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A female friend of mine thought it was odd that when I jackoff I don't think about my boyfriend. I explained to her that if I think about him it just reminds me that I'm alone (long distance relationship) and effectively puts an end to my knob polishing.

I was wondering if anyone on here with a boyfriend/husband/partner thinks about them when jacking off or if they're like me and find it to be a mood kill.
 
I'd say, you tend to fantasize about someone, whom you do not have or cannot have.

It really does not mean that you would jump that 'imaginary' guy's bones, if given a chance. It only means that many people simply need fantasy to enrich their lives and stimulate their thought process.

SC
 
You're free to think about anyone or anything you like. That is the definition of fantasy.
 
Yeah, when I'm jackin', I'm jackin' to the beautiful boy(s) on the screen that I'll never have - and really wouldn't want because I'm happy with the love that goes with my BF sex. The fantasy part is just SEX (which is good, too!)
 
I never jerked off thinking about my current partners.

Usually my mind goes back to very early very hot raw sexual experiences.
 
I have thought about my exes but not while i was dating them lol
 
I don't find it a mood kill, but geez, why? Masturbation is (to me) a fantasy trip, and in general, I fantasize about things outside my current situation.

I don't daydream about having my current job.
I don't sit in the tub thinking about living in the house I'm currently living in.
And I don't fantasize about having sex with the person I live with.

This doesn't mean I hate my job, or want a new house, or am tired of my boyfriend. Not in the slightest. The thing about fantasy is that it's "selective". For instance, when people fantasize about being famous musicians, say, they think of screaming fans and sold-out shows and performing their music for an adoring public. They don't fantasize about crappy deli trays, or long hours on the road, or another dull interview, or meetings with their lawyer. Similarly, I can fantasize about fucking some hot guy on the beach without wondering:

1. where he came from
2. if I should worry about catching something
3. what other people are gonna think
4. whether or not I'll get arrested
5. what I'm supposed to say afterwards.

It's a fun "fantasy trip" that has little or no grounding in reality. And I'm well-aware of that. :)

Lex
 
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