Check in here, if you've ever fallen for - and gotten over - a straight guy

[fireside]

yeah, i am so grateful that we were able to move past all the bad of the past and i count myself lucky that i found a friend who was willing to look past all the stigmas of having a gay best friend and such (we went to an all boys school in New Orleans during this time) and be able to accept me for me and deal with me while i sorted all of my mixed up feelings out.

You must've gone to Jesuit.


That used to happen to me; the whole falling in love, getting burned, maintaining some sort of friendship thing, until I finally saw the light and stopped putting so much heart into a blowjob. Now it's just whatever happens will be, though I've gotten past the hunt largely, especially with straight people--too much trouble.

 

[laegolass]

Yep, time is the factor that works for me.

So far i have crushes on 5 straight guys throughout my life. Lucky it's only a crush though. An funnily enough, one of them who is my best friend, turned out to be gay but i've gotten over him when we found out about each other. Hehe.

But i've realy fallen head over heels for one of my friend. I can't get over him for about 1 and a half year. To make it worse, my other friends who know i like him keep on teasing me whenever he's around. Only managed to get over him few months ago. Still remains friends.

Now, i'm falling for a friend of mine who is bi. Oh, well.... at least it's an improvement from the last.

 

[Singtoh1]

Once and it will never happend again cuz Im still in pain.....it's been about 4 years but I don't think I'll ever get over him cuz he was my first.... So good luck to you

 

[Caution]

I'm getting over the love of my life. I guess the love isn't as strong

I seriously feel hard for my best friends younger brother. I wanted to MARRY him and have his children. I LOVED him so much and this was from 2002-2007, since I was 15. I guess I learned that I will never have him. He is sooooooo sexy. He is milk chocolate brown, abs of steel and the ass to die for. I wouldn't mind letting him dip his Chocolate Log in my Cherry Vanilla.

 

[samsung3]

thanks guys for sharing your stories.. helps me ease out my pain.. same boat as you all

 

[damanryan30]

I've had three, still working through the third right now.

All so similar and familiar. Toughest part is if it's your best str8 friend from a different city where you both lived and then one moved (me) then the str8 friend moved to the same city you're in a year later. Both basically arrived at this new city at the same time, as I was in another city during the previous year. Not knowing a soul here too, doesn't help.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

The economics of it does it for me.

Sure, it would be nice, if this hottt, str8 dude there chose to be my friend, ya know, with little 'private, side benefits'.

Now, I know, that this is very unlikely to happen. Even if it does, it will create so much drama and stress in its wake that it really makes little sense to start with.

So, I look at them as if they were underage kids and thus, absolutely off limits. Period.

SC

 

[latinoguy19]

It hurts so much. You just have to let go and try to be positive with other things or you'll get crushed. There are two boys that were my friends that I have to forget. My feelings just grew to the point that it hurt to be friends. So, I still cry and hurt at times, but at least I let myself be strong and walk away before I let my heart be trampled upon.

 

[Blk_Thickness]

Don't know if this count for anything. but back when i was 9th grade my dick would get hard off these 2 thick boys in my art class, i don't know if i had crushes on them but i would have definitely done something with them. After awhile though i was able not to get a hard on when i would see them or be around them.

 

[gameboy 11]

Most of the guys that I've had crushes on, if I were to see them today all of those feelings that I used to have for them would definitely come back. So I'm going to say I haven't really gotten "over" the guys that I had feelings for. However, it does help when you just don't see them.

