Finally Came Out Of The Closet Running
Finally Came Out Of The Closet Running
By Kevin – unoponcho
Note: Hopefully some of my stories contain some moral characteristics. This story is based on a true story about a couple of college classmates of mine. Their names have been changed and many liberties have been taken making the story fictional. The story involves sex but not descriptive sexual acts. The purpose of my writing and telling the story is with the hopes that there may be a message and a lesson that will be learned by the younger generation that hopefully will read the story.
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It was in 1951 when Ray, Gary and I first met. We had just transferred to a small state teachers college. We were in our junior year. It was during the Korean War and men our age that were not in college were being drafted into the Army. All the male students knew that if the war was not over by the time we graduated that we would be drafted into the service.
Back in that time the words gay or faggot was not used to describe homosexuals. It was a number of years later that these terms began to be used. The word queer was the common expression. It was absolutely necessary for homosexuals to stay in the closet. If it became known that a male was a homosexual, he was ostracized by the community, and of course was immediately expelled from college. Jobs and professions for known homosexuals were almost nonexistent. Therefore, if two men had sex together, it was necessary that they keep it a deep dark secret between the two of them. This of course made it difficult for homosexuals to even meet or to feel at ease to come out to each other.
Because of this homophobic atmosphere and attitude influenced homosexuals to strive to live as if they were heterosexuals, and caused many of them to date girls and even get married to cover up their homosexual tendencies and sexual desires.
Ray and Gary became best friends and were in the same fraternity. They had some classes together. They ate their meals at the same time, studied together, and even double dated with each other.
I only knew Ray and Gary causally during our junior year. I was in a different fraternity than they were and I never had any classes with them. During our senior year our paths crossed more frequently. We were friends, but nothing compared to the close friendship that Ray and Gary had.
After graduation in 1952 Ray and Gary married the girls that they had been going with. They had a double wedding ceremony. I attended their weddings. Four weeks later the three of us were drafted into the Army and each where sent to different Army bases for basic training to prepare us to be sent to the war in Korea.
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For the next fifty years Ray, Gary and I kept in touch with each other. At first we wrote each other fairly frequently and gradually over the years they only exchanged Christmas cards with me. I did not know much about their lives nor did they know about mind. I did know that Ray’s wife had died about twenty years ago, and Gary and his wife got a divorce about the same time.
Every five years our graduating class had a reunion. I never had a desire or reason to attend until our fiftieth reunion in 2002. Both Ray and Gary called me and asked that I meet them at the reunion. I finally agreed to go primarily to visit with Ray and Gary. I told them that I was bringing a friend. They made room reservations for us at a hotel. Ray and Gary were going to share a room and my room was next door to theirs.
As soon as Matt, my better half for forty years, and I had checked in to our hotel room, I called Ray and Gary’s room. They told me that as soon as we got settled in to come to their room, and have drinks before we went down stairs where the opening reunion dinner was to take place.
I was apprehensive about introducing Matt as my partner. I had no idea how Ray and Gary were going to take the news that I am gay. I was prepared to pack up and go back home if they could not accept me as being a homosexual.
Shortly after I knock on their door, Ray opened the door and let us in. Even though we had not seen each other for almost fifty years we recognized each other. We shook hands and hugged each other. I put my arm around Matt’s waist and introduced him to Ray and Gary. Each of them shook Matt’s hand, and then Gary looked at me and then at Ray and back at me and asked me how long Matt and I had been together. I told them for forty years. They both started laughing. I had no idea why they were laughing. They would stop laughing and look at each other and start laughing again. Finally I asked them what was so damn funny. Ray explained that neither he nor Gary ever thought that I was gay. Gary then told me that he and Ray had been lovers for the past twenty years, and they did not know how I was going to react when I found out that they were bisexuals.
With the ice being broken and everything was in the open we all relaxed and set down with our drinks and started talking. We started bring each other up to date as to what all had transpired in our lives for the past fifty years. I thought that Matt was bored to tears, but latter he told me that enjoyed getting to know Ray and Gary and had learned some things about me that I had never told him. Matt and I had never been a heavy drinker and I do not believe that Ray and Gary were either. But after three drinks and it was time to go for dinner, all of us were feeling the effects of the alcohol that we had consumed.
