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Ciao Everyone,

Here is my story. I have considered myself straight my whole life. I have always been around the gay culture, and it has never stuck me as being repulsive etc. just not for me. I have always hung out in gay nightclubs such as the original Sound Factory, Arena etc. I have always enjoyed being hit on by gay men, but never wanted to pursue anything sexual.

A few years ago I had an encounter with a transexual women and loved it. I have also engaged in strap-on play with past girlfriends. Also, I have always played with my ass during masturbation. I love transexual porn as much as str8 porn.

All that said, I have always wondered if I was gay. People have asked me if I was gay/bisexual. I have a lot of friends whom are gay and they have never asked me anything.

A few weeks ago a friend gave me a book, SoMa by Kendell Scott. The book has some chapters with characters whom are gay, and reading it I become highly aroused. I have also watched all the Queer as Folk episodes and the same thing has happened on occasion.

So, I decided to join a bisexual porn site. I love it!!!!

Now I am nervous and confused b/c I don't know how my friends will react gay or straight.

Theses feelings have come about over the last week. I feel excited and nervous about all the possibilities, but i am confused by what i am feeling. When I watch bisexual porn I am turned on, but I have not seen a guy and said, "I wanna fuck him/him me" like I do when I see a girl.

In conclusion, I just wanted to here some opinions or if others have gone through this.

Ciao,
M.:D
 
You sound bisexual by my definition. As for your friends, you are who you are. I found this is a way to see who your real friends are. When I told my friends I was bisexual, some claimed not to have a problem with it but more or less turned their back on me. Others stuck with me and those who stuck by me are the ones I love and trust now. You'll more than likely loose some friends but you'll gain some in the bisexual/transgender/gay/lesbian community.

I've never been arroused by transexuals but I feel they are the one group who takes the most abuse from heterosexuals and homosexuals. I have always held a special place in my heart for these people.Theres a great documentary I reccomend for you called "Middle Sexs". Its excellent and addresses some of the issues you bring up. My girlfriend recently bought a strap on and we love it so I can relate to the ass play aspect. I also know what its like to be excited and nervous. Your discovering a part of yourself you didn't know before and in my opinion, you need to explore that. What you don't need is people in your life who are judgemental. You don't need labels and black and white answers. Our sexual orientation is something we do not choose and its something like a snowflake. No two are alike, so whats weird and foreign to me may be normal and common to you. DO NOT let people tell you who or what you are.

Heres a link to the dvd if your interested. I think you can get it on Blockbuster.com or Netflix. Good Luck!

http://www.amazon.com/Middle-Sexes-Redefining-He-She/dp/B000HEVZ9Y
 
Grazie Romantico!(*8*)

I am happy to meet you

I actually watched that documentary a few months ago, excellent.

I am telling a good friend of mine Friday. He is gay and I was the first person he came out to. So, I feel I can tell him and feel comfortable. He took 2 years to tell anyone else he was gay.

Ciao,
M.
 
No Problem dude! I think everyone here would benefit by watching it. I sure learned alot! Theres no time limit and I applaude you for telling your friend. I'm curious to hear what your friend thinks if you tell him your bisexual. Keep us posted!
 
OK!

I told him and his partner(i didn't expect him to be there) he spit his wine out on the table....LOL!

He said they kind of always had a hunch, but persuaded himself and others from commenting about what they felt.

So, their advice was to go out and have some fun first and not tell anyone else til I was ready. I kept his secret for 2 years and know they will do the same. Although I don't want it to be that long...LOL!

It felt really good to tell them. I just wish i knew sooner.

Thanks for being a friend Romantico,(*8*)

Ciao,
M.
 
Yes Romantico is a wonderful help...Welcome Marcello
 
MarcelloNYC & Tommyj, Thanks! Always great to hear stuff like that. However, I think you would have figured it out on your own anyways. Sounds great! These are the friends who are keepers! They'll stick by you and are true friends. Thanks again for the kind words guys! :kiss:
 
I think once upon a time there were words that we created to try to tell people what we felt. Those words- homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, ambisexual, asexual.. I just don't know if they really do the job anymore.

Now there's metrosexual... heteroflexible...

Someday maybe we can all go back to just being "sexual" without the label?

In the meantime, MarcelloNYC... welcome and enjoy finding your way around in a wonderful world of possibilities.
 
KaraBulut, I like your way of thinking. I couldn't agree more! Its the labels are what seperates us and thats how we're judged.
 
I agree also.

I find it weird that the whole process of coming out seems to me a way of giving yourself a label of either GLBT etc.

But when I started dating girls it is not like I sat my friends and family down and said I like dark hair and eyes, more curvaceous bodies and sexy feet....lol!

So, now I like the same, and I like men with varying features. My sexuality is my preference, based on my physical attraction to another human being, not a label.

Am I off base?

Ciao,
M.:-)
 
Hey, it makes perfect sense to me. We don't pick who we fall in love with just like we don't choose our sexual orientation.

When I told my GF I was bi she had heard beforehand through gossip, so it wasn't a surprise to her when I told her. She had to think about me and what kind of person I was. Over time she realized she liked me and felt we just connected.So, the shock factor never came into play. She actually asked questions on line in chat groups and message boards about dating a bisexual guy. She even researched the subject at some bookstores which I thought was awfully sweet..She explained how she would have reacted if she did not know and I thought it made alot of sense

She said a bisexual guy telling a girl he's been dating he's bi would be the same as having a girl tell a guy she's a porn star. The same concerns and thoughts enter your mind. Do I want to get to know this person? Do I want to be in a relationship with a person like this? How do I tell friends and family I'm seeing someone like this? DO they have HIV? Do they sleep with anyone at anytime? Can they be faithful? I thought it made sense because the same sterotypes and judgements come into play with bisexuals

For the record, if I were to date a guy or girl and they told me they did porn I think I'd try to have a more open mind because of this. She's so smart!
 
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