 

[mabby7]

wow ... some of these stories are so SAD ... i cried ... waaaaaah ...
it's sad to me because this has/is happening to me .. i can't believe there have been so many guys in my situation ...

ok ... well so here it goes .. i'll tell you my story

well i met this guy at work ... i was twenty and he was thirty ... he was one of the most handsome guys i had ever seen ... ( i found out later that he modelled and tried for parts on tv) ... so yeah ... he was hot ... but unfortunately i also found out that he was married and had kids ...

anyways to cut a long story short ... we became friends and he was very sweet (he would compliment me and say the nicest things) and eventually i fell in love with him ... ( but i realised that nothing would ever happen between us)
as i got to know him better ... i got to sleep over his house ... and also became friends with his wife ... i also came to adore his kids and they looked up to me ...

but one day .. things just just started to change ... he became a CRANKY old man ... maybe it was because of his work ... he just wasn't the same ... his compliments became put downs and he started to just become arrogant ... his wife thought it was just a phase and kind of just seemed to ignore it ... i tried to talk to him ... but i was kind of afraid since he had turned into this guy that i never expected him to become ... i was caught off guard ...

anyways now he still seems to be that cranky old man ... and i dunno ... i still love him ... and am still his friend ... but it just all feels so distant ... i wish we could still have been close ...

 

[mnaoitb]

yeah it is easy, come out and you will realize how many guys are into you and that you shouldnt be afraid to follow through...you will definetely get over him...

 

[mabby7]

Ok well since nobody else is posting a story about falling for straight guys ... I'll post another one ...

This DID NOT happen to ME by the way, but it is based on a true story and it is a LONG one (sorry). It's kind of like "You've got mail" with a twist. I saw it on a foreign language channel and I can't help but think about it. I couldn't get it out of my head so I'll share it with you guys. (Some parts of the story may have changed since I can't recall everything). Here goes ...

One day a transvestite named Dione had broken up with "her" boyfriend because he had cheated on her with what he called a "real" woman. Dione was heartbroken and thought that "she" would never find another guy since many guys in her neighbourhood had teased and abused her for being what she was.

Then one afternoon, her cousin Mark, came over to her house to visit. Dione told Mark about what had happened, but instead of feeling sorry for her, he decided to play a practical joke on her. Mark gave his friend's phone number, Jared, to Dione to set them up.

Of course Jared was straight, but Mark wanted to have some fun. So, Dione called the number and Jared answered his phone. Jared at first seemed drunk and this made Dione too shy to talk, but after a while they really seemed to hit it off. They really liked chatting to each other and had talked for several hours. They would then talk nightly for several weeks. Jared and Dione talked about past releationships and their plans for the future. They came to realize that they had many things in common. They also talked about their problems and Jared admitted to having a drinking problem. Dione told Jared that she was concerned for him and that she really cared about him. She told Jared to try to stop drinking and also gave him lots of other good advice. Jared really didn't want to listen to Dione "criticizing" him, but there was just something about Dione that he liked. And so he felt he really needed to hear what she had to say. Jared felt comforted and reassured that things would be better.

Meanwhile, Mark thought that Jared would have already found out that Dione wasn't a girl and just seemed to brush things off. But what Mark didn't know was that Dione had convinced Jared that she was a "girl" and that they had fallen for each other. Jared tried to meet Dione, but she was too afraid. Dione kept trying to say that her parents would not like him. However, this did not stop Jared and he kept persuading Dione to meet with him. Finally, after a few more weeks, they planned to meet.

When the time for them to see each other arrived, an unfortunate incident occurred. Jared had a minor accident on the way to meeting Dione at a restaurant. Dione had waited and waited, but soon decided to go home. Jared did eventually make it to the restaurant but came just a few moments after Dione left.

Later that day, Mark asked Dione about her love life and was shocked to hear that she was to have met Jared earlier and that they were starting to get serious. Mark suddenly panicked because he didn't realize that his practical joke had gone this far. Mark explained this to Dione and she was stunned. Dione wanted to run away just in case Jared might find her, but alas the doorbell rang.

Dione opened the door and saw one of the cutest guys she had ever seen. He introduced himself as Jared and when he saw Mark, he demanded that Mark take him to see a woman named Dione, (Mark had casually mentioned that he knew someone named Dione and Jared was convinced that it was the same one he had talked to on the phone for several weeks). Mark then explained everything to Jared and he became furious with both him and Dione. Jared felt confused and it was just all too much for him. He then stormed out and drove away.