When we got downstairs and went to the ballroom where the dinner was going to be served, we registered, got our nametags, and went in and found a table. I had seen several names on nametags that I vaguely recognized the name but not the person. Age had taken its toll on all of us. We were seated at a round table that would accommodate ten people. People were coming in and finding tables and setting down. Some of the classmates were recognizing each other and were hugging and kissing. Four people sat down at our table and one of them was the former president of my fraternity and his wife and another one was the former head cheerleader and his wife. We all greeted each other and said the appropriate things that would have been expected. The final couple that set down at our table was the former quarterback of the football team and his wife. The former quarterback was a fraternity brother of Ray and Gary. Most of the people there had the advantage over me. Most of them had attended several or all of the previous reunions.
The president of our class got everyone’s attention and asked one of our classmates who had become a minister to return thanks. The meal was served and as we ate everyone were talking and laughing. When everyone had finished their meals, the president got everyone’s attention again. He made several remarks one of which he called attention to a list at each of our tables of the known deceased classmates. He told us that the attendance at this reunion was about half what it was at the last reunion. There were 74 classmates, plus their spouses or guest, present. He asked that each of us stand up and introduce ourselves, state where we were living, and introduce our spouses or guests.
The introductions started at the table on our far left. When it came time for our table to introduce ourselves, I stood up and announce whom I was, where I lived, and then I introduced Matt as my forty-year spouse. You could have heard a pin drop. There was a complete dead silence that seemed to have lasted forever. Then the president of my fraternity started clapping. Suddenly the majority of those present were standing up clapping. The president of my fraternity reached across the table and shook my hand and then Matt’s followed by the quarterback and cheerleader. Finally everyone set back down and it was Ray and Gary’s turn to introduce themselves. They both stood up together and each stated their names then Ray stated where they lived and had been together for twenty years. Again everyone stood up and clapped, but not as long as they did for Matt and I.
After everyone had introduced themselves, the president made a few announcements and went over the schedule of events that would take place the next day before the ending dinner the next night. He called everyone attention that there was an open cash bar where everyone could purchase the drink of their choice and invited everyone to stick around to mingle and visit with each other.
We all started standing up and Gary suggested that we go back to their room and he would be the bartender. We just thought that we were going to leave. Our former classmates started gathering around us shaking our hands, hugging and the female classmates were kissing us on our cheeks and congratulating us. It was thirty minutes or so before we were able to slip away. We never dreamed that we would receive such a reaction and acceptance. It was amazing to us how over the fifty years that their attitudes had changed and were accepting homosexuals. Gary commented that we were being treated as if we were celebrities.
Once we got back to Gary and Ray’s room, we kicked off our shoes, took off our coats and ties, unbuttoned our shirts, and got comfortable. Matt took over as bartender, and made sure that everyone had a drink if they wanted one for the next several hours that we talked and visited with each other.
Gary and Ray alternated in telling me about their lives. Gary told me that while we were in college that both he and Ray had a thing for each other, but that neither of them would ever come out and tell each other that they were sexually attracted to one another. Both of them knew that they were possibly gay or bi, but simply did not have the courage to even admit it to themselves.
After they were discharged from the Army, they found jobs in their hometown. They both had homes about a half-mile from each other. They were still best of friends and both of their wives were friends. They ran around and did things together. They never lost their sexual attraction towards each other, but both of them never allowed themselves to act on it or express to each other how they felt towards each other.
Ray said that both he and Gary were faithful to their wives during their marriages. It was Gary’s wife that was not faithful to him and asked for a divorce so she could marry her boyfriend. Neither Ray nor Gary had any children. Ray and his wife wanted children but his wife could not get pregnant. Gary’s wife flat refused to even try to get pregnant and always used the pill.
