Can girls drive guys to other guys?

[invadjurbutters]

Uh well I realyly am bi accept if it was the difference between sex with a guy and sex with a girl I'd go with guy,and if it was mariage or even just a long span of dating I would go with a guy over a girl.It's possible a guy could turn to gay sex but you know how some people are they don't try new things so in that case I guess no,but I think women could cause men to expiriment more or just hire a stripper.

 

[Blacksheep]

I've just come out of a long term relationship dating a girl/woman (we started dating when we were both 16), I 'fessed up about my sexuality about half-way through our relationship (we'd had a huge fight and had just 'split-up' and she brought up the fact I looked at half naked men in adverts for too long). That particular split-up lasted all of about two days. I never considered having sex with anyone else during the entire duration of our dating (man or woman). Having said that since splitting up with her I have only considered dating men. I put that down to two reasons though a.) Because I've never been with a guy (I messed around with another boy when I was younger though) and b.) I figure it's easier to move on from a relationship if your new one is as different as possible to the last one.

So whilst I will be dating a man after dating a woman, I don't think she drove me to it as much as it's something other than what I just had.

 

[subobj]

My own experience . . .

I guess I'm between a 4 and 5 on the Kinsey scale (3 being completely bi (e.g., 50/50), 0 being completely straight, 6 being completely gay). My first relationship ever was with a fairly emotionally abusive woman. After I left that relationship, the thought of being with another woman inevitably opened some very painful emotional wounds. So I told myself I was exclusively gay for a very long time -- because I wanted to keep those emotions at bay.

But I've realized in the past 5 or so years that I'd been lying to myself -- truth be told, I'm still very much attracted to some women. And I realize, now, that I could have actually been exploring that side of myself and my sexuality all this time -- but instead I'd retreated inside of the "exclusively gay" label because it was emotionally safer.

So, while I believe I've always been on the gay side of bi, an emotionally abusive relationship with a woman did cause me to deny my bi side for quite a long time. I'm guessing that I'm not alone here, and that a certain very small percentage of guys who identify as exclusively gay actually have actually had similar experiences.

 

[cesco]

My own experience . . .

I guess I'm between a 4 and 5 on the Kinsey scale (3 being completely bi (e.g., 50/50), 0 being completely straight, 6 being completely gay). My first relationship ever was with a fairly emotionally abusive woman. After I left that relationship, the thought of being with another woman inevitably opened some very painful emotional wounds. So I told myself I was exclusively gay for a very long time -- because I wanted to keep those emotions at bay.

But I've realized in the past 5 or so years that I'd been lying to myself -- truth be told, I'm still very much attracted to some women. And I realize, now, that I could have actually been exploring that side of myself and my sexuality all this time -- but instead I'd retreated inside of the "exclusively gay" label because it was emotionally safer.

So, while I believe I've always been on the gay side of bi, an emotionally abusive relationship with a woman did cause me to deny my bi side for quite a long time. I'm guessing that I'm not alone here, and that a certain very small percentage of guys who identify as exclusively gay actually have actually had similar experiences.

Almost the same here...married to an abusive woman for 15 years....I find it difficult to be around women as I found solace with men. Since divorced I've been with both men and women and am still working out what I really do prefer. When with a woman I want a guy, when with a guy, I want a woman. What's up with that????

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Almost the same here...married to an abusive woman for 15 years....I find it difficult to be around women as I found solace with men. Since divorced I've been with both men and women and am still working out what I really do prefer. When with a woman I want a guy, when with a guy, I want a woman. What's up with that????

You want what you don't have.

 

[-Ryan-]

yes, girls can drive guys to other guys.

the things girls can SAY and/or DO can make the guy cuckoo.

 

[jyrdgs]

Emotionally maybe: some guy might prefer comfort and time of other males.

Sexually never.

Totally agree with you.

 

[flixelblix]

Living my life as I do, an unhappy father of two, I can honestly say that my bitch of a wife has given me that push.

I won't date other women because I own my house in a bad housing market, got one of the two kids full time, school activities etc. and generally don't want to give those things up for some woman who only wants a man to take care of her.

Wife hasn't spread her legs for me in the last five years and when she did, it was nothing worth mentioning. Too much and not enough makes for a grumpy boy!

We talked about other partners a long time ago when she "came out" that she wanted pussy. Now, I am free to play with the other boys but she doesn't want me to leave her for another woman. Same sex is better than no sex.

Now if I were single again, I'd live alone and spend more time with guys than girls because I've lost all hope in "happily ever after".

I'll never give up entirely on women though, I love the taste of a woman too much to go gay.