dhchitown1984
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Looking for some direction, or at least see if people had a similiar experience:
I recently came out over the summer. My good friend is just starting his coming-out process and he has an old friend/former colleague who at the very least is 10-12 years older than us. I've always felt uncomfortable around him, and assumed he was gay. Never asked prior to coming out, and right after I came out, he began making jokes about it in front of others... and the petty, immature jokes like "Well, that's because you have that gay problem" or comments like "yeah, thats a typical pillow biter reaction" I mean, come on?! You're nearing 40!
About two months ago, I found his profle on a popular gay "social-networking site." He had a face picture up this time. What made it creepier was the fact that there was this faceless man on a profile that had come up in my "recently viewed" at least twice a week for about a year. The at-the-time unidentified man had the age "69" posted, so and no face picture, and he would send me creepy emails about wanting to meet up with me, and I never responded... the whole thing was just odd. Now, I find out it's this guy who is friends with my buddy.
He noticed I checked out his profile after his face picture was posted and he simply emailed me with "Nobody can know!" and I replied with "I won't out you, that's not my style."
Next time I see him, he goes off on the gay jokes again. Now, this man is not super-effeminate, but like most, people assumed he was gay.... nearing 40, never talking about a girlfriend, or pointing out a hot girl nearby. So I pulled him aside after the third or fourth comment and I told him that it wasn't cool... it wasn't cool before I knew his little secret, and it certainly wasn't cool now. I told him that I'm not going to sit there and out him to everybody, but at the same time, the jokes have to stop. They since haven't.
Anyone have to deal with someone who was in the closet, you both knew each other was gay, and he still made anti-gay jokes?
I recently came out over the summer. My good friend is just starting his coming-out process and he has an old friend/former colleague who at the very least is 10-12 years older than us. I've always felt uncomfortable around him, and assumed he was gay. Never asked prior to coming out, and right after I came out, he began making jokes about it in front of others... and the petty, immature jokes like "Well, that's because you have that gay problem" or comments like "yeah, thats a typical pillow biter reaction" I mean, come on?! You're nearing 40!
About two months ago, I found his profle on a popular gay "social-networking site." He had a face picture up this time. What made it creepier was the fact that there was this faceless man on a profile that had come up in my "recently viewed" at least twice a week for about a year. The at-the-time unidentified man had the age "69" posted, so and no face picture, and he would send me creepy emails about wanting to meet up with me, and I never responded... the whole thing was just odd. Now, I find out it's this guy who is friends with my buddy.
He noticed I checked out his profile after his face picture was posted and he simply emailed me with "Nobody can know!" and I replied with "I won't out you, that's not my style."
Next time I see him, he goes off on the gay jokes again. Now, this man is not super-effeminate, but like most, people assumed he was gay.... nearing 40, never talking about a girlfriend, or pointing out a hot girl nearby. So I pulled him aside after the third or fourth comment and I told him that it wasn't cool... it wasn't cool before I knew his little secret, and it certainly wasn't cool now. I told him that I'm not going to sit there and out him to everybody, but at the same time, the jokes have to stop. They since haven't.
Anyone have to deal with someone who was in the closet, you both knew each other was gay, and he still made anti-gay jokes?