Ray’s wife became ill and a week later she passed away. A week after Ray’s wife’s funeral, Gary’s wife announced that she wanted a divorce and moved out to live with her boyfriend. Ray was devastated over loosing his wife and Gary was despondent by finding out that his wife had been unfaithful and was filing for a divorce. Ray and Gary tried to console each other.
Six weeks later Ray suggested to Gary that they attend the thirty-year class reunion (1982). This would be the first reunion that they had attended since graduation. Gary was not particularly interested until Ray told him that they could share the same hotel room. Gary told me that they had occasionally seen each other naked when they would go to the gym or go swimming, but had never allowed themselves to make a move on each other.
Ray told me that he and Gary did go to the opening reunion dinner, but spent the majority of their time in their room during the whole weekend never participating in any of the other reunion activities. Neither of them went into any details as to what happened. Ray said that after they got back to their room after dinner without saying a word to each other that they were tearing the clothes off of each other and were making love to one another as if they were making up for the thirty-two years that they both had fantasized about each other. Of course neither of them had ever had gay sex before, but Gary said by the time the weekend was over that they had had both oral and anal sex in every position that was imaginable, and neither one of them had any idea how many orgasms that they had had.
While they were driving home from the reunion, Gary mentioned that he was going to have to sell his house because of the pending divorce in order to divide up the property between he and his soon to be ex-wife. Ray did not ask Gary, but told him that he was going to move in with him. Gary of course did not protest Ray’s ultimatum. Gary did move in and they have been together ever since. According to both of them their friendships and love for each other have become stronger each year that they had been together.
It was well past mid-night when Gary and Ray had finished telling Matt and I about themselves. When Matt and I left their room they were taking each other’s clothes off and kissing each other. What took place after we left was probably equivalent to what Matt and I did when we got to our room.
It was close to eleven o’clock the next morning when Ray called and woke Matt and I up. Ray wanted to know if we wanted to go down stairs with them for lunch.
We did go for lunch with them and returned to our rooms. We had missed the reunion breakfast and activities for the morning and had chose to have lunch together rather than the reunion lunch. We had also decided to not attend the afternoon football game at the university. I can only assume that Ray and Gary did not do anything that afternoon that Matt and I did not do in our own bed.
We did attend the closing banquet or dinner but slipped out before the program began. We went to Ray and Gary’s room. Gary assumed the bartenders task. Ray and Gary wanted Matt and I to tell them about how we meet and about our lives together. We briefly told them the pertinent information.
It was again after mid-night before Matt and I returned to our room. Before we left Ray told us that they would give us a call the next morning so we could have lunch together before we checked out of the hotel to go home.
During lunch the four of us made a vow that we were going to keep in touch with each other. Gary made a statement that Matt and I could not agree to more. He said that even though he and Ray were old farts and senior citizens that they might not have sex as often as the younger generation, but when they had sex it was more satisfying and comparable to a young couple having sex six times. Most young people do not think that the older generation can get it up or have sex. We have had and have a lot of things going for us that the younger generation has yet or may never experience. Ray said that the younger generations still have a lot to learn.
For the past three years since the class reunion, either Ray and Gary called us at least every other week or Matt and I called them. We have taken our vacations together each year and they both came and stayed with Matt and I for several days two or three times a year or we would go to see them. We always spend the Christmas and New Years holiday at one or the others homes. We have discussed going to our next class reunion in 2007. We have about decided that it would be a waste of time. If we went, we would probably spend most of our time making whoopee in our beds in the hotel room.
The last time I spoke to Ray and Gary, Ray made a statement. He said, “Gary and I were late coming out of the closet, but we came out running and we have not slowed down yet.”
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The moral to this story is to not discount the older generation. Not only respect your elders, but also give them an occasional hug. We have a lot of love, compassion, experience and friendship to share with our younger friends and families. I have heard several gay men about my age say that the younger folks treat them and other elderly people like they have the plague or something. They said that they could go for weeks and the younger people never talked to them. To them or any senior citizen whether they are gay, straight, male of female, just a friendly smile and a pat on their shoulder or hand would make their day brighter. I do hope my story was not boring. I have tried to make my points, and I hope that they are well taken.
