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"Cheating" on a friends with benefit, caught too

You're probably right. I'm working on chilling out. Back to the original original topic, even though my cut buddy said he doesn't care if I fuck around, he just doesn't want me to rub it in his face, I still feel guilty. Fucked around with a guy today. I let him mess with me, but I was hesitant to mess with him, thinking about my Sept buddy. I got hot and bothered in the shower and couldn't help myself with him. I feel like I would be a bad boyfriend with the whole monogamy thing. Or maybe I won't be tempted as much if I had someone to call my boo thing -_-
 
Hmm... this is just me, but, as far as thinking you'd be a bad boyfriend - I don't think so. You seem very perceptive and you do care about what people think to a certain degree. But if you don't feel like you can be monogamous, and monogamy is something you want in a relationship, do all your exploration now! That's a problem I had with my most recent ex - and he's 39! (I'm 24). But I've been out longer than he has, so he hasn't had that exploration period like I have had.

Even after my relationship ended, I still feel like I have more of an exploration phase to go through, so I'm not looking to commit myself to any one guy anytime soon. I am (and you are) still pretty young and have many years ahead of you. There's no need to rush things. Lots of guys around our age are going through some sort of exploration phase, so it may be best to build ourselves up, get a great job, get lots of money (because having a boyfriend can get expensive!) and just get together with someone when it feels right.
 
altlover85 said:
Charmander, I think you're overanalyzing a lot. I doubt anyone is going to be drawing conclusions about you being gay by you listening to John Mayer. I also would simply say hi to the possibly gay guy at work. If he gets the wrong impression you can always set him straight in a nice and tactful way. In general, people don't care about what you do or how you act nearly as much as you think they do. And when I say you, I mean it in the general sense.
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hi Charmander,

I agree with Altlover85. Be friendly and polite to people, and say hi to anyone in a very friendly and relaxed way.

In general, people don't bother. Well, they just need to be used to a newby, but that's all. You are a young (21) Asian with Viet backgrounds, maybe some of them are not yet used to have guys like you as co-worker?

Excuse me very much, but I have no clue about the musician John Mayer. Is he http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Mayer ? And a 'Kelly Rowland Motivation song? :confused::confused: ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kelly_Rowland ??).

So singing this kind of songs (or telling about them) will not give clues that you are gay, at least not to guys like me (but I am 55, and I am not much into music).

Take your time, good luck with your job, and good luck as well with the guys.
 
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