Closet gay/bi dudes, are you 100% in the closet or do a few people know?

[NICETIGHTBUTT]

I have alwaybs been straight but I think about guys all the time. I always fantasize about a guy sucking my cock, rimming my ass and giving me a bare ass spanking..Haven't worked up the balls yet to make this happen!

 

[jaycee style]

you're gonna have a tuff time achieving these acts (with someone safe) without dating establishing compatibility first.

maybe i'm just an older person that's losing my libido, but there's more than just the sex.

 

[dilligas69]

I would have to say I was 13-14 when I had a sleep over and my buddy let me play with his dick.. i liked it and was too shy to talk to the other girls.. so this worked.. I was about 14 when I had another friend sleep over who I think was pretending to be sleeping, but i kept touching him and he got hard.. so i did what felt right and got up and sat on his dick and it slipped in.. it felt good.. and i knew I was hooked.. had a couple other play mates through school. then nothing else till I was about 25..

The wife and i were discussing things we had done and I just told her that it was something I was interested in.. we found a guy for a threesome and she wanted me to suck him.. so i did... I have been open with her ever since...

No one at work knows... but I have a few playmates that i hook up with a couple times a month for oral and other play.. they are all married guys and their wives dont know...

 

[Vicward]

I've only told a few girls I've dated (who are also bi or at least curious).

 

[BeMused]

I'm bi and basically out to most of my friends. It's not the sort of thing I go around advertising "Hi! I'm BI!" but I don't really hide it either. I am in the closet with my family, but that could change shortly...

 

[blackbeltninja]

Four good friends of mine know, as well as the guys I've been with.

Do the others suspect? No idea. One of the 4 (he is gay) said he suspected, but his gaydar is second to none so I'm probably more surprised than I should be.

One or two people have said things which have made me wonder - an old friend of mine said something the other day along the lines of "I know you and he (he being my current gym partner and one of our poker buddies) aren't a couple, but any time we get together for dinner or anything you can consider him on the guest list."

The other day my mom casually mentioned something about me being single and I should hurry up and find a boyfriend or girlfriend (in that order) and get on with it, which threw me something chronic.

-d-

 

[JustJayZ]

K So maybe ya'll can help me with this.
I sent a forward to my friend through a text that said, "its the end of 2009, so confess to me one thing that you've always wanted to say to me. You'll be surprised the kinds of confessions you'll get." So then I sent it to him and he texts me back saying "Ok. I've always been physically attracted to you." We were both on the same high school soccer team together and a lot of the guys thought he was a little gay. But I am fine with it cause I'm curious. But ANYWAY. Then I text him back and said "Serious? Thats cool." Trying to act like it wasn't a big deal, I just wanted to know cause I've had a thing for him since we started playing soccer together. Then he said "Dude you can't be taking this serious."
I said "I thought you were serious cause I dont care if you swing that way or not"
he Says "I was joking around."
Then I said well I'm secure enough in my sexuality (which I'm not) to say that I think your a good looking guy. So whats the big deal?"
he then says " Its not at all a matter of security its a matter of morality. (He's Mormon)"
Then I say" Are you saying that I dont have morals? I'm not saying I think your hot or anything cause I dont swing that way. I just thought you were being serious."
He then says "You know I've always liked girls and no all I'm saying is I already knew you were gay by the things you say (which I dont say anything different) and the way you act (he doesn't know what hes talking about) and I completely disagree witht he whole issue, its nothing personal."

Ok so that was our conversation and now hes not texting me back at all. I'm irritated cause he is ruining our somewhat of a friendship. But what do you think he is. do you think he really is somewhat attracted to me or what? He is always going around feeling mine and other guys arms cause he likes how big they are and how they feel. But he is big himself too. Help me please!

 

[Lefty]

Z, you don't need that sanctimonious bastard in your friend circle because he is not a friend or friend material.

As far as this closet bull shit goes. I don't believe in closets and I don't believe it is anyones fucking business what I do or don't do in my personal life unless I am doing it with them.

Okay, throw your slings and arrows but it is how I feel. I don't care who or what you sleep with and you shouldn't care what I do either.

Oops, didn't mean to almost slip into rant mode there

 

[youngnihilist]

it is other people's business to know. Humans are sexual beings. When you even get somewhat close to another human, sex is brought up, and it does matter what gender you're fucking.

 

[Lefty]

ok youngster, it does matter yes, it does matter

BETWEEN the Fuckor and the Fuckee it matters. Nobody elses business. Bowel movements matter too but do you share them around?

 

[miguelfukt]

just come out already. dont be afraid! im completely gaY and completely out!

 

[Lefty]

Thats fine miguel

but are you regular?

do they float?

color and texture consistent?

any blood there or in urine?

shake penis more than twice after peeing?

sit to pee?

double wipe and wash hands?

come on now, PEOPLE need to know.

(too sarcastic this time???)

 

[youngnihilist]

that kind of comparison doesn't work. people identify themsleves in society. are you an american? a male? a white? a gay? yes to all the above, right?

sexuality is a marker just like nationality, ethnicity, class, gender. sure, not everyone has to know these things, but anyone you're decently close to should know your sexuality, otherwise they are missing out on a huge part of you.

 

[Lefty]

Anyone decently close (by my definition) does know....and my definition is

primarily those who are or will be affected by it. JMHO, not looking for a cat box

situation here.

 

[SilverWolf]

I'm bisexual and I'm out to my mom and thats it. Nobody to tell.

If I had friends, I would be out to them.

But its rather obvious I'm not 100% straight and if people/classmates ask me I will tell them, but no one does.

My facebook profile says I'm interested in men only. And nobody asks me if I like men on there.

 

[Lefty]

wolfie sweetie, they aren't going to ask if you have already told. Now go finish out your profile so we at least know what part of the country/world you are in and lets make some friends....


if you are desperate and don't mind a smart ass cocky ego freak that is always going for the funny line, you can start with me...there really are a bunch of nice guys here

 

[SilverWolf]

wolfie sweetie, they aren't going to ask if you have already told. Now go finish out your profile so we at least know what part of the country/world you are in and lets make some friends....


if you are desperate and don't mind a smart ass cocky ego freak that is always going for the funny line, you can start with me...there really are a bunch of nice guys here

Well thanks Lefty
I filled out my profile, I'm in the US, Midwest, Illinois

 

[Lefty]

Good job friend. Now, you just post and watch and ck your comments/ p.m.'s frequently. Remember to have friends you need to be one.

I like you.

 

[cesco]

first learned like most when i was about 15 that i was turned on by guys as well as women. did the married thing staying monogomous (spelled right?)
when i got divorced went on a dick hunt...it was great and i still fantasize about truly coming out,but am back with a woman who is wonderful.
for some reason i just cant come out, my life wouldbe infinitelyeasier.
i applaud all that do comeo out, even envy your strength.
well...back to surfing

 

[synch]

13 - I realized I liked more than just girls.

18 - Had my first male relationship. I told my older sister I was Bi...only because she listened in on my phone call with my BF.

23/24 - Pretty sure two of my friends saw porn I accidently left on my laptop when they used it...they acted strange afterwards. One now even defends against people talking bad against gay people.

27 - Still in the closet I guess. People have to know but they ask if I am gay, and I am not. Actually only one person asks. It's like she is obsessed about who is gay or straight or bi which makes me deny it all the more. I also don't want to be given that extra label for them to describe me. I then cycle back to the "How does it affect them who I am with?" argument followed with a "Why are you in my business?".