The End
Kevin
unoponcho
Finally Came Out Of The Closet Running
By Kevin – unoponcho
Note: Hopefully some of my stories contain some moral characteristics. This story is based on a true story about a couple of college classmates of mine. Their names have been changed and many liberties have been taken making the story fictional. The story involves sex but not descriptive sexual acts. The purpose of my writing and telling the story is with the hopes that there may be a message and a lesson that will be learned by the younger generation that hopefully will read the story.
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It was in 1951 when Ray, Gary and I first met. We had just transferred to a small state teachers college. We were in our junior year. It was during the Korean War and men our age that were not in college were being drafted into the Army. All the male students knew that if the war was not over by the time we graduated that we would be drafted into the service.
Back in that time the words gay or faggot was not used to describe homosexuals. It was a number of years later that these terms began to be used. The word queer was the common expression. It was absolutely necessary for homosexuals to stay in the closet. If it became known that a male was a homosexual, he was ostracized by the community, and of course was immediately expelled from college. Jobs and professions for known homosexuals were almost nonexistent. Therefore, if two men had sex together, it was necessary that they keep it a deep dark secret between the two of them. This of course made it difficult for homosexuals to even meet or to feel at ease to come out to each other.
Because of this homophobic atmosphere and attitude influenced homosexuals to strive to live as if they were heterosexuals, and caused many of them to date girls and even get married to cover up their homosexual tendencies and sexual desires.
Ray and Gary became best friends and were in the same fraternity. They had some classes together. They ate their meals at the same time, studied together, and even double dated with each other.
I only knew Ray and Gary causally during our junior year. I was in a different fraternity than they were and I never had any classes with them. During our senior year our paths crossed more frequently. We were friends, but nothing compared to the close friendship that Ray and Gary had.
After graduation in 1952 Ray and Gary married the girls that they had been going with. They had a double wedding ceremony. I attended their weddings. Four weeks later the three of us were drafted into the Army and each where sent to different Army bases for basic training to prepare us to be sent to the war in Korea.
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For the next fifty years Ray, Gary and I kept in touch with each other. At first we wrote each other fairly frequently and gradually over the years they only exchanged Christmas cards with me. I did not know much about their lives nor did they know about mind. I did know that Ray’s wife had died about twenty years ago, and Gary and his wife got a divorce about the same time.
Every five years our graduating class had a reunion. I never had a desire or reason to attend until our fiftieth reunion in 2002. Both Ray and Gary called me and asked that I meet them at the reunion. I finally agreed to go primarily to visit with Ray and Gary. I told them that I was bringing a friend. They made room reservations for us at a hotel. Ray and Gary were going to share a room and my room was next door to theirs.
As soon as Matt, my better half for forty years, and I had checked in to our hotel room, I called Ray and Gary’s room. They told me that as soon as we got settled in to come to their room, and have drinks before we went down stairs where the opening reunion dinner was to take place.
I was apprehensive about introducing Matt as my partner. I had no idea how Ray and Gary were going to take the news that I am gay. I was prepared to pack up and go back home if they could not accept me as being a homosexual.
Shortly after I knock on their door, Ray opened the door and let us in. Even though we had not seen each other for almost fifty years we recognized each other. We shook hands and hugged each other. I put my arm around Matt’s waist and introduced him to Ray and Gary. Each of them shook Matt’s hand, and then Gary looked at me and then at Ray and back at me and asked me how long Matt and I had been together. I told them for forty years. They both started laughing. I had no idea why they were laughing. They would stop laughing and look at each other and start laughing again. Finally I asked them what was so damn funny. Ray explained that neither he nor Gary ever thought that I was gay. Gary then told me that he and Ray had been lovers for the past twenty years, and they did not know how I was going to react when I found out that they were bisexuals.
With the ice being broken and everything was in the open we all relaxed and set down with our drinks and started talking. We started bring each other up to date as to what all had transpired in our lives for the past fifty years. I thought that Matt was bored to tears, but latter he told me that enjoyed getting to know Ray and Gary and had learned some things about me that I had never told him. Matt and I had never been a heavy drinker and I do not believe that Ray and Gary were either. But after three drinks and it was time to go for dinner, all of us were feeling the effects of the alcohol that we had consumed.
