Can you have sex without a relationship?

[MidnightPrism]

Do you have or do you want to have sex with no strings attached? Just some guy you met but have no feelings for.


I don't like just having sex with anonymous people. The only time I have sex is when I'm in a monogamous relationship.

 

[TaigaStar]

I say it can be done, but it's not for me.

 

[theatreboi]

of course people do it all the time, but i've never tried. this one guy who i liked for a very short period of time, then realized i didn't tried to get me to go at it with him, but i just couldn't get into it. I wrote a whole thread about the experience.

 

[alister9669]

I've never had sex with someone where I wasn't in a relationship with them. I don't see myself every having random sex.

 

[star-warrior]

I spent long teenage years with my hand for company. So yes. I bet there are plenty of you who'd say something similar.

 

[looseliam]

I've had lots of sex sans relationship. But never with a complete stranger.

 

[ronnie_h]

yes, absolutely.. i guess i had more sex without a relationship than the other way

 

[wanky_window]

i've had random sex with strangers a few times, but always felt awful afterwards, but that's more down to bipolar disorder than actually wanting to do it, so maybe that's abit irrelevant

 

[sb]

Yes I can have sex without a relationship.
It doesn't make me better or worse than people who can't have sex with someone they just met.
It doesn't make the sex I have more or less meaningful.

 

[Andreus]

ive had anonymous sex and sex within a loving committed relationship.

its just been my experience that sex in a relationship is lightyears more exciting and erotic than sex with strangers.

I dont judge anyone for either way

 

[MidnightPrism]

I don't judge people and as I have been told often I might loosen up a little once I am more experienced.

 

[ahotjock71]

Um, being consitently single, I only have sex without a relationship. Although I wish it were the other way around.

 

[slobone]

Do you have or do you want to have sex with no strings attached? Just some guy you met but have no feelings for.


I don't like just having sex with anonymous people. The only time I have sex is when I'm in a monogamous relationship.

I see that a lot around here, so maybe somebody can finally explain it to me. How does that work? Do you tell the guy "I'm not going to have sex with you until you agree to be monogamous with me"? Is it hard to find guys who'll go along with that?

I mean, even straight people don't do that anymore. They date a few times, they have sex a few times, then they decide whether they're in a relationship or not. Just like gay people (used to?) do.

 

[slobone]

Oh, and also, reading the other posts, are you guys aware that there is something between sex in a monogamous relationship and anonymous, random sex?

I mean, at a minimum you can at least introduce yourselves to each other....

 

[ahotjock71]

Oh, and also, reading the other posts, are you guys aware that there is something between sex in a monogamous relationship and anonymous, random sex?

I mean, at a minimum you can at least introduce yourselves to each other....

That's the way it is with me...I have to at least talk to the person on the phone or in person to get a "feel" for them before I am comfortable enough to just "go at it."

 

[Andreus]

Oh, and also, reading the other posts, are you guys aware that there is something between sex in a monogamous relationship and anonymous, random sex?

I mean, at a minimum you can at least introduce yourselves to each other....

thats called sexually active dating

You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find a prince

 

[MidnightPrism]

I mean, even straight people don't do that anymore. They date a few times, they have sex a few times, then they decide whether they're in a relationship or not. Just like gay people (used to?) do.

If we've dated a few times and had sex a few times I consider it a relationship... not like 'partners' or anything. I like to date people who aren't dating other people at the same time.

 

[slobone]

If we've dated a few times and had sex a few times I consider it a relationship... not like 'partners' or anything. I like to date people who aren't dating other people at the same time.

OK, so then it's not true that the only time that you have sex is when you're in a monogamous relationship.

That's what I thought. I just didn't see how it would work the other way.

So what you're doing isn't that different from what gay people have always done. You meet a guy, you hit it off, you have sex, if you both enjoyed it you do it again, and after a few times you have to decide whether to continue the relationship or move on.

And, I hate to say this, but unless you're one of those rare people who's found his soulmate, in which case God bless you, a relationship is only monogamous until it isn't. Sooner or later one of you is going to get tired of the other one and either start cheating or break up. Again, not that different from the way it's always worked.

 

[Pegasus69]

I have not had sex in 3 years for the very reason that I much prefer to have sex with the emotional attachment that I desire and need. Sex without the emotional intimacy left me feeling empty and even more alone than prior to the act. For the longest time after my relationship ended I did not have sex with anyone, then for a very short period of time I did try the online hook-ups and such. That is when I learned that I need the intimacy part for me to feel good about it.

 

[Gardenboy95]

I have been envolve in those situations, where theres some sexual activity, and no speaking, and some where they just might as well not said anything.I have thought about writing a short story of the not so good sexual times. Most stories are for quick arousal and JO material, I know it certainly would not be to that caliber so have ignored the thoughts. I am thinking about one where two guys want to live with me. Maybe!