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Christmas love it or hate it

^ We close for a whole week...part of the bonus package for staff.

But it is a short holiday this year.
 
I enjoy it when I'm not working, but dealing with all the domestic shit that comes into the ER over Christmas leaves me feeling really depressed and disappointed.
 
ChristianGianni said:
I enjoy it when I'm not working, but dealing with all the domestic shit that comes into the ER over Christmas leaves me feeling really depressed and disappointed.
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Oh Boo. My sister worked in special Chem for decades and had to deal with this.

Tell me the things that lay you low and I will do for you what I did for her for 20 years or more.

What you do is so precious and noble that you shouldn't feel as though no one paying attention.
 
^^ your sister must have been a saint Ron, no, I don't let it really get to me, I just feel disappointed by our fellow men sometimes, and it just seems worse at Christmas.
 
I am getting the feeling that this Christmas may be more than complicated with the respiratory viruses going around....
 
nycguydowntown said:
It goes on too long but I enjoy about a week of it
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As I think of it...I'd have to agree it really does go on too long.

Part of this is a selfish feeling--by having the Christmas season run so long means more weeks of depression for me. But, even if I were in a better position, I think I'd rather have a short, enjoyable, specail holiday season. Not something that now gets started in August.
 
Not my thing for years now,maybe when i was younger and more had family to enjoy it with it was okay.
Agree with comments saying it goes on for too long.
Seems to start right after Halloween and its way too commercial now and then on Boxing Day all the stores sales start so what presents you've bought leading up tp Christmsd are now a fraction of the cost :(
 
bedbugy said:
Christmas love it or hate it
for me, it is just another day what with all the bullshit of Xmas dinner trimmings the tree
yes I hate Christmas it started when I was in my teens if you are single it is the loneliest time of the year Christmas is for children Xmas dinner you can have any day of the week
but I love new year's eve
how about you
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I have been "alone" all my life as far as living on my own as an adult...and I assume I am older than you are. But i still enjoy getting together with family for Christmas. But like @NotHardUp1 there are less and less of us that get together. First of all I'm next to the oldest generation still alive. Some of my siblings have their own kids and grandkids and most all of them live 4 to 7 hours away from me.

As far as having Christmas dinner any day of the week...I suppose it is possible to make all those special dishes but all the years growing up as a kid or adult, we never had turkey except for the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays. We have "family speciality" dishes that only seem to get made for those 2 special holidays.

To me, New Year's Eve is just another day...well, since I became a responsible adult anyway. I think about being lonely on Valentine's Day and NYE...not on Christmas. But I don't dwell on being alone. I'm actually more concerned about getting so old and frail that I can't drive anymore and maybe can't even care for myself living alone. I have no one I can think of to help me in my final years.
 
PrinceCory said:
here are less and less of us that get together. First of all I'm next to the oldest generation still alive. Some of my siblings have their own kids and grandkids and most all of them live 4 to 7 hours away from me.
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I, myself, am in a position where I have less living family. My parents' generation is the oldest living generation on either side (and only with their siblings--my parents are now dead). And everyone lives 1,400 miles or more away. And everyone has their own particular traditions, and I hate to crash the gathering, even if I were able to make the trip.

I sometimes have fantasized that it might be fun to have A) a serious boyfriend. (Hell, I'd be happy to have a casual boyfriend just once before I take up residence in the skull orchard!) And B) if he had a family that did get together that would welcome me to holiday gatherings.

While I'm having these fantasies, let's also add winning Mega Millions, even though I never buy tickets. :LOL:

PrinceCory said:
As far as having Christmas dinner any day of the week...I suppose it is possible to make all those special dishes but all the years growing up as a kid or adult, we never had turkey except for the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays. We have "family speciality" dishes that only seem to get made for those 2 special holidays.
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I remember my father commenting how some things we have now year round were very seasonal when he was growing up in the 50s. I think turkey was on that list.

We sometimes had turkey at other points in the year when I was young--but it was quite uncommon.

There were probably plenty of things that would only/most likely turn up for certain occasions.

PrinceCory said:
I'm actually more concerned about getting so old and frail that I can't drive anymore and maybe can't even care for myself living alone.
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I'm finding myself becoming more health conscious. Part of it is the realization I'm getting older. But part of it is that I don't particularly want to be stuck in a nursing home one day. And the meantime, with what I see with modern medicine, I'd rather preserve health rather than get trapped in the medical system treating problems that might have been prevented. I know people whose lives seem to revolve around dealing with health issues.
 
me203 said:
As I think of it...I'd have to agree it really does go on too long.

Part of this is a selfish feeling--by having the Christmas season run so long means more weeks of depression for me. But, even if I were in a better position, I think I'd rather have a short, enjoyable, specail holiday season. Not something that now gets started in August.
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I manage my Christmas to disallow that prolonging.

Won't watch Christmas movies and programming that starts at Thanksgiving.

Won't participate in office parties or pseudo-celebrations that the department has, as they are a month early.

Don't send cards early. Often send them during the 12 days of Christmas, and enjoy the holiday while I am off work and able to bake, to socialize, and to enjoy the season.

When I raise a tree, it's not until the week before Christmas, so that it isn't old or long in the tooth by the actual holy days.

I generally keep the season, by making special dishes as simple as baking a ham, making pies and cakes and cookies, candy, and sometimes decorating a tree.

Also, usually I'll make a fire in the fireplace once temperatures drop, and it makes the season bright.

Sometimes I travel to see family, sometimes not. I'm also learning to not accept charity neighbor offers to dinner. I'm perfectly fine being alone on the actual day, making a few calls, and being lazy. Going to neighbors who are not good friends beyond chatting at the road only makes it seem lonely by spending time with people who wouldn't eat out together otherwise.

And I haunt JUB. It was good enough for Marley, so there's that. I'd hate for Ebeneezer to sleep too soundly.
 
Even though I guess I feel like the season should be kept short, I have been wondering how rigid I'd be if I weren't totally alone. What if, say, next year hell freezes and I get an invitation at the start of December? Then, too, if hell really freezes, and I someday have a boyfriend, what happens if he wants to celebrate the 12 weeks of Christmas? (Of course, if anyone wants to be my boyfriend, we should probably start by getting him pyschiatiric help he obviously needs if he thinks I'm a good catch.. :lol:)
 
I woke up this morning out of a dream sleep and realized again why I am so ambivalent about Christmas.

It is because of the incredibly fraught imposition of expectation.

And this started back in childhood.

My mother was so intent on the perfect Christmas that it was always traumatic when this this didn;t pan out.

I look back and wish my parents hadn't tried so hard to fill our lists...but on the other hand, knowing how disappointed we were when they weren't.

Over the years, personal tragedy including death and illnesses have undone Christmas for a number of years and you can never predict it. COVID did it again and now this year, we are re-organizing plans every few days as people are ill, recovering, injured et.

And that is why I have looked at this holiday with some dread since I was 6 or 7.
 
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