can long distance really work?

[perthboy]

so i have been talking to this guy on the net lately problem is he lives in another state. i really like him he's hot, nice, sensitive, and has an enormous cock oh and a twin he said would occasionally join in on the fun(all is true). what i think the plan is that he'll come visit me soon then again a bit later then i'll visit him and move over closer to him when i finish my course in a year to a year and a half. we've said we're not gonna be official till we've met and we are not having sex for 7 days after we've met cuz we both have have some issues with intimacy and don't want sex to cloud our feelings. So we can do anything with other people till we first meet.

it hasn't been long and i dont if we'll keep this going or what but what i wana know is what do u think of our plan, do you think it is at all feasible to start a relationship and be apart for the first year n half with only about 12 weeks together. does anyone have a story that is similar to our plan?

 

[perthboy]

im actually quite skeptical about it working i just wana know if i can get my hopes up at all and if somthing similar has worked out at all.

 

[hotatlboi]

nope, doesn't work.

The only possible way is if you meet early on and one of you has the capability to relocate if you want to be together.

 

[strosbuff88]

This sounds overwhelming to me!

First, the mentioning of "no sex for seven days." Is there some formula or equation you worked out for that? Does something miraculous occur within that time frame?

Next, when I read the word "official" I have to ask, "official what?" If this is suppose to correlate to being represented as a relationship you're definitely over-thinking it. Alright, so you both have chatted constantly on the web. Ever had a conversation with him? Verified his identity?

I ask, because even though you're new to the forum and I do welcome you I'm sure you understand that anyone can represent themselves to be someone who in actuality they are not.

If you don't want "sex to cloud our feelings" then why not perhaps not do that until you believe you do have affection or attraction towards him once meeting. Excuse the southern hospitality but shouldn't that be something shared with someone you care for? Trust?

I've personally never heard of a 'plan', but I do wish the best!

 

[DeadRussianSpaceMonkey]

http://www.justinplusone.com/2011/05/6-reasons-that-long-distance.html

 

[Just_Believe18]

Right now this is all just talk and hormones over the Internet. Don't spend too much energy over this, perth.

 

[Seasoned]

Any chance his twin could move? Sorry for being flip, but my long distance relationship work because it began as a live-in and then a move for work and then a move back together again.

 

[altlover85]

Yes, long distance relationships can work. However, you haven't even met yet, so I wouldn't worry about that yet.

The only possible way is if you meet early on and one of you has the capability to relocate if you want to be together.

I agree that in order for an LDR to work, someone needs to be able to relocate.

 

[GamerBear]

Long distance relationships work, if you say they don't then you probably had issues with the relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and we are still living apart in different states.

Communication is the key to making it healthy, and honesty too. But I agree with most of the posters here.

 

[NineOfClubs]

The one I tried, it didn't work.

We really were the most compatible couple ever (when we were together).

But once it became clear there wasn't much chance of us closing the distance, it ended.

 

[GamerBear]

Well then I guess there are two issues, the relationship and the distance. If these two don't work out then I guess the relationship or the distance cancel out and it's all over.