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So I've been working out at the gym a bit lately, which is new to me, and I've seen some results and put up a few new photos on Scruff and Grindr.

I've been getting quite a few more guys messaging me than usual, and I'm finding it hard to keep up with them all, sorry if this sounds like bragging but I do have a point. I suffer from social anxiety so online dating works well for me, it gives me the oppotunity to break the ice, or at least crack it, before meeting someone for the first time, however this results in me feeling rude if I don't respond to someone. I've never had a problem ignoring guys who are rude or stalkery, and I'm pretty good at holding a conversation, since the new photos went up, and I'm evening wearing a shirt in them, I'm having quite a few guys open a conversation with comments like "hey spunk" or "how's it going handsome", or "sexy, you have beautiful eyes", receiving compliments is great and I know how to take one, but from a complete stranger I've never spoken to before? I state on my profile that I'm reserved with new people, I don't have the "NSA" or "Right Now" boxes checked, and I don't really know how to respond to these guys without seeming, and feeling disingenuous.

To me it seems like an inappropriate way to start a conversation, however well intentioned. What do you guys think?
 
Congrats that your workout routine is paying dividends. You're not obligated to respond and you certainly don't have to guilt trip yourself if you don't. Respond when someone grabs your attention in a manner that you appreciate.
 
Part of the game of social apps is knowing that a lot of the guys on there are looking for no-strings attached sex. To that end, they message as many guys as possible, often focusing on guys that are new. It's like a fisherman who is constantly throwing bait in the water in hopes that at least one fish will bite. If you're interested in dating and not a one-night stand, then you should not try to respond to all of them.

Only respond to guys whose profile interests you. Or instead, focus on approaching guys that interest you instead of waiting for guys to message you.
 
I recently got out of a 12yr relationship (my only one I've ever had. We met when I was 18 and the rest is history) and started using grindr. I'm looking for nsa right now but I'm not going to hook with just any guy. My question is for the guys that I'm not interested in is it better to tell them that im not interested or just not respond?
 
^ try to be diplomatic but if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
 
I have grindr and I find it extremely rude and frankly it really pisses me off if I send someone a compliment and they ignore it or have some rude comment. A simple compliment doesn't mean I want to get together or get into your pants. It's a compliment. Thank them. If they aren't what you're looking for and they try to get together politely say you aren't a match. Most guys will get it and move on. If they don't simply hit the block button but I find it really rude to ignore someone that may simply just be complimenting you. People's manners are getting worse and worse. Hiding behind a social app is no excuse to be a dick.

Steven
 
I knew Grindr was a loser when the hottest guys on there say the app sucks. I figure if they're hating it then I stand no chance in hell.
 
If they complimente I always thank them but let them no I'm not interested and wish them luck on finding someone.
 
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