Can I have some advice, please?

[fetaby]

The absolute easiest way to meet gay men, is to be one....

Go to the bars, the bookstores, the coffee houses, the gyms, the parks, the beaches... we are everywhere...

Why look for them, when they can find you... slap on that rainbow wrist band and don't look back... if that's what you want...

mainly just stay open and you'll be surprised at what happens.

 

[wrestlewatcher]

The absolute easiest way to meet gay men, is to be one....

Go to the bars, the bookstores, the coffee houses, the gyms, the parks, the beaches... we are everywhere...

Why look for them, when they can find you... slap on that rainbow wrist band and don't look back... if that's what you want...

mainly just stay open and you'll be surprised at what happens.

Thanks very much....I am going to bed feeling a lot better. If you only knew...

 

[fetaby]

You sir, are too kind... have a good night, and go rub one out, you'll sleep like a lil baby.

 

[wrestlewatcher]

You sir, are too kind... have a good night, and go rub one out, you'll sleep like a lil baby.

Yeah, that is how I typically feel afterward (lol). Maybe if I try things out with the right guy, he could do the stroking for me...and vice versa...never know. Thanks.

 

[Achilleus]

Wrestlewatcher,

I am in essentially the same place you are. You can find my coming out post from just a few days ago. All we have to do man, is have the courage to explore our desires. The journey begins with the first step out the door, or is that out of the closet?

Semper fi

 

[KaraBulut]

1. There is nothing wrong with how I feel.
2. There is nothing wrong with me for wanting some guy on guy action.
3. I should do some exploring with guys (even though I don't know where to start - literally).
4. I should enjoy life and not be totally bogged down with this - I should be having some fun with it.
5. I need to get a man and start some experimenting.

That pretty much sums it up.

One thing that you need to give some thought to is whether you want to just indulge your fetishes or whether you want to really give it a go with dating guys. You may not know the answer to that yet.

As to where to start- well, if you're in a part of the US where you won't have any problems finding someone to play with. Run an ad on a personals site saying that you're bicurious you want to wrestle and play safe with another guy. You won't have any problem finding a sparring partner. In fact, your problem is going to be figuring out which of the many potential grappling partners to invite to your mat.

 

[wrestlewatcher]

Wrestlewatcher,

I am in essentially the same place you are. You can find my coming out post from just a few days ago. All we have to do man, is have the courage to explore our desires. The journey begins with the first step out the door, or is that out of the closet?

Semper fi

Thanks for that...yeah, I need a lot of courage. I just want to fulfill this desire..I think I would enjoy it...maybe not. Who knows?

 

[wrestlewatcher]

That pretty much sums it up.

One thing that you need to give some thought to is whether you want to just indulge your fetishes or whether you want to really give it a go with dating guys. You may not know the answer to that yet.

As to where to start- well, if you're in a part of the US where you won't have any problems finding someone to play with. Run an ad on a personals site saying that you're bicurious you want to wrestle and play safe with another guy. You won't have any problem finding a sparring partner. In fact, your problem is going to be figuring out which of the many potential grappling partners to invite to your mat.

RIght now I know I do not want to seriously date a guy....I would like to indulge in some safe, clean, fun. Is that possible? Can I actually do that? I don't want to lead someone on.

As for running ads, I am too reluctant...I hear of too many crazy stories of things going wrong with relationships over the Internet, especially when it comes to things like this. I wish I could though....just getting naked, doing some kissing, rubbing, grabbing, touching...is there anything wrong with that? WHERE IS THAT GUY WHO WANTS THE SAME...NOTHING SERIOUS, JUST SOME EXPERIMENTATION????

 

[G-Lexington]

That guy is out there. But you have to go find him. And the easiest way is...yep, running an ad. Let me give you a template.

Straight-but-curious wrestling fan looking for a patient helpful guy to see a bit of what's on the other side. I'd like to just try some nude wrestling, kissing, groping to start out with. Initial public meet-up a must.