When we got downstairs and went to the ballroom where the dinner was going to be served, we registered, got our nametags, and went in and found a table. I had seen several names on nametags that I vaguely recognized the name but not the person. Age had taken its toll on all of us. We were seated at a round table that would accommodate ten people. People were coming in and finding tables and setting down. Some of the classmates were recognizing each other and were hugging and kissing. Four people sat down at our table and one of them was the former president of my fraternity and his wife and another one was the former head cheerleader and his wife. We all greeted each other and said the appropriate things that would have been expected. The final couple that set down at our table was the former quarterback of the football team and his wife. The former quarterback was a fraternity brother of Ray and Gary. Most of the people there had the advantage over me. Most of them had attended several or all of the previous reunions.
The president of our class got everyone’s attention and asked one of our classmates who had become a minister to return thanks. The meal was served and as we ate everyone were talking and laughing. When everyone had finished their meals, the president got everyone’s attention again. He made several remarks one of which he called attention to a list at each of our tables of the known deceased classmates. He told us that the attendance at this reunion was about half what it was at the last reunion. There were 74 classmates, plus their spouses or guest, present. He asked that each of us stand up and introduce ourselves, state where we were living, and introduce our spouses or guests.
The introductions started at the table on our far left. When it came time for our table to introduce ourselves, I stood up and announce whom I was, where I lived, and then I introduced Matt as my forty-year spouse. You could have heard a pin drop. There was a complete dead silence that seemed to have lasted forever. Then the president of my fraternity started clapping. Suddenly the majority of those present were standing up clapping. The president of my fraternity reached across the table and shook my hand and then Matt’s followed by the quarterback and cheerleader. Finally everyone set back down and it was Ray and Gary’s turn to introduce themselves. They both stood up together and each stated their names then Ray stated where they lived and had been together for twenty years. Again everyone stood up and clapped, but not as long as they did for Matt and I.
After everyone had introduced themselves, the president made a few announcements and went over the schedule of events that would take place the next day before the ending dinner the next night. He called everyone attention that there was an open cash bar where everyone could purchase the drink of their choice and invited everyone to stick around to mingle and visit with each other.
We all started standing up and Gary suggested that we go back to their room and he would be the bartender. We just thought that we were going to leave. Our former classmates started gathering around us shaking our hands, hugging and the female classmates were kissing us on our cheeks and congratulating us. It was thirty minutes or so before we were able to slip away. We never dreamed that we would receive such a reaction and acceptance. It was amazing to us how over the fifty years that their attitudes had changed and were accepting homosexuals. Gary commented that we were being treated as if we were celebrities.
Once we got back to Gary and Ray’s room, we kicked off our shoes, took off our coats and ties, unbuttoned our shirts, and got comfortable. Matt took over as bartender, and made sure that everyone had a drink if they wanted one for the next several hours that we talked and visited with each other.
Gary and Ray alternated in telling me about their lives. Gary told me that while we were in college that both he and Ray had a thing for each other, but that neither of them would ever come out and tell each other that they were sexually attracted to one another. Both of them knew that they were possibly gay or bi, but simply did not have the courage to even admit it to themselves.
After they were discharged from the Army, they found jobs in their hometown. They both had homes about a half-mile from each other. They were still best of friends and both of their wives were friends. They ran around and did things together. They never lost their sexual attraction towards each other, but both of them never allowed themselves to act on it or express to each other how they felt towards each other.
Ray said that both he and Gary were faithful to their wives during their marriages. It was Gary’s wife that was not faithful to him and asked for a divorce so she could marry her boyfriend. Neither Ray nor Gary had any children. Ray and his wife wanted children but his wife could not get pregnant. Gary’s wife flat refused to even try to get pregnant and always used the pill.
Ray’s wife became ill and a week later she passed away. A week after Ray’s wife’s funeral, Gary’s wife announced that she wanted a divorce and moved out to live with her boyfriend. Ray was devastated over loosing his wife and Gary was despondent by finding out that his wife had been unfaithful and was filing for a divorce. Ray and Gary tried to console each other.
