Caressed my Str8 friend...what do i do now?

[ChrisRodz15]

My friend is str8. thats what he tells me. but somethings have happened recently and i dont know what to do next. I mean he loves to listen to me talk all about the gay things ive done. so it started with...

We were driving around town talkin, Ok so it started with me playing with his arm and caressing it and feeling it up. After a while I got a lil brave and moved up to his shoulders and a lil bit inside his shirt. the whole time he didnt try and stop me. Then I moved my hand in side his shirt and started caressing his chest. He put his hand across his chest covering his nipples and stuff but still let me play with his chest. I stopped because i tried to grab his dick and he freaked. The weird thing is after like 15 min of me trying to grab him, he let me continue to caress him.

a few days later he invited me to go to one of his games. It was a far trip, so on the way back I started doing the same things with his arms and shoulders. but this time he let me play with his chest, nipples and stomach, all the way up to his belt buckle. For about 15-20 minutes i felt him up and all he did was drive with his face on the road. through out my caressing i was talking to him about stupid things. like school, the game, ect.

I honestly dont know what to do next. I feel like he's letting me go further little by little. We dont mention it but he still plays with "gay" things like if I say, you owe me, he'll say "with a bj" or last time i took my friends out he told me so where can we park so i can pay u back. I couldnt do anything cause I was with another friend who really is super str8.

soooo what do i do next? can someone let me know...

 

[BFizzle]

From someone who has experience dealing with straight boys who want it, don't do it. So not worth it in the long run. If he is "straight" or whatever, you're not going to get anything out of it other than him using you as an experimentation. Once you go too far things will never be the same, and if he gets particularly insecure about it, he could end up blaming his own sexual frustrations on you.

 

[greyhorse]

Howdy Chris, Just let it happen naturally. If he is interested he will keep in touch and if he wants to go further, which, in his present hesitant state, may take some time, he will gradually come around to it. Just continue to show your interest in him. Have a great day.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

I don't think anyone can tell you what to do next. Its a matter of what is going on between you two. All we know is that he likes you touching him. As for the comments, sex-talk is common with guys, so don't put too much into that.

Does him allowing you to touch him mean he's curious? No one here can tell you that, and I doubt your friend is into any other label than "Straight". A lot of people that identify as straight play around, but they'd never talk about and certainly never say they were any degree of bi.

If he's liking it, and its comfortable for both of you then see where it goes. Baby steps though.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

From someone who has experience dealing with straight boys who want it, don't do it. So not worth it in the long run. If he is "straight" or whatever, you're not going to get anything out of it other than him using you as an experimentation. Once you go too far things will never be the same, and if he gets particularly insecure about it, he could end up blaming his own sexual frustrations on you.

I've had a LOT of flirty, playful relationships with straight guys. The play got to a point where, for us, that was our special level of intimacy. We'd toy with the idea of sex, but keeping it at another level was good enough. It was a shared secret, of sorts, knowing that there was something there between us and only we knew. Having it not go to a physical level seemed to make it even spicier.

But, I hear what you are saying. I have had a friendship that went downhill after having sex with a "straight" guy and it was the shittiest thing that happened to me in a long time.

It really depends on the person you are dealing with though. You can't really make blanket statements about never getting intimate with someone who identifies as straight, as many people have and its been fine for them.

 

[BFizzle]

That's just my experience on the matter. I have friends that I jokingly flirt with and we laugh about it, but I'm just warning him that if he gets serious about it there could be some repercussions.

 

[rareboy]

Let him take the lead.

But you're going down the road of a ruined friendship from where I sit.

 

[Seasoned]

I guess you like to slowly tease yourself. You don't seem to need advice on what to do next. You'll just keep doing what you're doing; he'll say yes, no or maybe; you will start looking for another guy to begin the game anew. Better you than me.

 

[wetboxersguy]

how about getting him a little drunk and see where it goes from there?

 

[miguelfukt]

as long as hes letting you touch him, go for it. but take it slow like you have been! i really would like to hear more if anything happens! straight guys are fuckin hot! good luck.

 

[chace1617]

i think he is curious and wants to try something but he's not sure yet... so he goes slowly but feels weird, well wait and see if he really wants it or not... but wtf dude you can have sex with your str8 friends? i hate you! i never could have sex with them and that is who made being 19 and virgin!!!
on the other hand you could just get drunk, things happen easier then.
You should know that if something happens he might feel weird after wards and not want to hang out with you anymore so if you don't want to lose a friend don't have sex with him, or he could be ok with it and pretend it never happened or he could like it and do it with you all the time. well not all people act the same i'm just saying what could happen, so be prepared...

