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Cant Get It In - Just Not Into Sex ?

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Hi Guys!

I'm new to the forum and wanted to get some advice from you about my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now and on the outside things are going great, but not so much in the bedroom. We are both Tops but he also Bottoms. Should't be problem then, right? Wrong. We are both bigger guys and lately I've been finding it kind of hard to get it in him. It just seems to slip out or cant get in the hole. I get frustrated, then he gets frustrated and it leaves us nowhere. Since he is also a Top/vers he always wants to stick it in me so being open minded I agreed to try it and he went slow but it hurt alot. Thinking it was just the first time, I tried it again. Still hurts and im just not that interested in it. Do y'all have any advice for me? I'm worried about losing my relationship over sex. If it was up to me I'm fine just fooling around without any anal penetration. I'm just not sure what to do...

Ben
 
There are stickies in the Health & Well Being forum that should help in terms of getting it in, relaxing and trying to get comfortable with bottoming. If you both are dedicated, this can definitely be worked out.

However, if you have no desire to bottom and he definitely wants to top you, you have to discuss whether this is a deal breaker or not. I think that's the bigger issue.
 
Try finding a willing third partner who loves to bottom...it shouldn't be hard. That may present some different challenges of course but maybe you are both emotionally mature and secure enough to handle it. Just a thought.....

Sexual incompatibility can be a deal breaker but there are ways to cope with it...Good Luck to you both!
 
When there's will, there's usually a way. Some great advices in this thread. Good luck.
 
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