Can I go back or did I miss my chance?

[user3939]

Hi This is my first post... I'm looking for your opinions...

I was walking in the mall and I see this really good looking asian at a sunglasses kiosk... When I say good looking, I mean I couldn't even clone better even if I try to. lol (Btw I'm good looking too, so I do think I have a chance if he's indeed gay). Anyways I stop and start looking at the sunglasses, so he eventually approaches me and saids "hi, are you looking for a gift?". So of course I complicate things by answering "Yes, it's for my brother". Anyway we talk about how my brother looks like, and I tried like 5 sunglasses or something. He was first showing me glasses in the 400$ range, so I kind of mentionned that. Anyways there were not many sunglasses in the 100$ range so that kind of limited my time there, so he showed me the choices. lol

Then as I wanted to change the subject and kind of chat (I said "man it must be long to be here alone"), he saids "yeah it's so long" and immediately a couple appears with a question and he starts helping them. I stayed there for a few minutes looking at glasses, but it was obvious that this was taking too long and he was very busy, and I felt at that point that I had looked at all the choices he gave me and I didn't want to stay there waiting because it would be weird. So I got ready to leave and I said "thank you". He actually extended his hand and we did a handshake.

Ok, here's what I said right as I was leaving. lol I said "btw i want to tell you that you are really good looking". I said it low because the other customers weren't far, he didn't hear it at first and asked me "what..?", so I repeated it... then he said "thank you". The thing is, I said it after the handshake as I was leaving and as he was turning to get back to the other customers... so it was really not the right timing, nothing followed I just disappeared and he went back to the other customers... I kind of wish that I hadn't said it because I could have showed up another time and talked more, or I wish that I had said it at a better timing to allow a reaction/follow up. But anyways what happened already happened so I can't change that.

Now I know that the chances that he's gay are slim and that we are basically complete strangers... My question is, is it too late to go back at a later date and say something like "hey remember me"? lol Would it be ackward or seem obsessive, or is it cool? I mean obviously he probably figured out that I wasn't there for the glasses and that i just talked to him because he's cute, but I don't want to show up again and he feels like "this is akward this guy is following me". Also it's hard to know if he actually thought about it the rest of the day and wished I would comeback, or if he just forgot it/doesn't care or if he thought to himself "OK what was that". Basically nothing really happened besides talking about glasses, except for the comment I said as I was leaving. lol I'm pretty sure it got him thinking, but in what way, I don't know.

Do you think I missed my chance, or can I actually go back and see what happens next? (if he remembers me and talks, or if he kind of tries to avoid me). I don't want to seem disrespectful or scare him, but man he was so damn fine lol. It's been like a year that I haven't come across a guy that can even compete with this one.

 

[Smitho]

Go for it! There are two options hes gay and you could set up a hot date, or you have a really really fucking awkward conversation with a straight stranger, and never see him again, which would not be a problem, once you got out the shop.

He would have a flattered ego whatever and a weird story to tell about the time the gay guy hit on him.

Try and make it obvious you are interested and make a pretext to leave your number, have it pre written. Then its up to him to call you or not. Its only the second time so you are not in stalker territory, but a revisit on a lame arse pretext so he knows what you want and hand over your number. Thats what I would do.

And good luck!!

 

[user3939]

thanks for your reply... in your opinion should i go back tomorrow (the next day) or would it be too fast? should I wait a little bit?

 

[Smitho]

Tomorrow, defiantly, and make it obvious. Hes either interested or not, gay or not, no point playing some mind games, leave your number so he is not on the spot to make a decision that minute, but can think about it.

Say something like, "I dropped my wallet yesterday, did you find it?" (Obviously he says, No) then, "here's my number if anyone hands it in or you need to call me about anything" and get chatting, difficult if he is busy, but mid week, should be ok. Be friendly, and see what happens. No exactly subtle, but you don't want to be waiting for ages wondering if he got the message. Finally, please if he does not call, respect that hes not interested and move on.

 

[tsmtchl]

I agree with Smitho. You should definately give it another chance - besides what do you have to loose? It's much better than spending a lifetime wondering "What if." Best of luck! Keep us posted on the outcome.

 

[jizzeater]

There's no way he's not going to remember you. You just have to walk near his kiosk and his reaction will tell you everything you need to know.

If he sees you and immediately turns away or avoids eye contact...you know what that means. If he smiles or talks, then you are good to proceed.

 

[CudDULL]

Its a nice change to have someone post being bold for once.

I think you should go back the next day, but he might not be scheduled the same time so that might be a possibility.

 

[user3939]

Its a nice change to have someone post being bold for once.

I think you should go back the next day, but he might not be scheduled the same time so that might be a possibility.

You were right... I went back, but he was not there, it was another salesperson. Now the problem is, if I go back every day hoping he's there, I think it might become too much for me, like obsessing or something... anyways i guess i'll see what I'll do, I'll probably go tomorrow again, if he's not there, I might wait for next tuesday (that's when I saw him) in case that's his schedule...

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

yeah - just get there when he is -- you can always ask whatever clerk is there - When is that asian guy working again? - that would be okay.. if they say why? just say - he was helping me with some shades - the other day and i wanted his ideas ..

and when you do get there when he is -- chat him up some more - and gawd - don't say - do you remember me - cuz he def will - hopefully it will turn into - "wanna grab some coffee when you get off" - or sumthn nice.