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Caught BF texting another guy

HUNTERM: I never said I WASNT leaving. I said that I've never been through this situation before and am just "talking out loud" about what I have experienced so far. But thanks for the mature response. Lol

But like I said before I completely agree with everyone and I know what I have to do. I just wanted to share my concerns and frustrations about something with some random people who wouldn't be biased to the situation like my friends or family at the moment. It's always a learning experience when you go through things for the first time and I appreciate everyone just letting me vent and talk it through.
 
Blakester:

I feel for you.

I broke up with my boyfriend of two years in January. We talked marriage, we talked kids, we talked about moving in together, we talked about planning trips and vacations. He left out the part about cheating on me with four different men over the year and a half prior to breaking up. Three months before we broke up, he hired a mutual friend to work for him. Four weeks after we break up, they were already out celebrating an anniversary.

It hurts, it sucks. You feel like "But what if I just...." or "how about we try..."

He's made a decision to tell you that he can't be trusted.
He's made a decision to tell you that you care more than he does.
He's made a decision to tell you that he has no self-control.
He's made a decision to tell you that he isn't ready for a relationship right now.

Take care of YOURSELF first. You will be better off.
Don't hesitate to send a PM if you need to.
 
Some great advice in this thread - I hope more people in this situation read it and gets courage to deal with it and stand up for themselves.

I've been cheated on several times. The first time was the hardest, and a great learning experience (I could have done without). If I survived it, you can too.
 
I've been cheated on as well.
It sucks but the fact he was doing this two days after you move in together tells you all you need to know about him.
DUmp him and move on.
 
blakester10223 said:
So last night I found out my boyfriend, M, and an longtime friend of his (not an ex) have not only been sexting with each other (including pics and videos) but they are planning on having sex the next time that this friend is in town.

And to make matters worse, I just moved in with my boyfriend 2 days ago :(

The main part of the message that I saw said "He lives here now though so we will have to play careful!"

I know that my boyfriend has somewhat of a more "wild" past but not to the point of cheating on his partners. I am exclusively a top on our relationship and I know that he would like me to bottom if possible but I just can't physically do it. We've tried multiple times and he has said he's ok with it.

But I'm wondering if this could be why? Maybe he's craving and the urge of topping. Which if that would be the case, I wish he would just talk to me and ask about it. We've made jokes about getting a random guy for him to top with, but if that's really an issue, Obviously he should be honest with me.

I just don't know what to do. Because I'm so upset because we truly do seem like we are on the same page with everything. Hence why we just moved in together.

Should I confront him now? Or wait it out? Is it just sex?

The friend will be here in 2 weeks so I could always try to "catch" them in the act and make it really dramatic! Lol. But I don't want to do that.
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Men are the most likely to cheat. Less likely, heterosexual couples. Least likely, lesbians. If you want monogamy, marry a lesbian.
- Dan Savage

You should not be in denial that men, in general, will fuck anything that moves.

You have some options:
1. Be open and realistic about it. You don't like to bottom but you said you are open to the possibility of having a third to bottom for your bf. Then do it. Not every guy can bottom. Sometimes, making a top bottom is just awful sex.

2. Be in denial. Don't ask, don't tell.

3. Or dump him. Which is kind of sad. Really? It's just sex. Are you straight all of a sudden?

Just make sure he gets his fix and that will be the end of it. Discuss and talk about it. Relationships are about sharing, not secrets. Communicate. You might be pleasantly surprised what solutions you two can come up with.
 
bruce379 said:
3. Or dump him. Which is kind of sad. Really? It's just sex. Are you straight all of a sudden?
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I'm usually not one to criticize the advice of others, but you must realize your view does NOT fit most people.
Cheating is a breach of trust. It's not about sex. So it's not "kind of sad". It is totally justified.
 
LuckysRevenge said:
I'm usually not one to criticize the advice of others, but you must realize your view does NOT fit most people.
Cheating is a breach of trust. It's not about sex. So it's not "kind of sad". It is totally justified.
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Same here. If my husband wants to have sex with other people, he can do so once I've signed the divorce papers.
 
Your trust in him should be dead, and so should be your relationship.

Drop him. This isn't just a heat of the moment kind of cheating. He's METICULOUSLY making plans and making the conscious effort to cheat on you. He's taking time out of his day, that could be spent with you, and is spending that time fucking someone else, or at least planning to fuck someone else (I'm sure he's cheated on you before anyway).

Or maybe he's even making those plans WHILE he's hanging out with you. How would you if he's making plans to screw another guy while you two are having a seemingly nice lunch or dinner together? Because he may very well have done that already.

Again, drop him. He's a loser.
 
You should have left him yesterday and even earlier than that. What he is doing is what I like to call "first-degree cheating" (first-degree murder analogy) in that he is PRE-MEDITATING his cheating escapades. His conscience, or what is left of it, doesn't deter him from breaching your trust in him. He obviously does NOT value your feelings nor the honesty and sincerity that goes along with a serious relationship. His "love", or what he claims to feel for you, is not true and never existed because otherwise he wouldn't be prepping for this rendezvous with his "friend", who, by the way, is an asshole (pardon the pun) of a friend.

If you value a true and blue good guy, he is not it. Leave him.
 
There are no excuses for cheating but this type of cheating is the worst of the worst. Very planned out and thought through...I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with someone like this. I hope things work out for you, please let us know.
 
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