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Can People Tell You're Gay From How You Act ?

Gaydar is so hard to fine tune these days. Mostly because straight guys are getting more into the trends that the people generally assume only gay guys would be interested in (which, again not all gay guys are into). You find more straight guys getting manicures, pedicures, and wearing high end fashion than gay guys sometimes...

And voice has nothing to do with it. If voice determined sexuality, David Beckham would be the gayest man alive.
 
Depends. I came out to one of my friends and she said "yea, I know" and I asked her how, she said "you never tried to hit on me".
 
That's so true! There's no more "obvious" ways of telling gay men apart these days without actually asking them (which i personally don't have the balls to do) #-o
 
After maybe 15 years of knowing him...one night one of my customers who was also a friend asked me (while I was bartending in a frggin gay bar) if I was "really gay"...because I didnt' seem like it. I asked him why he would say that to me after all these years but he couldn't "put his finger on it"....

Other than that I never really ask anyone but in general I think not.
 
Eh, people who knew me for a long time weren't surprised when they learned. Nowadays nobody can tell on a first glance, but after an hour of talking with me, most get a clue. I am way too open about my sexuality.
 
I'd say most of them have been shocked and usually think I'm joking but I've also had some others who weren't that shocked when I told them, most guys who are gay or bi, but for the most part people have been surprised and then ask a bunch of initial questions. I feel though that most people I came out to, I became closer with. The funniest to me was one of my female friends told me "lol no you're not. Shut up" and I had to spend the next three minutes or so convincing her that I wasn't trying to trick her or joking.

I think most gay or bi guys have a better gaydar than heteros but I've also known some gay guys who are clueless and straight people who have much better fine tuned gaydar; usually if they had a family member or acquantance was was gay or bi in the past.

There are about three or four people I came out to in hopes that they would come out to me also, because I KNOW they aren't straight. One of them sort of did after we talked and the other two were both either in denial or just didn't want to talk about it.
 
I was sitting -all leathered up- in the tram last Sunday with a friend and a little girl asked if we were policemen.
 
I have an inkling that a lot of people say 'Really? I'd never have known' to be polite ;)
 
No, not at all.


But women at clubs did tell me I was an asshole...when my hands were accidentally on their asses though. !oops!
 
I think I am totally 'obvious' ... I mean I'm positively flaming with my camp shrieking high-pitched voice, my effeminate arm-flailing gesticulations, and the way that I girlishly sashay my hips as I mince down the street eyeing up all the guys and flirting like a cheap tart.

But apparently not.

In actuality, women often know I am gay; men seldom do.

But then (generally speaking) men seem far less interested in other people than women.
 
BENDERBOY said:
My mum says she always knew, but my friends had no idea.
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Mine was quite the opposite. My friends say they were not entirely surprised since they've suspected it more and more in recent years without ever being 100% certain, but my immediate family claim to have been completely blind-sided by the whole debacle. As have the other people I've told.

So... I guess I'm kinda straight-acting. Cue knee-jerk righteous indignation for use of the term. :twisted:

-d-
 
The majority of people are shocked. Others claim that they had a feeling once I tell them. I'm apparently very laid back, which doesn't make me come across as gay o.o I always end up laughing when people tell me that, though.
 
I completely shocked all my of mates in college when I told them, I didn't say anything 'till the end of our first year and absolutely none of them had copped it. I've been told I'm extremely "straight acting", to use a phrase I don't particularly like. The other gay guy in my class was a huge shock to everyone too, including myself. Not only did he not ping the dar, he's the last person I would have ever suspected.

My ma had even less of a clue, but it hasn't been brought up or mentioned since then.

My close mates (all lads), the ones I literally see every single day, always suspected it but it was less to do with my mannerisms and more to do with the fact that I wasn't chasing girls and constantly commenting on every girl we knew, etc, etc (anyone with a lengthy dry spell has faced similar speculation). I've been told if I was in any way "camp" or effeminate that they wouldn't associate with me so I think that says enough about my mannerisms. They're the type of lads that think all gay people are running around with jazz hands and handbags and whatnot.

I think with the amount of people coming out these days, it's starting to show that camp/flaming/effeminate (whatever phrase you wanna use) gay guys are actually the minority.
 
I think saying people are wearing it as a "badge of honour" might be a little unfair. The reason I like the fact that I'm not camp is because I like contradicting the stereotype of a "gay man" that everyone has over here.
 
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