That last bit is your safety net. Instead of just inviting a guy over to your place and hoping he doesn't have a knife and bad intentions, you meet him some place public first. A coffee shop, say, or a restaurant. You chat a little, discuss what you'd like to have happen and what your expectations are, and you ask what he is hoping to get out of the arrangement. If you feel comfortable with him, set up a (different date and) time to actually meet up to get your wrestle on. If you don't feel comfortable around him, say "I'm sorry - I'm just not feeling comfortable around you, so I'm not sure I can go through with this. But thanks so much for meeting with me", pay for his coffee and/or meal, and leave.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

As for running ads, I am too reluctant...I hear of too many crazy stories of things going wrong with relationships over the Internet, especially when it comes to things like this. I wish I could though....just getting naked, doing some kissing, rubbing, grabbing, touching...is there anything wrong with that? WHERE IS THAT GUY WHO WANTS THE SAME...NOTHING SERIOUS, JUST SOME EXPERIMENTATION????

There are a lot of guys who have wrestling fetishes. Check out the WWE thread here- it's one of the post popular in the JUB forums. And there are porn studios like Can-Am that have wrestling videos where the guys either just greco-roman wrestle naked or have a little take-down and fuck each other silly.

So, yes- if you're offering a NSA naked tumble with "kissing, rubbing, grabbing, touching", you're going to have lots of takers.

Take Lex's advice. Run the ad. Chat on the phone. If someone interests you, then just meet up- have a coffee and talk. If you hit it off, go to a sporting event then head home, oil each other up and hit the mat together.

 

[wrestlewatcher]

That guy is out there. But you have to go find him. And the easiest way is...yep, running an ad. Let me give you a template.

Straight-but-curious wrestling fan looking for a patient helpful guy to see a bit of what's on the other side. I'd like to just try some nude wrestling, kissing, groping to start out with. Initial public meet-up a must.

That last bit is your safety net. Instead of just inviting a guy over to your place and hoping he doesn't have a knife and bad intentions, you meet him some place public first. A coffee shop, say, or a restaurant. You chat a little, discuss what you'd like to have happen and what your expectations are, and you ask what he is hoping to get out of the arrangement. If you feel comfortable with him, set up a (different date and) time to actually meet up to get your wrestle on. If you don't feel comfortable around him, say "I'm sorry - I'm just not feeling comfortable around you, so I'm not sure I can go through with this. But thanks so much for meeting with me", pay for his coffee and/or meal, and leave.

Lex

The way you word it certainly sounds worth considering...I guess I am working my way up to that.

I'm sorry to sound like I need so much reassurance here. I just thought I was alone in my feelings...

So I am not odd to picture some cute guy naked, or sneak a peek in the gym when some handsome man takes his towel off and is dressing or undressing? Right? There is one at the gym - not model-like, just very cute - whose ass I just want to get my hands on and kiss all over!! I am noticing him more and more. We just always are in the lockerroom the same time - coincidences. And he's a full undresser.

 

[wrestlewatcher]

There are a lot of guys who have wrestling fetishes. Check out the WWE thread here- it's one of the post popular in the JUB forums. And there are porn studios like Can-Am that have wrestling videos where the guys either just greco-roman wrestle naked or have a little take-down and fuck each other silly.

So, yes- if you're offering a NSA naked tumble with "kissing, rubbing, grabbing, touching", you're going to have lots of takers.

Take Lex's advice. Run the ad. Chat on the phone. If someone interests you, then just meet up- have a coffee and talk. If you hit it off, go to a sporting event then head home, oil each other up and hit the mat together.

Yes, I love the WWE thread..especially the revealing pictures that are posted. Harmless, clean wrestling is what I love. I feel like I need to just explore a little more, and like Lex said above, some careful advertising might not hurt. I wish I could just pick that right guy out...

I felt so much better about myself today. Thank you to everyone. I don't feel like an oddity or that I would be a jerk to some girl because I am interested in this.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>So I am not odd to picture some cute guy naked, or sneak a peek in the gym when some handsome man takes his towel off and is dressing or undressing?

