Celibacy.

[sixthson]

Would you also abstain from your hand?

 

[xbuzzerx]

It depends. When you say "do it intentionally" do you mean an actual moment of "I am going to pointedly NOT have any kind of sex or romance" or would you include the choice to avoid hookups/etc. while single as "choosing to be celibate"?

 

[geloge]

Close to two years and counting. I suppose it's easier when you don't live in a city like New York.

 

[Kahaih]

"have luck with it" ????

It doesn't really matter if you remain celibate for 3 weeks, 4 months, or 5 minutes. When you're ready to stop being celibate and comfortable going after some action, you've had all the 'luck' you needed.

If you feel you need to take a break, have at it. But, don't do it to punish yourself or to 'make a statement', and don't set any kind of goals.

If it seems to go on too long and you can't get yourself out of it, then you might need some help.

 

[Rolyo85]

Celibacy.

Ew.

 

[umjreon88]

Unintentionally not had sex for almost 6 months. However, sex with my hands and lube? 2 weeks was the maximum.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

Why do you need an extreme?

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

I tried it for all of the wrong reasons, including some of the ones you described(not having the energy to hook up, having a feeling of, I guess, "dread" when it's done, or feeling like it was only going to be a hookup anyway)... left me as empty as before, and I figured if I'm going to focus my energy on something like celibacy, it's not going to be a reactionary cause, but because I actually want to be celibate.

I lasted, by the way, for almost 6 months - that includes masturbation. It's not something I plan to do again, although I toy with the idea of giving up masturbation and just having sex, one-offs or not.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

^Did you not even read what I wrote above?

Yes. You seem to offer either constantly being on the hunt or being celibate as the only two options. Am I missing something?

 

[m1thousand]

I was on an andi-depressant (I forget which one) and it killed my sex drive. I could easily go three months without jacking off. It made me realize that guys are slaves to their cockcs and it was a nice change that that wasnt an issue. I knew what it was like to feel like a woman not interested in sex.

I changed to another anti-depressant and my sex drive came back.

 

[eastofeden]

I don't think I have ever gone more than four days....

I think I would become celibate if my lover died though...I have already had the best and it would be all downhill for me....

 

[geloge]

If someone ask me for my motivations I couldn't answer. I just know I don't want to make the effort to try to get in a relationship or for hook ups, both stress me equally.

 

[maxpowr9]

I have to get over my PIED [that's porn-induced erectile dysfunction]. Was very tough but now I have great sex with guys instead of just jerking off for a release.

 

[Devois]

Tried it? It's not a matter of trying. It's a matter of doing nothing or otherwise failing. At least that's what I've done for the last 22 years. As for not masturbating or indulging in sexual thoughts (beyond the age of 16 and barring dreams that is), I went a couple of months when I was 18, but that was a remarkably unerotic year.

 

[medic1]

Hahahah man all the stories about masturbation/sexual thoughts scare me. I wouldn't even ATTEMPT to deprive myself there. God bless those of you that do!

This isn't me on some moral horse, it's just me being tired of dealing with hookups, yet also realizing that relationships are an impossibility.

^This may be true to you.and that is for you to decide.This man i love brought me back from the brink of doing something very very stupid as did JUB.

Relationships are not a walk in the park,like anything worthwhile they demand compromise.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

I listed other options in the OP and exactly why they didn't work, but if you wish to ignore them, go ahead.

Very limited thinking. What about deleting your apps and live life as it comes without focusing so much on sex. By being celibate you are still focusing so much on sex.

 

[SaskGuy]

The longest I've gone is a week. Occasionally I'll abstain for a while just to build it all up though... when you wait a while, it just feels so fucking good to cum!
I've gone a week without jacking off because I went on a trip with a few of my friends. No matter how hot your friends are, jacking off in the bathroom is still one of the last things on your mind when you're sharing a hotel room with 3 other people lol... when I finally got home, all the sexual frustration just hit me, and I needed to jack off so badly, you wouldn't believe it. I ended up having some of the best orgasms of my entire life that day, and I jacked off multiple times in a row!

 

[LuckysRevenge]

Lucky:

Because I get horny, that's why. Yes, I deleted my apps, yes I have a pretty awesome life to live, but I get horny. And not acting on that horniness to me is "celibacy." Not sure what you want me to call it or what you are even proposing.

Maybe I'm confused. I consider celibacy a commitment to not having sex.
For example, if you're at a club or a bar and you have an obvious sexual connection with a guy, a celibate man would refuse advances while someone who isn't celibate might see where it goes.

 

[swerve]

Close to two years and counting. I suppose it's easier when you don't live in a city like New York.

Based on the type above your avatar -- I'll presume that was a joke...

 

[TickTockMan]

I guess you could say I have been celibate since March of 2009. I am at the point in my life where I would get more from cuddling than sex. There are only two people I would jump at the chance to have sex with and one other I would be willing if certain conditions were met.