Dione thought that Jared would never come back, but of course he did. After thinking about it, Jared realized that even though he could never really be with Dione ... because he wasn't "gay", he still loved "her" for what she was on the inside. Jared realized that Dione was a positive influence on his life and he didn't want to let her go. So he and Dione remained great friends and Jared promised Dione that he would be there for her always.

THE END

ps.. I know ... i know ... it's so sad ... but i loved how they did become good friends and it was sweet how he told her that he'd always be there for her ... they somehow had a "deep" love which went passed the physical ...

 

[jcaster42987]

falling for straight friends is one of the worst parts about this. I can think of 3 for me. The worst one is almost over, and the other 2 are still up in the air, they dont seem so straight all the time.

 

[wilehart1978]

Yes, I have.....and no I haven't -- completely.

I'm in the process of "getting over" a straight guy I met about 3 months ago. I'd say I'm about halfway through the process now. It doesn't bother me as much as it did a couple of weeks ago. Nothing ever "happened" between us although he is friendly to me in a "buddy" way. It would be easier to get over him if he weren't friendly.

But I don't want to fall into the trap again of being "just friends" with a hot guy that I attracted to. I've been down that road before. Having to listen to him say, "I stood there and said to her, 'play with it... have fun with it'...yeah baby." It's torture being attracted to a guy you can't have.

If you "got over" a straight guy in the past, what worked for you?

 

[NastyBlkNWhteCouple]

Yea weve fallen for a straight dude or two-and sometimes they fell for us-or one of us-and had to get over it-just the same...........
Truth.

 

[wilehart1978]

Hey Mikey, I can relate..My friend is one of my closest...It only takes us spending time together for those feelings to resurface...and incredibly it's been over a decade..so, I can honestly say...whether he knows it or not (and I believe he does because we have indirectly discussed it), this guy will always have a piece of my heart.It's something we both live with...

Yeah I'm the process as well. It was so hard cause he was too friendly towards me. I mean we were the bestest friends. I really do miss talkin to him every night. We would have these long conversations. We even cried with each other before. But yeah I'm about half way there. I really do hope we can still be friends though. We haven't spoke in about 5 months.

 

[mabby7]

Yeah I'm the process as well. It was so hard cause he was too friendly towards me. I mean we were the bestest friends. I really do miss talkin to him every night. We would have these long conversations. We even cried with each other before. But yeah I'm about half way there. I really do hope we can still be friends though. We haven't spoke in about 5 months.

Hey Mikey, I can relate..My friend is one of my closest...It only takes us spending time together for those feelings to resurface...and incredibly it's been over a decade..so, I can honestly say...whether he knows it or not (and I believe he does because we have indirectly discussed it), this guy will always have a piece of my heart.It's something we both live with...

you guys are starting to make me cry again ...

i fell so deeply in love with my friend that i just don't know ... i am trying to get over it since he did hasn't treated me well lately ... so yeah ... it is a long process ... but at least i'm moving right along ...

 

[jcaster42987]

its a big problem for me right now... But I know this one guy cant be straight.... so we will see what happens. sometimes I wonder if its my mind playing tricks on me when I see something that might indicate theyre not so straight.. Wishful thinking? probably.. kinda depressing, I know none of it will ever happen.

 

[wilehart1978]

It is tough and originally there were times when I wished I had never met him...but he has brought so much joy to my life and indirectly made me realize if I had chosen a guy to spend the rest of my life with, it would be a wonderful experience. He will always possess a part of my heart and a part of my will always love him for that...I accept it because my life is still richer because he is in it....Mostly my love for him is that of two friends....

I spent alot of nights thinking about him, but I know he will only be my friend...I accept what I will never be able to change...Now he knows I am into guys, his suspicions about my having a crush on him when we first met are most likely fully realized, but we have a special relationship-- a bond that neither is willing to give up...

you guys are starting to make me cry again ...

i fell so deeply in love with my friend that i just don't know ... i am trying to get over it since he did hasn't treated me well lately ... so yeah ... it is a long process ... but at least i'm moving right along ...