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

Lol ... lucky you! I just get the 2a.m. bar-time hit up with everything on the down-low. I refuse to go back into that dark, danky, and musky closet! It is nice, however, being openly gay in an extremely rural area and have everybody accept you.

 

[mblad99]

He might be straight, but enjoy being near and touched by another guy. I had a friend like that in college, we would lay in bed together to watch TV, but never do anything. The bed was a twin, small, so we always touching each other. Male bonding I suppose. On the other hand, he might be experimenting. I would avoid alcohol with this guy. Getting him drunk and taking advantage of him, would cost you the friendship. How about a massage or some touching when he is not driving. Does he get hard when you touch him? Keep us posted.

 

[crc68stang]

I wish I had a friend like u Chris!!!!! Willing to play with me even tho I'm straight!!!! I'd rly enjoy it!!!! I'd let u do just about anything!!!! After sum time my ass would be urz!!!!!!

 

[evanrick]

maybe he just likes being touched and the attention. maybe he is not getting attention elsewhere. i wouldnt take it too far unless thats what he wants. yeah touch him all you want and see how far that goes, but making it "too sexual" could be risky.

 

[clicker]

My friend is str8. thats what he tells me. but somethings have happened recently and i dont know what to do next. I mean he loves to listen to me talk all about the gay things ive done. so it started with...

We were driving around town talkin, Ok so it started with me playing with his arm and caressing it and feeling it up. After a while I got a lil brave and moved up to his shoulders and a lil bit inside his shirt. the whole time he didnt try and stop me. Then I moved my hand in side his shirt and started caressing his chest. He put his hand across his chest covering his nipples and stuff but still let me play with his chest. I stopped because i tried to grab his dick and he freaked. The weird thing is after like 15 min of me trying to grab him, he let me continue to caress him.

a few days later he invited me to go to one of his games. It was a far trip, so on the way back I started doing the same things with his arms and shoulders. but this time he let me play with his chest, nipples and stomach, all the way up to his belt buckle. For about 15-20 minutes i felt him up and all he did was drive with his face on the road. through out my caressing i was talking to him about stupid things. like school, the game, ect.

I honestly dont know what to do next. I feel like he's letting me go further little by little. We dont mention it but he still plays with "gay" things like if I say, you owe me, he'll say "with a bj" or last time i took my friends out he told me so where can we park so i can pay u back. I couldnt do anything cause I was with another friend who really is super str8.

soooo what do i do next? can someone let me know...

Mmm, I love stuff like this. Delish.

 

[clicker]

maybe he just likes being touched and the attention. maybe he is not getting attention elsewhere. i wouldnt take it too far unless thats what he wants. yeah touch him all you want and see how far that goes, but making it "too sexual" could be risky.

Excellent advice, EVANRICK. I so agree, though I understand the temptation of feeling up a "straight" guy. Nonetheless, we gay men are so vulnerable and hungry for same sex affection that we easily slide into the sexual department of affections and thus are guilty of sexualising what may not be truly sexual, but just romantic. Yep, men can feel romantic feelings for each other without needing to be sexual. I am guilty of this, I'm afraid. I try to respect and enjoy the diversity of same sex bonding with the aim of enriching our lives. I wish more gays would stop the binary black/white thinking of "he's gay!" because a guy is open-mined, warm, affectionate,etc. This only hurts and alienates. It seems the gay rights movement has done more to polarise men between gas/bi/straight rather than bring them together with this needy, neurotic, reactionary thinking.

 

[conrad]

You don't really tell us how deep the bond is between you two. In my mind it would be important to be patient so that at some point the touchy-feely inititiate would have to be his. Men are as subtle as women in this, bu it is important to be reading the signs he give.

If anything is to happen it has to be something which both of you have come to the point of needing and wanting.

 

[Wookie]

I had a straight friend who was very tall, and his knees would almost always touch mine when he sat across from each other. For whatever reason, he always let me rub my hands up and down his thighs under the table. He let me be physically flirty in other ways, too. But, whenever he spent drunken nights at my place, he always slept on the couch, regardless of my invites to sleep in my bed, and it never went further than that, no matter how many opportunities I laid before him. We even took a three week long trip to Europe together, slept in the same bed in our underwear sometimes, but it never went beyond the flirtiness. I think he was just more comfortable with himself than other straight guys (I'm sure there are some that are curious, closeted, etc. too). It could have even been that he was uncomfortable with it but didn't want to say anything. I guess my point is, there's a bid difference between rubbing a guy's chest and sucking his dick.

 

[Flexuality]

You're friend is curious but nervous. He has some limits, but what he is willing to try may be a moving target. I wonder if he's just interested in the affection, or if it's more sexual? Keep testing the water, and don't try to pin down whether he's gay or not: that might make him too uncomfortable, and labels don't mean much.