Dude, I'm gay. I picture guys naked all the time. I personally don't do the peek-y thing in dressing rooms - not because I find it wrong, but because I'm just not that visually attuned. But from what I've found, I'm in a VERY small minority there. And even so, yes - I love hot guys, I love hot guys' asses, and there are some I'd like to play with from now until at least mid-February.

Lex

 

[wrestlewatcher]

>>>So I am not odd to picture some cute guy naked, or sneak a peek in the gym when some handsome man takes his towel off and is dressing or undressing?

Dude, I'm gay. I picture guys naked all the time. I personally don't do the peek-y thing in dressing rooms - not because I find it wrong, but because I'm just not that visually attuned. But from what I've found, I'm in a VERY small minority there. And even so, yes - I love hot guys, I love hot guys' asses, and there are some I'd like to play with from now until at least mid-February.

Lex

You sound like a terrific guy - you all do. Now for me to find that cutie, get naked with him, and start folling around. I have to have confidence!!

 

[ShihTzuTylenol]

Hi - This is my first time asking for some advice/an opinion, so forgive me if I am a bit wordy. I have been on this site for a few years now and it is terrific; plus, I have seen all the great help you all have given, so I thought I could share this...

I am having a bit of difficulty. I find women to be attractive, but I also find men to be attractive too. This has been going on for some time now - I am in my 30's. When I see a woman who is attractive (not just physically), I feel attracted. But the same happens with men. I will comment to myself, "Wow, she's cute," but I will also comment to myslef, "wow, he is hot," etc. I saw a guy recently, he was very handsome, but what made him even hotter to me, was he took some things out of his girl's hands while we were waiting on line - he was considerate. I look at guys physically also; I check out guys at the gym, etc. I love wrestling (hence, my screenname). I love it when male wrestlers are exposed in the ring. It is such a turn on. Is this not appropriate, especially if I am in a relationship with a woman?

I am torn because I also find women attractive, it's just that I have been in a slump datingwise. I want a wife, a family, etc. However, I would love to get naked and foolaround with a cute guy. I also would not mind doing that with a girl. Should I let this attraction to men stop me from pursuing things with women? I look at it like this: if I wasn't attracted to men at all, and just attracted to women, and I was dating someone, there is nothing wrong with noticing that another woman is attractive, hot etc. In my case, I also find men attractive, hot, etc. If I am in a relationship, I wouldn't cheat either way.
Am I odd? What is wrong with me???? I would appreciate any feedback. Thank you.

y'ain't weird! maybe you're like me? Leaving all your options open?
I love women, but I'll never live with one of the crazy fuckers again! hahaha! and they're all insane-- they love tryna play us men like a fiddle!

 

[wrestlewatcher]

y'ain't weird! maybe you're like me? Leaving all your options open?
I love women, but I'll never live with one of the crazy fuckers again! hahaha! and they're all insane-- they love tryna play us men like a fiddle!

So how has your experience with men been as opposed to women?

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>You sound like a terrific guy - you all do. Now for me to find that cutie, get naked with him, and start folling around. I have to have confidence!!

Just give it a go. Write the ad, post it, sort through the responses, and set up a meeting with somebody. If you want to post your rough draft of your ad here, or send it to me via PM, I'd be more than happy to offer suggestions.

Lex

 

[wrestlewatcher]

>>>You sound like a terrific guy - you all do. Now for me to find that cutie, get naked with him, and start folling around. I have to have confidence!!

Just give it a go. Write the ad, post it, sort through the responses, and set up a meeting with somebody. If you want to post your rough draft of your ad here, or send it to me via PM, I'd be more than happy to offer suggestions.

Lex

Thanks, but where do I put such an ad? Or, where do I look - maybe there is someone with the same curiosity as I have. Could be, right?

 

[KaraBulut]

realjock.com
adam4adam.com
manhunt.net
dlist.com
squirt.org

Lots of choices.