Six weeks later Ray suggested to Gary that they attend the thirty-year class reunion (1982). This would be the first reunion that they had attended since graduation. Gary was not particularly interested until Ray told him that they could share the same hotel room. Gary told me that they had occasionally seen each other naked when they would go to the gym or go swimming, but had never allowed themselves to make a move on each other.
Ray told me that he and Gary did go to the opening reunion dinner, but spent the majority of their time in their room during the whole weekend never participating in any of the other reunion activities. Neither of them went into any details as to what happened. Ray said that after they got back to their room after dinner without saying a word to each other that they were tearing the clothes off of each other and were making love to one another as if they were making up for the thirty-two years that they both had fantasized about each other. Of course neither of them had ever had gay sex before, but Gary said by the time the weekend was over that they had had both oral and anal sex in every position that was imaginable, and neither one of them had any idea how many orgasms that they had had.
While they were driving home from the reunion, Gary mentioned that he was going to have to sell his house because of the pending divorce in order to divide up the property between he and his soon to be ex-wife. Ray did not ask Gary, but told him that he was going to move in with him. Gary of course did not protest Ray’s ultimatum. Gary did move in and they have been together ever since. According to both of them their friendships and love for each other have become stronger each year that they had been together.
It was well past mid-night when Gary and Ray had finished telling Matt and I about themselves. When Matt and I left their room they were taking each other’s clothes off and kissing each other. What took place after we left was probably equivalent to what Matt and I did when we got to our room.
It was close to eleven o’clock the next morning when Ray called and woke Matt and I up. Ray wanted to know if we wanted to go down stairs with them for lunch.
We did go for lunch with them and returned to our rooms. We had missed the reunion breakfast and activities for the morning and had chose to have lunch together rather than the reunion lunch. We had also decided to not attend the afternoon football game at the university. I can only assume that Ray and Gary did not do anything that afternoon that Matt and I did not do in our own bed.
We did attend the closing banquet or dinner but slipped out before the program began. We went to Ray and Gary’s room. Gary assumed the bartenders task. Ray and Gary wanted Matt and I to tell them about how we meet and about our lives together. We briefly told them the pertinent information.
It was again after mid-night before Matt and I returned to our room. Before we left Ray told us that they would give us a call the next morning so we could have lunch together before we checked out of the hotel to go home.
During lunch the four of us made a vow that we were going to keep in touch with each other. Gary made a statement that Matt and I could not agree to more. He said that even though he and Ray were old farts and senior citizens that they might not have sex as often as the younger generation, but when they had sex it was more satisfying and comparable to a young couple having sex six times. Most young people do not think that the older generation can get it up or have sex. We have had and have a lot of things going for us that the younger generation has yet or may never experience. Ray said that the younger generations still have a lot to learn.
For the past three years since the class reunion, either Ray and Gary called us at least every other week or Matt and I called them. We have taken our vacations together each year and they both came and stayed with Matt and I for several days two or three times a year or we would go to see them. We always spend the Christmas and New Years holiday at one or the others homes. We have discussed going to our next class reunion in 2007. We have about decided that it would be a waste of time. If we went, we would probably spend most of our time making whoopee in our beds in the hotel room.
The last time I spoke to Ray and Gary, Ray made a statement. He said, “Gary and I were late coming out of the closet, but we came out running and we have not slowed down yet.”
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The moral to this story is to not discount the older generation. Not only respect your elders, but also give them an occasional hug. We have a lot of love, compassion, experience and friendship to share with our younger friends and families. I have heard several gay men about my age say that the younger folks treat them and other elderly people like they have the plague or something. They said that they could go for weeks and the younger people never talked to them. To them or any senior citizen whether they are gay, straight, male of female, just a friendly smile and a pat on their shoulder or hand would make their day brighter. I do hope my story was not boring. I have tried to make my points, and I hope that they are well taken.
The End
Kevin
unoponcho























