Closet gay/bi dudes, are you 100% in the closet or do a few people know?

[El Divo]

I'm bi but have been messing with guys for the past 2 years. hmm...

I started modeling at 16...there are alot of gays in that field lol. I started acting upon my urges during my senior year of high school.

From there people assumed I was gay and that's perfectly fine. Sure I've told some people I'm bi, but majority assume. I'm not hiding it persay, I just don't think it's anyones business lol. If someone thinks I'm gay fine, but if someone thinks I'm gay for the wrong reasons, I get offended. For example, I think Divo is gay (Cool)...I think Divo is gay because of how he dresses (Not Cool). Whats wrong with skinnies? lol.

But all that is in my hometown of DC. NOW...when I went to college...I felt like I started over, which is not necessarily a good thing. At home, I'm kind of out...at school only 2 people know.

With that being said, I can say that all though I'm bi...I've told EVERY close straight male friend of mine and they all don't give a damn lmao. That's weird. And trust me, I've tested them on various occasions, but none are interested. I guess you can say I have it good. All my close male friends are cool with it, as well as the females.

 

[jaycee style]

Lefty vs Nihlist

Lefty wins.

 

[Reality101]

My time line for being bi is pretty short and no one knows. My gf suspects it I think but no one else does.

At 26 I met my current girlfriend and she opened me up to the idea of being with a guy. It was very gradual. First she just hinted about it and then she'd talk about it while we kissed and during foreplay and sometimes even during sex. It never turned me off hearing her describing what she wanted to see me do with a guy because she was always so turned on and it was sexy to hear her talk about it like it was taboo and forbidden.

Still 26 she started to play with my ass and fuck me with toys and strap ons. We'd watch bi and gay porn together and for fun while we were out we'd point out guys that we thought were hot for me to fool around with. I didn't think I was bi during all this though. I thought I was just sexual, open minded, and semi appeasing my girlfriend. Although I never denied to myself that I found some men hot or that I was curious what kissing a guy would be like and what a guy blowing me and fucking me would feel like.

At 27 (how old I am now) we stopped talking about having a threesome like a fantasy and actually had one. I was incredibly nervous. So nervous that I backed out of kissing the guy and letting him fuck me. Instead he just gave me a blowjob and kissed my body then he ate out my gf while I rubbed his body. It was hot and later on I regretted being so nervous. We had another threesome with the same guy the following week and that time he fucked me and we kissed. I also blew him which I didn't expect to do or like but I did.

We had two other threesomes after that (same guy) and the last one was the most intense. I had no inhibitions, and I really got into it. After that threesome, I concluded that I must be bi. My gf I think may have concluded the same thing because she acted really strange after he left and later told me that she didn't want to have threesomes anymore. Everything is fine between us and if I told her I was bi I know she'd be understanding, but I also think she'd feel a little threatened. She has been really "needy" and sensitive around me ever since the last threesome. I don't think she expected me to like being with a guy so much but hell I didn't either

To answer some of the questions... I haven't confided in anyone. I have read a lot online and navigated through bi/gay forums including this one, but I haven't confided in anyone. All my friends are back in California, and I really don't have anyone to confide in here. When I return home, whenever that is, I will tell the people I want to tell and I expect for them to be supportive but also probably give me a lot of shit cuz that's how they are haha

 

[ElBarto]

I"m "on the down low" as they say

 

[Reality101]

Do you protect yourself?

 

[mnpervert]

I am out to most but its not a conversation starter. My mother and sister know. Any woman I have dated for longer than a day knows. My ex wife knew and she was too, we shared and played a lot.
Current wife knows I have dated men and women, she has seen pics/vids of me with men and she basically said it doenst do anything for her.

 

[wolfypdx]

If I hadn't been in the Air Force for 9 years and a defense contractor for another 2, it's likely that I would never have been fully closeted. I came out as "maybe bi" to a female fuck buddy when I was 22, long before I ever did anything serious with a guy, and came out to some other friends at the same time. Then I enlisted, and I lived in fear that one of those people I came out to would let it slip before the wrong person. I was completely closeted for the next 11 years. And celibate.

After that period, I started coming out as bi (not "maybe bi" anymore) for several years. Friends only were on the "out" list. When I started identifying as gay, though, I became less concerned about being out. I knew I was gay even if I hadn't been with a man yet, and I didn't really care who knew. Except family.

