Attention Can We Just Go Back To Being Friends ?

[Cormac135]

Once you cross the line is there anyway back ?

 

[belamyi]

 

[peeonme]

It would be hard... real hard.

 

[Cormac135]

It would be hard... real hard.

Still ?

No, i get your point.

 

[Alistair]

I wish I knew how to quit you

 

[LeicsDom]

Once you cross the line is there anyway back ?

Of course, if you both want it
I have several friends that I slept with once and then progressed to being good friends

 

[NotHardUp1]

I have. My "ex" in Alaska is a good friend now and we text or share life pics or occasionally talk by phone.

 

[belamyi]

A friend would never "cross the line" because, between friends, there are no "lines" to be crossed.

 

[rareboy]

I think you can....but sometimes an ex then gets a new partner who is so toxic, that your own friendship can't survive.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

A friend would never "cross the line" because, between friends, there are no "lines" to be crossed.

Such naïveté from one so cynical! Have you taken your temperature recently, Carlitos?

I think you can....but sometimes an ex then gets a new partner who is so toxic, that your own friendship can't survive.

When your ex walks off with Britney Spears, there's but little to be done.

 

[belamyi]

Such naïveté from one so cynical! Have you taken your temperature recently, Carlitos?

It would be a naïveté if I applied it to just anyone. I was merely remarking that you can't say you have a proper friend or a proper "friend-with-benefits-temporary-love-of-your-life-whatever" unless it is someone with whom all "drama" of "we-have-to-talk-I-want-to-make-it-work-let's-remain-friends-whatever" is entirely superfluous and, in fact, utterly impossible: you can't be a real cynical unless your are deeply "romantic" and "idealist".
The problem is precisely that "common", "normal" people pretend to be everyday romantic and idealist because they are ultimately the opposite to the core.

Clear now?

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

What line?

Sex or an actual relationship?

I got really drunk and hooked up with a friend last summer. Our friendship went right back to what it was before with zero awkwardness.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

On the other hand, I've had friends who became friends after we dated/hooked up initially. I don't think that's really out of the ordinary in the gay community.

 

[Zeno Lorea]

I sometimes meet old classmates or other old friends in a sex club and if we want, we just fuck. But I rarely become friends with people after having sex with them. I have half a dozen close friends and they're all straight.

 

[belamyi]

It would be a naïveté if I applied it to just anyone. I was merely remarking that you can't say you have a proper friend or a proper "friend-with-benefits-temporary-love-of-your-life-whatever" unless it is someone with whom all "drama" of "we-have-to-talk-I-want-to-make-it-work-let's-remain-friends-whatever" is entirely superfluous and, in fact, utterly impossible: you can't be a real cynical unless your are deeply "romantic" and "idealist".
The problem is precisely that "common", "normal" people pretend to be everyday romantic and idealist because they are ultimately the opposite to the core.

Clear now?

Clear now after... how many years of reading my posts, Hark!ie?

 

[belamyi]

What line?

Sex or an actual relationship?

I got really drunk and hooked up with a friend last summer. Our friendship went right back to what it was before with zero awkwardness.

On the other hand, I've had friends who became friends after we dated/hooked up initially. I don't think that's really out of the ordinary in the gay community.

You people are so lucky to find so easily sexually arousing partners...