensive. So seeing as you feel comfortable making these claims about people like me, and you're not asian, and you persist despite the fact that I, as an asian, am telling you to your face that it's NOT a fact, I don't know what else to say.

Your friends tell you one thing about their prejudices. I can tell you another about myself and all the asians I know, and you persist in believing that asians are mostly racist.

Even your initial post to this topic was just flat out offensive. Surferdude wrote that he wasn't sure because his friend told him one thing, and his experience turned out to be the exact opposite. And your post is to tell him that maybe it's better for people to stick to their own ethnicities? Then you make generalizations about cultures that you actually know nothing about first-hand to normalize that segregationist perspective. Do you really think you have sufficient knowledge about being an asian to say that "as a fact" asians like whites because they have inferiority complexes and want money and all your other 'facts'? How many other generalizations do you want to rattle off? What does that say about you?

If anything, Surerboy's experience should demonstrate that not all asians are racist. On top of that, what I'm telling you is that neither I nor any of my asian friends behave the way you say "most asians" behave toward non-whites. So give me a number of exactly how many testimonies you would have to hear before you even start questioning this idea you seem so determined to keep believing. How many testimonies would make "most asians" non-racists? How many testimonies would make "most asians" about as racist/non-racist as any other demographic?

Of course some asians are racist, and some are no more racist than anyone else. Where I take issue is that you seem to think this free ground to make your own personal racist statements about asians and be negative about the fact that two ethnicities meeting didn't end the way you believe it's supposed to. Perhaps you're the one who suffers from a desire to "be white" or "have all the money" or maybe you suffer from an "inferiority complex". Maybe from this I can assume that most people who are your ethnicity suffer from these things as well. I read it on this forum, so it must be a "fact", right?

You can either continue believing that most asians are racist and that it will never change, but I know from my own personal experience and the lives of my friends and family that while some people (Latinos, Asians, Blacks, Whites, etc.) are racist, others aren't and they're not alone. So feel free to resolve yourself to accept racism and promote your own racist views if it makes you feel better. But it certainly doesn't make you part of the solution.