I never officially came out to my family, but everyone knows it now. I've been publicly out on Facebook since around 2009, and the entire family has accounts. They never let me know they knew, and that led to our estrangement.

 

[72-Jay]

There are a few people that atleast have some idea I'm not straight...I've never specifically told anyone I'm bi.. but there are a couple former co-workers & a family member who know I go to pride..
Though for the most part I'm not out.

 

[wolfypdx]

Being out makes a big difference in how you feel about yourself and avoids the need to lie or hide who you're fucking or getting the hots for. Every time I came out to somebody, it felt like a heavy weight had been lifted from shoulders, and the more willing I became to out myself, the lighter that weight felt until only family remained. When I announced to one and all Facebook that I was gay and proud, even that weight disappeared. (Unfortunately, that weight became heavier because my family didn't react well. I remain completely estranged from them aa a result.)

 

[Tscoocho]

I don't really want to make a timeline ,ahaha!

But I'm a closeted gay guy. Anyway, I knew I was gay for quite awhile, but I always thought myself as possibly bi. I don't know... I really don't want to label myself since I'm still interested in women in certain situations, heh.

Anyway, I'm currently 20 and still maintain that "Straight" cover even though I think I do a terrible job. I don't even say I'm straight, but people will just assume. I was told that I look like one of those straight guys who act gay by wearing those brands like aeropostale, hahaha! I don't know if that's a compliment, but I kinda feel disappointed because everyone has an image that if you're gay you need to wear this and if you're straight you wear this. :/

Anyway the first friend I confided in was my friend who I knew I wouldn't be seeing for another year. Knowing that she's a strong woman, I thought she would be the best person to first confide within. Now she knows that I'm gay...for now...haha...and she was surprised. She said her "gaydar" is normally right but she never suspected me. She doesn't care since she's bi and currently engaged to a nice girl, so I'm just happy that she's very supportive.

I guess I've confided to guys I hooked up with inthe past as well. AHAHA. It's pathetic...but I hooked up with a couple of guys...we ended up being very good long distance friends. Nothing really between us but just texting and catching up with shit. Eh, I guesst these guys don't count much..huh?

I won't be telling my family any time soon. I need to support myself before that goes down. Why? Everyone says that they'd still support their child no matter what till the circumstances involve THEIR child. Kind of pessimistic, but I'm being careful . I'm apparently good at being a straight guy -.- so I'll just keep up the cover. Though I don't know how people don't figure this shit out and confront me if I haven't had a girlfriend yet. I guess they think I'm just picky. lol

Totally closeted. No one knows. I've come close to spilling the beans as it really turns me on just discussing sex. Whether gay or straight. I want to confess my urning for dick(s). I've noticed that I've really become sexually attractive towards others dicks well any dick. I feel that I've slipped more to the gayer site of life. I am now 60% gay and just 40% straight. I feel good about it but am not able to share my feelings. In my profession being gay is really frowned upon. Don't want to jeopardize my relations at work. I rely on others for back-up alot and well I'm afraid of what the consequences of this action.

 

[snakeeater1]

I’m a bi guy who is still in the closet, all my straight friend think I’m Straight. All my gay friends know that I suck cocks!.. I did tell my wife after 5 years of marriage that I was bi, but never told her what I did with other men! She never asked me either, I kind of think that she really didn’t want to know…

 

[BiBtm64]

I'm bisexual and I'm totally closeted, mainly because I lean more toward straight on the spectrum, I don't date guys, I just enjoy sex with guys, so nobody needs to know. It's not so much a secret, more just that I don't see any point of releasing that kind of information about myself.

 

[beaxhbottom303]

At this point , it’s been 6 years..I’ve stopped caring about the unknown or whatever. From my experience, in reality, not imagination… nobody really cares and if they did who cares. I was closeted but it’s valid I’ve been enjoying men fuck my ass and suck their dicks..I don’t “broadcast” it but also don’t hide it. There’s been a couple guys I invited over to get them off and while I suggested to keep it quiet lol, that never happens. Eventually they begin pounded my ass and it gets loud, and I just take It, which is actually sexy. My neighbors have absolutely had to hear me getting dick..